WIBU to put some expensive items on the wedding gift list

[coralpig]

I'm bracing myself for the responses.
We are compiling our wedding gift list. We have been a couple for a long time but will be setting up home together properly once we marry so no house things really apart from the remnants of student things and whatever we old things we have nabbed from our parents.

I've made sure to add lots of items at the £5-£20 mark but I would really like to add a few more items that are considerably more expensive so £100-£150. Is this unreasonable and does it look bratty?

Our wording on invitations says: we would love to have you at our wedding, no gift is necessary. We are accepting charitable donations to insert charity name here that support orphans in our native countries. If you would like to purchase a gift we have a list with insert store name here the gift list number is.... Thank you for your generosity."

Is this unreasonable and does it look grabby? I know lots of people hate lists on invitations. We are a young couple on v low income and don't have lots of money - we have friends of family from lots of different backgrounds if that is at all relevant.

Wedding lists make life considerably easier. All the pearl clutching about them is just wasted energy. I'm very happy to buy a present a couple they actually want.

More expensive presents are fine as long as there's a range of prices on the list, OP. John Lewis add vouchers by default so people can buy these if they don't want to buy an item from the list. I imagine the other shops do too.

One list I remember was perfectly sensible and normal until the last item, a Ferrari! It made me laugh. No doubt someone on Mumsnet would have been offended by the presumption.

Ah yes Dulce the "we'd rather have your presence than your presents but..."

It's so fake.

What do you say if you really don't want gifts though?
I mean, I am 48 and never married, have a house full of stuff and anything I need I buy. If we got married I wouldn't want any gifts. It's bad enough trying to work out what to do with the awful birthday and Christmas gifts people give us.

spotted I got married about 10 years after you. We had our home ( paid for and furnished by ourselves) and saved up for the wedding we could afford.
We got married abroad and just let everyone know that IF they wanted to come, they could. We would be throwing an informal party afterwards anyway. We looked after and paid for all the meals to those that choose to come and made it clear that we did want or expect a gift.

For what it's worth my wedding was a bit different to a normal wedding .......... Because we were all nearly killed shortly after the ceremony!!!!! In our defence- it wasn't planned!

I'd rather write a cheque and know it was cashed than be put in a position where I have to contact the couple months after the wedding to ensure that the company behind the list didn't exclude my name! They just didn't 'get around' to organising the thank you cards!

Funny enough the couples never have trouble getting around to send the pigging list in the first place!
It happens far far too often!

I think that once you go down the wedding list route I think it doesn't really matter what is on it.

outtogetyou we just said that we did not want gifts. People knew us well enough to know that we would not want gifts so we didn't get any.