'We're' pregnant

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Obviously I'm an awful person aibu to bristle whenever someone says this?

And if he's a good partner he should be doing extra around the house and doing nice things for you do he has an increased work load. I think of you are partners you are in it together!

Woman is pregnant, put her feet up and is being pampered for a few months whilst man is running around, working and taking care of everything and worrying about the future and how to take care of their unborn child. In some families, the woman can even become SAHM so avoid all the stress of work for a few years.

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Hello thread. The 1950's Nethuns has just called and wants posters who write tripe the above to return ASAP. That's after they've prepared dinner, put on a wash and fixed a nice Friday evening cocktail for that lovely hubby.

Now, where did I put my fucking painkillers as we're having our period.

It's a current convention. So what? I think it's rather sweet; couples are far more invested in planning their families nowadays and perhaps it reflects that

What rot. Couples vary as much now as they ever did to parenting, and it doesn't matter how much they plan everything together, he still isn't pregnant.

This isn't a matter of opinion or convention, men don't have uteruses and so can never state "We are pregnant" because WE can't possibly both be.

Do the men who say this also say 'we are dilating' or 'our stitches hurt' too.
In the name of equality, of course.

Helmet, I've heard 'We're in labour' but that's about it.

If DH had said that, I would have said 'let's make it so' and twisted his scrotum with each contraction!

My husband's labour was really awful.

There he was, sleeping in a chair.

Poor dear, must have been in so much pain he couldn't stay awake.

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we should be encouraging more support and involvement not mocking it.

But fathers can be extremely supportive and involved without saying "We're pregnant". Surely "We're expecting a baby" achieves just the same thing?

"Now, where did I we put my our fucking painkillers as we're having our period."

Fixed that for you, DailyMaui

Augusta as I have explained up thread being pregnant doesn't equate to "we're expecting" a baby for everyone.

I do understand people's annoyance at men claining that they are pregnant when they are not involved, but I can't just see my DH as a sperm donor.

I don't think people disliking this 'we're pregnant' business view their partners as being mere sperm donors! They just object to a silly phrase.

Goulash Thinking of you and DH and wishing you every success!

YANBU...we're pregnant? Gets me everytime, I delete those posts as well as the scan posts.

DailyMaui

are you jealous of pregnant - or not pregnant - women whose partner take care of them, clean/ shop/ cook and help during pregnancy, illness or when needed? I thought a share of house chores was more modern than 50s, and that a supporting partner was the whole point of being married.

Take your painkillers, I am drinking the bottle hubby just brought me on his way back from work

We broke our leg when our youngest was a baby. (Well, DH did, but I had to do a lot of running, carrying and cooking all by myself afterwards)

Shark no, it's patently obvious that's not what is being said.

Weirdly you seem to have rose tinted views on how your original post came across. All follow up posts have been toned down/slightly adjusted.

But several people reacted to that original post badly because it does sound bizarre and unrealistic. You can do sarcastic little all you like but what you wrote was what you wrote. You presented pregnancy as a luxury where men do all the worrying and cited it as evidence for why you felt the phrase was appropriate. It came across as really out of touch and odd, tbh like you're living in a bit of a privileged position and don't realise what it's like for most couples (yes caring couples) in real life.

squoosh the comment re spermicide donors was in response to comments such as

I mean it must be awful being the one whose involvement essentially stops at orgasm until birth.

It is really demeaning to men who are actually involved not just physically supporting their partners but also emotionally invested in a pregnancy.

squizita thank you, I hope life is kinder to you and your DH too

WTAF spermicide donors should be sperm donors, thanks predictive text!

I actually cringe when I hear couples saying "we're pregnant." Yes, you are having a baby together but you are not both pregnant any more than if your wife had piles you would say "we have haemorrhoids." It really gets on my tits actually.

Makes me cringe!

I don't have to worry about whether or not to use this phrase in future though as we had a vasectomy recently.

'We're pregnant', 'hubby', and 'little man' all make me bristle. May as well be nails down a blackboard. Babies dressed as adults... Bristle, bristle, bristle

are you jealous of pregnant - or not pregnant - women whose partner take care of them, clean/ shop/ cook and help during pregnancy, illness or when needed? I thought a share of house chores was more modern than 50s, and that a supporting partner was the whole point of being married.

Yeah that'll be it. Because any woman that disagrees with your ridiculous first post is merely envious of you. R I G H T.

In other news, our period pains have subsided but we're both a little windy this evening. I think we're pregnant with farts!

Stirred, surely you mean our tits not just my tits.

shark

When i had ds1 i worked til a few days before the birth

Dh as always took care of me, helped clean and cook, helped during the pregnancy

BUT IT DID NOT MAKE HIM PREGNANT

As a mother of three teens, he still does all the above and looks after me during illness

AS HE FUCKING WELL SHOULD

We broke our leg when our youngest was a baby.

For some reason this made me imagine this conversation with my mother.

Ma: Oh isn't it just terrible about the paxillins
Me: Who?
Ma: You know, that couple with only the one leg between them.
Me: Oh them, yeah.
Ma: Well they've only gone and broke their leg! And them with a new baby. It's just awful. How will they manage?
Me: Has the baby any legs?
Ma: Yes, I believe he has trebled the number of legs in the house... But that's not much use to them now. He's only a week old.