Drunk DP sleeping in the bed

[Janefromdowntheroad]

Do you ask your DP to stay downstairs when he comes in drunk? Do you sleep downstairs?

Every bloody time DP comes in he tries to come upstairs even after I asked told him not too.

I hate the smell of stale alcohol on the sheets, DD is still co-sleeping at 13 months (we do have a super king and she's on my side so not really an issue)

He comes in last night at 1am and I can hear him creeping upstairs. Stumbles over the doorstep and starts getting unchanged. I told him to go downstairs. He starts moaning its cold down there and he's going straight to sleep. DD wakes up . I manage to fall back asleep and then he's moving around in the bed because he can't get comfortable. I told him to fuck off downstairs. He starts telling me about his night because he's pissed and isn't listening. I told him to shut up and go to sleep. Twenty minutes later I wake up to him throwing up out of the window . Woke up properly this time and told him to go back downstairs and that he isn't sleeping up there with us if he's that pissed that he's being sick. He ends up ranting about 'not being able to sleep in his own his in his own house', 'work all week and can't even sleep in his own bed'. Basically just being a twat because he's drunk.

This happens every bloody time he goes out. I don't think its unreasonable to expect him to stay downstairs when he's pissed.

AIBU?

By far the most reasonable person here is the OP!

Yes, he acted like a dick but her reaction was a little OTT. Excusable due to it being the middle of the night.

Someone else said "Op, I would never sleep in a bed with a drunk man"

Surely this isn't normal, is it? DH or I would always get into bed if we'd been out without the other. Admittedly neither of us has puked out the window but we have (very, very rarely) needed a bowl next to us.

If I've been out and DP hasn't, I sleep on the (actually very comfortable) sofa out of consideration. No one wants to have a drunk partner getting in and out of bed to go to the toilet, snoring etc! DP is a light sleeper so I'd feel terrible disturbing him as he struggles to get back to sleep. DP does the same also even tho I'm a much better sleeper. We do keep pillows and a duvet and eye mask in the sitting room tho.

If your DP was so drunk he was being sick out of the window then I doubt he was being particularly rational tho!

YANBU at all op.
He should've shut up and fucked off downstairs.

Really don't understand those who say they would never ask a DP to sleep elsewhere if they were shitfaced.

We luckily have a spare bed. On the odd occasion my DP goes out he sleeps there. I don't even need to ask. He snores terribly after a drink or few. The breath and general drunk stench are gross (that sickly sweet stale ale smell that hits me in the face when I open the door in the morning). I'm also a very light sleeper and like most people when drunk he is incapable of being quiet.

YANBU. My husband doesn't really get drunk but when he goes out with friends and will be really late home (past midnightish) he knows he has to sleep in the spare bedroom and has to use the main bathroom instead of the ensuite. I hate having to breath in his stale alcohol breath and don't appreciate being woken up by his many trips to the loo either. He doesn't grumble. He knows he can either not go out or sleep a night in the spare bedroom.

Janefromdowntheroad

^There's no way DP could roll over on the baby.

She sleeps between me and the bed guard. ^

This just isn't true. I co-sleep with an older baby and they can move around so much. Mine climbs over me all the time. It's all very well saying it has never happened yet but it only takes the one time, eh? Co-sleeping while drunk is extremely dangerous.

Yanbu Op

But you seem to think it's all well cool anyway. He's such a character hey....

OP YANBU, my DP would have been told to fuck right off. If he simply went to sleep then i wouldn't mind at all but the second the baby was woken up or he started trying to chat drunkenly then he'd get his arse handed to him on a plate. Not double standards though I'd absolutely expect the same if I woke my son up! I never make it past the bathroom anyway

However my DS is in a crib, drunk co-sleeping is a good enough reason for him to fuck off downstairs even if you're making a barrier (just not worth the risk drunk people aren't in control)

I don't think yabu at all
My dd is 1 and co sleeps and whenever dp goes out I tell him to stay downstairs
He does moan but I wouldn't risk a drunk person in bed with my baby
He agrees to cosleeping so if he wants to stay in the bed he shouldn't drink