Visiting friend brought a man home.

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Not sure on this one. I live with dh in a little 2 bed. Friend has been staying with us all week whilst in our area with her work. We've had a lovely week. Last night she went out with some other people and brought a man home unannounced.

I feel really uncomfortable about this and also like it's a real cheek! She leaves today. We were going to have a nice breakfast but I dont want to make idle small talk with strangers in my own house first thing!

So... aibu to feel this way and wibu to say something?!

CheerfulYank - a strange man walking around your home and potentially into your bedroom is OK for you? It's not about being a prude, it's about safety. The friend can take what risks she wants in her own home, but not in someone else's.

toasted

why did you tell your friend it was hard to sleep with a stranger next door when you said you were already asleep when they got back? Just to make her feel bad?

I imagine because her husband woke her up to tell her her Tramp of a friend had brought some random bloke back?

Tramp?
What a nasty post.

Tramp? Bloody hell

There is nothing wrong with women having a ONS. Or several a week if she so desired.

As someone said days and days ago, it's about not inviting someone back to someone else's home. Whether that's to play scrabble or swing from the chandelier.

Tramp!

How bloody rude

I totally agree that having a ONS is perfectly acceptable (have had plenty of my own) however getting pissed up and bringing a stranger back to the home of friends in which you are a guest is Tramp behaviour.

That is my opinion , (if you don't like that one I have others)

I don't see that Webster or Urban dictionaries agree with that definition.

"Woman who invites random men to sleep at friend's house without her consent."

Erm Urban dictionary does. (along with more unpleasant ones too)

No, it doesn't.

Or did you just add it?

My favourite perfume as a teenager was called Tramp. What were they thinking?

I once stayed overnight at my friend's party and discovered that I'd forgotten to bring clean knickers, so I sprayed Tramp liberally on the gusset of the ones from the night before. I don't know why - I'd only worn them for a few hours and I hadn't done anything bad like having sex. It was very embarrassing because the warmth made the scent rise on the way home when my dad came to pick me up in his car.

He didn't mention it, but the same company produced Tweed for my mum's generation - again, why? Perhaps she used to spray it on her gussets and he was used to it.

limited

I think you might be on the wrong fred

Great story though

Oh sorry, as you were ....

I thought it was meant for a different one about old brands

Is there an old brand one songbird? I'll hunt it down for my Tramp and Tweed memories plus Pagan Man aftershave for my dad.

It was a Christmas gift set. He was in no way the kind of man who'd club his wife on the head and drag her home to their cave by her hair but the talc came in handy when his corns were playing up.

If only MN had a facility to link.

One of the worst things about being in a student flat was knowing that someone could bring a total stranger back to the place and you might run into them on the landing in the wee small hours. Even worse, in the kitchen using the last of the milk for their post-coital cuppa!!

Having your own home means never having to experience that again.

Cheeky cow!

'why - I'd only worn them for a few hours and I hadn't done anything bad like having sex. '

Having sex is bad now? I can't keep up!

I'm questioning everything now.

I'm from Yorkshire.

I was married and now I'm not.

I have rather splendid casual sex. We do it at mine/his/hotels.

I would quite happily have a guest that is a couple stay here and they can do whatever the heck they like.

I would be pissed if a friend who was a guest picked up a random and brought him back without permission.

Surely the entire issue is about the fact that guest assumed it was ok for additional guests and not the fact she was having sex

Tramp and Tweed are nothing alike.
Tweed is the second worst perfume in the world.

Brands That Declined on Chat limited I mentioned Tramp I think

Holly - which 'fragrance' is the worst?! I once accidentally (very good sales assistant ...) bought myself Poison ( I thought Dior scents were ALL gorgeous until then). Luckiy it turned out that a friend on a student grant was hopelessly enamoured of a young woman who loved it. She didn't have much cash either so was delighted to have an opened but barely used bottle
Tweed used to make me sneeze but DM loved to liberally douse herself in it. After she died I used to wear her tartan mohair scarf as it smelled of Tweed so reminded me of DM.

PS She still didn't go out with him but was very grateful to both him and me!

It was a french perfume house brand in House of Fraser. I can't remember the name - it may have been a Serge Lutens tuberose. It was unbelievably awful.
I was traumatised by the scent after I sprayed myself liberally in the shop.
I never wver thought anything could smell worse than Tweed. But this was a million times worse.
Thierry Mugler Angel is awful too but nothing comes close to my most hated one.

Sex isn't bad but it's not always good

Oh, I've a couple of stories like this

First one was when I was sharing a flat. Friend came to stay for weekend and on Sat night we had a party. Friend copped off with one of my male flat mates. Then next day she completely ignored me, spent the day with him and he took her to the station in the evening. She never even said goodbye to me . Haven't had much to do with her since.

Second one was my DB. By this time had own house, DH 2 yr old DD and DS due in a couple of weeks. DB came to stay as he wanted to look for work in the area. After a week of no discernible effort to find work he went out on the piss at the weekend. At 3am i was woken by him stumbling up the stairs with a random woman in tow. Was clearly planning on shagging her in bedroom right next to DD's! Claimed he knew her but didn't even know her name! I bawled them both out and random woman stropped off into the night- I didn't try to stop her! One of the reasons I am NC with him now.

So, OP, definitely not BU. It's your house, bloody rude!

YANBU OP - It's your house and you have every right to feel uncomfortable.

As for those saying you wouldn't have batted an eyelid at that age - well I would've. I've just left my 20's and at no point would I think it acceptable that someone bring another guest into my house when they were a guest themselves. Call me old-fashioned or uptight, but it's wrong. I'd be absolutely furious if a guest done this to me in my own home, whether they were a good friend or not. It's unacceptable.

Lentheric. Just sayin