'We're' pregnant

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Obviously I'm an awful person aibu to bristle whenever someone says this?

I actually like it! Everything is changing for the man too. Yes he doesn't have to do the crap bits like sickness etc but he doesn't get the good bits like baby kicks. And if he's a good partner he should be doing extra around the house and doing nice things for you do he has an increased work load. I think of you are partners you are in it together!

I don't like it either OP. The man is not pregnant and his life more or less continues just as it did before until baby arrives. He can still do sport, drink alcohol, go out without people glaring at him because he doesn't comply with the latest dietary restriction on pregnant women.

Blimey, I really could not care less about this. Not my kind of saying but, sick in your mouth? Takes a hell of a lot more to get that reaction from me.

I think HowBad captures why I dislike it so much. Yes, great to get men more involved but what kind of selfish, self centred arse holes are out there that they're only going to give a shit about what their partner is going through (and the health of their baby) if they get a big pat on the back and acknowledged as though they are going through exactly the same when they just aren't. Pregnancy can be hard for both parties, trying to pretend it is the same experience for both parties won't help with that. And a man who needs to be bribed to get involved by being made to feel it is all about him will be a terrible parent.

It's obviously inaccurate, but so what.

Woman is pregnant, put her feet up and is being pampered for a few months whilst man is running around, working and taking care of everything and worrying about the future and how to take care of their unborn child. In some families, the woman can even become SAHM so avoid all the stress of work for a few years.

Pregnancy can totally be a team effort, why are some people so bitter about the role of men? Not everyone has an absent partner, thank god.

I can't stand it - so American
What if it is an American that says it?

i cant get upset at someone else's happiness and pride.

Very cringeworthy the mother is pregnant unless it is some amazing medical achievement

TBH I'm quite surprised (in a good way) at the responses on here, I expected more people to be okay with it. I thought maybe the reason it makes me cringe is because I'm a woman of a certain age and we never had this sort of nonsense when I was having babies and it was me who was most definitely the pregnant one in the relationship.

Never heard either my DD or her DP say we are pregnant - she''s about to give birth to their second child - and when she had awful mastitis when she was bf the first baby, oddly enough he didn't claim, 'we have mastitis', I would have smacked him across the head if he had :).

Makes me want to scream 'so your effing husband is pregnant too?'

I can't stand it either and totally agree that a man would never say 'we gave birth' so why 'we're pregnant'. Yuck.

I became intolerant of it when I had:
-To inject my leg for 34 weeks with anti coagulant (which causes painful bruising)
-Had multiple miscarriages in the past
-Lots of undignified fanjo scans
-Lots of looooong hospital visits
-Back pain
-My thyroid swelled to the size of an egg.

I did that shit, I was the ruddy pregnant one, OK??

Pregnancy can totally be a team effort, why are some people so bitter about the role of men?

Last time I checked, men don't gestate. Can we not minimise the wonder, risk, sacrifices etc even well supported women make by pretending men being helpful around something is men actually being something.

By that logic, Chris Packham is an actual squirrel.

Pregnancy can totally be a team effort, why are some people so bitter about the role of men?

Nothing bitter about acknowiedging the FACT that men do not get pregnant. Women do. Pregnancy is a biological process and it is not a team effort of any kind.

Men can be supportive of the pregnancy. But they are not pregnant.

Can we not minimise the wonder, risk, sacrifices etc even well supported women make by pretending men being helpful around something is men actually being something

Yes please.

I have about the most supportive husband I know.

One of the ways he is supportive is by not trying to make stuff that I'm doing or is happening to me all about him.

When did being a man become like being a child?

I was raised to associate men with strength and self-sufficiency. Not whiny, attention-seeking nonsense like trying to pretend being nice to someone pregnant means you are pregnant too.

According to some of the arguments here, my mother has every right to talk about how she and my Dad have cancer.

Or is it only male support for a loved one that means they get a share of the actual medical condition?

I think it's cringe'y and bad English. I'm pregnant or we're having a baby.

However you look at it He can't be pregnant.

trying to pretend being nice to someone pregnant means you are pregnant too.

that's the point. Again, I am nowhere trying to pretend that men are actually pregnant, duh!. My point is that some men are doing a lot more than "being nice".

Some posters here have such a bitter and angry vision of males, (not being directed at you DoinItFine ), it's quite sad.

What are they doing that is more than "being nice"?

"I was raised to associate men with strength and self-sufficiency. Not whiny, attention-seeking nonsense like trying to pretend being nice to someone pregnant means you are pregnant too."

Just holy fuck really. So you are applauding the patriarchal system that assigns behaviours and emotions on the basis of gender roles? If a bloke did that on here he'd get his balls ripped off and handing back to him (well, in an internet typing sort of way).

I was raised to associate women with being soft, needy and defenceless. See how shit that is?

Woman is pregnant, put her feet up and is being pampered for a few months whilst man is running around, working and taking care of everything and worrying about the future and how to take care of their unborn child. Shit, I wish I'd told work that. Because they expected me to, you know, work and stuff.

And 'pampered'? Is that that thing when women are supposed to do things to make themselves look better and pretend it's a hobby? Like spa days?

A pause can be pregnant, and that doesn't even have a body.

It's twee as shit.

YANBU - it's ridiculous and sounds stupid. Unless it is two (or more) pregnant women announcing at the same time

Its disgusting that men want equality.

A lesbian couple who came out with the 'we're pregnant' nonsense would also get the same (inner) eye-roll from me.

You cannot be pregnant by proxy.