'We're' pregnant

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Obviously I'm an awful person aibu to bristle whenever someone says this?

They will be the middle aged couples who turn into eachother, ending up with the same food likes/dislikes etc ugh no thanks

Hate it!

WE are not pregnant. I AM pregnant.

YANBU. I hate it when people say this.

YABU. I am currently pregnant, and yes it is my body that gets fucked over, but DH is awesome and doing everything he can prectically to make my life as easy as possible. We are pregnant after two miscarriages and the headfuck is just as much there for him as for me. On the way home from surgery to have our dead baby removed he said "I'm sorry that it is you that has to go through this", but in reality I think him sitting waiting for me to came back from surgery when it took alot longer than they had planned was probably harder. Also as we are post MC I don't want to say we're having a baby or we're expecting as right now we aren't having a baby just desparately hoping that we get to that bit. Right now all I can say is we are pregnant, and it is a joint effort even if it isn't an equal one.

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Should have previewed.

I don't have a problem with it. Although me and DH say we're having a baby.

Yes the woman is pregnant but surely the man is involved too. I know my DH is great when I'm pregnant

They will be the middle aged couples who turn into each other I kind of dressed as my DH for a while whilst I was pregnant. I found maternity pants so hideous so wore his boxers and stole his jumpers because I was too tight to buy maternity ones. We are doomed, we'll have matching anoraks.

I hate, hate hate it!!! With a passion. "We're pregnant" Even thinking the phrase is making my hackles rise. He had a few moments of ecstasy. She is swelling up, throwing up etc. and has hours of agony to look forward to. How bloody dare he claim he's pregnant too? Congratulate him by all means on the joy of impending fatherhood, but please, please, not on being pregnant. Absolute pet hate of mine. My daughter has already warned her, soon to be, husband, that if he ever dares to utter that sentence, she'll shove a bowling ball where the sun doesn't shine.

Ugh. Aggressively modern/sensitive.

YANBU. It's fucking awful.

I don't like it, twee.

If only "we" could be pregnant, then we could split the heartburn, stretch marks and sleeplessness between us and it wouldn't be so hard .

A friend of mine was in the pub when they were just recently pregnant together. He told me he wasn't drinking because he wanted to share as much of the pregnancy as possible. I asked him if that included after nine months trying to shove a watermelon up his arse to share that part too.

Did he put on a couple of stones, too?

A friend of mine was in the pub when they were just recently pregnant together. He told me he wasn't drinking because he wanted to share as much of the pregnancy as possible. I asked him if that included after nine months trying to shove a watermelon up his arse to share that part too.

I think the father abstaining from alcohol is a thoughtful and supportive gesture.

But drinking 8 pints per night for 9 month will make him fat, sluggish, nauseous and give him terrible skin. A much closer approximation of pregnancy than abstinence in solidarity.

I have heard "we're making milk" (breast milk, not formula!) ;)

Well, despite the comments about lesbians (and no, scarednoob, it's probably not a 'coincidence' for them! ), I do know someone who did this. My SIL's sister and her wife had babies within three weeks of each other.

Bloody bonkers, they are!

This is very annoying, and if you look at what it means it's indicative of something that happens a lot. Society is bribing men to take a role in parenthood - which historically they were allowed to pretty much ignore - by pretending that their role is a lot more central and glamorous than it is.

this happens with everything. cookies cookies cookies everywhere for men who make any half-arsed gesture towards giving a shit - cookies in the form of a massive collective pretence that they're doing a lot more than they are

Not a fan of it myself.

I think that the pregnancy stage must be very difficult for men. Their partner is changing, their relationship is changing, she's already a mother and doing the nurturing thing, he's a father and yet there's nothing really he can do. If it makes couples happier, gives the father a greater role, maybe even encourages more consideration on his part if he's not being as supportive as he needs to be - does it matter?

Well technically it's wrong as only females can be pregnant unless you're a seahorse I believe where the roles are reversed. So the pedant in me says YANBU.

When she's not pregnant, does he also say "we're on our period"?

I can't abide the expression. It's illiterate.

Always thought it was a wanky expression ... glad it's not just me :)

I hate it. I was pregnant, he certainly was not. There is no 'we' about it.