'We're' pregnant

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Obviously I'm an awful person aibu to bristle whenever someone says this?

It creeps me the fuck out when a man says it though.

Like clearly only one body is pregnant, so if "we" are pregnant, are "we" making "joint" decisions about what the body is allowed to do/consume?

It might be the woman who is incubating the baby but it is both parents who are pregnant. Its an insult to feminism to claim 100% ownership of the baby.

whats the problem?

well just that it's not factually correct I suppose

We're expecting is

Yanbu

Can't stand it either.

Miserable lot. I like that the partner in the relationship is included. It's nice. It's not the literal truth, but at a happy time it's nice to see the positive.

It does give me the rage when a partner says:
We're pregnant
We had an epidural
We had a c section

If my husband had his appendix out I wouldnt tell my friends 'we had an appendicectomy'

We are having a baby is totally fine though

Women are not incubators, says all feminists ever.

Also, it is pretty basic feminism that there is no separate "baby" to be taken "ownership" of until it has been born.

One of my closest friends says it and they're she's not even pregnant yet! It's all 'when we're pregnant' and 'we'll hopefully get pregnant by x time' and it drives me mad! I don't know why but it does!

It has the nails down a blackboard effect here too, yanbu

Me too magrats

Has the feminist board shut down recently?

I've always hated this phrase and never quite sure why. But I thinkdoinitfine has just explained beautifully what's so wrong with it

Gives me the absolute rage too OP. YANBU.

there is no separate "baby" to be taken "ownership" of

Then women should stop forcing men to pay for this "baby" they they have no ownership of.

It's not a one person event.

Yes it is. Only one person in the partnership is carrying the baby, feeling sick, constantly having to rush to the loo, being kicked; only one person is going to have to push the baby out or get operated on to give birth to it.

It might be the woman who is incubating the baby but it is both parents who are pregnant

Definition of "pregnant": (of a woman or female animal) having a child or young developing in the uterus.

How the hell can the father be pregnant?

It makes me shudder.
When we told people I was pregnant, DP said "Princesspineapple is pregnant, we're having a baby!" all in one sentence, making a point that there is difference between the two. Didn't stop everyone congratulating him first as if he was putting all the work in though!

ts an insult to feminism to claim 100% ownership of the baby.

Since when did saying "I'm pregnant" equate to claiming 100% ownership of the baby? It doesn't make sense. It's a simple statement of a biological fact.

I'm also with Olddear on the "hubby" rage

Good grief urbanfox I think you are trying to steer the thread in a ridiculous direction.

It annoys me because it's not correct, only one half of the couple is pregnant and whilst partners should not be excluded, and some partners are more caring than others, they still don't have a child growing inside of them, feeling nautious, ankles expanding, heartburn, and waddling to the loo every 30mins. So no we are definitely not pregnant, I am.

So what if the person carrying the baby decides to include their partner to the stage of saying 'We'! That's her choice! It's not a feminist debate, not something to be mocked. It's a fairly inoffensive and personal choice, that people choose to nitpick at because it isn't what they would do.

Fucking hate it. Not as bad as my BIL who introduced his girlfriend as 'this is X, she's carrying my child' and clearly is not allowed to have an independent personality at all.

I hate this phrase with a passion.

Thank god it would never have occurred to my DH to say "we" are pregnant when I was expecting our DDs.

I was the pregnant one. DH, to his eternal relief, wasn't.

It is a massively irritating way of making an announcement.

I've never actually heard it in rl, but agree - it's nauseating.

In fairness Paul I'm not sure you've grasped the basis of AIBU there