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To think it's not on to shout abuse out the window at people!?

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Sprinklesontop · 12/05/2016 13:22

I was walking into town yesterday when a white van drove past me and a man shouted fatty out the window at me Angry

I'm absolutely mortified and so glad that I was on my own I would have died if there was anyone with me!

I am rather fat at the moment, I had twins less than a year ago and I'm struggling to find time to exercise but surely even if I was 25 stone or something it doesn't give someone the right to embarrass me like that.

Don't know why I'm posting really but I can't tell anyone in real life and it's really bothering me.

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PirateSmile · 14/05/2016 10:02

Wow Beverley I'm so bloody proud of you! Talk about confronting your fears! I hope you feel much better now and fancy having to tell him how to spell 'mum.' Grin

Wheresthattomoibabber · 14/05/2016 10:21

Rudi Lickwood? Sounds like a gay pornstar.

nonamenopackdrill · 14/05/2016 10:25

This thread is making me fume. What the fuck is the matter with some people?

This hasn't happened for a while, but I used to have men whisper things as they walked past me (for some reason, it happened most when I was on my lunchbreak in a busy area in London full of office workers, so probably not 'white van man') - nice tits, etc which always took me a while to clock and by which point they had passed me and I wasn't sure who it was in order to challenge them. It always left me feeling violated and angry that I had been put in that position. Which was probably the intention.

BeverlyGoldberg · 14/05/2016 10:29

I was trying to be quite serious but I just got the giggles at how daft he was! Probably the first genuine laugh he's ever got!

PirateSmile · 14/05/2016 10:30

Tell us about how stupid he was.

BeverlyGoldberg · 14/05/2016 10:32

Actually it made me think, I guess I'm lucky I got the chance to confront him and realise the person I let upset me is an idiot with his own issues. I bet the majority of perpetrators mentioned on this thread are similarly 'intellectually challenged', just be glad you're 'you' and not an idiot with an incontinent mouth.

plominoagain · 14/05/2016 10:33

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Wheresthattomoibabber · 14/05/2016 10:36

Oh that is superb! DH and I are I hysterics Grin

PirateSmile · 14/05/2016 10:39

That's an awesome story. You and Beverley are my new favourite Mumsnetters.

AnUtterIdiot · 14/05/2016 10:47

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BeverlyGoldberg · 14/05/2016 10:49

Palomino again you're my hero! Bloody brilliant! Grin

Wheresthattomoibabber · 14/05/2016 10:54

I am fat and I've got the cab too!

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plominoagain · 14/05/2016 11:08

The thing was , when he came to the door , in his naice suburban house , he looked like a decent guy . His wife was lovely ( and furious) . What is it , that suddenly makes people feel it necessary to shout such bollocks ?

Loving " I've got the cab too ! " Fab

Smokeyrobinson · 14/05/2016 11:14

My DH and I were often subject to racist abuse shouted from moving cars when we first met (he's black and I'm white) mainly that old favourite "N **r lover" though funnily enough they never said it face to face, only when they could drive off. This was the late 70s and things (for us at least) have improved greatly.

About 12 years ago I was with my then 13 year old DD in our busy city centre. She looked 13 and no older. We were waiting for family and I heard two men in their early 20s making sexual comments about my DD and how sexy mixed-race women are. I confronted them and said 'Are two you paedophiles? Cos she's 13 fucking years old". They seemed shocked I'd 'dared' to challenge them and mumbled some rude response. Then I cheerfully added "Oh here's her dad and her uncle perhaps you'd like to explain to them'. They beat a hasty retreat as my DH and his twin brother came into view. Dirty scumbags.

CatThiefkeith · 14/05/2016 11:35

My dad is a late 60's builder, with a white van and wouldn't, and never has, catcalled, shouted or whistled at a woman.

I know this because once, when I was about 14, he gave chase to a bloke in a car that screamed 'I'd love to fuck you up the arse' at me and my friends. We happened to be walking past the bookies shop my Dad was coming out of. The traffic was crawling along and my Dad caught him up quite easily. He wasn't quite so fucking brave when confronted with a 6'2 bloke trying to pull him out the drivers side window! Grin

About 15 years later I had to drop some money off at the job he was working on, for him to pay the wages, and did so on my way to work. The bloke doing the roof shouted something about me wearing suspenders, and was fired on the spot. Grin

Not acceptable, not in the 90's not now, and not in the future.

AnUtterIdiot · 14/05/2016 11:59

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WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 14/05/2016 13:27

Love the stories of these idiots getting some shit back at them.

Rudi Lickwood? Sounds like a gay pornstar.
HaHa, it does!Grin

Dakin1 · 14/05/2016 13:35

Sorry this happened to you OP Angry I got yelled at and called 'fatty' by a group of lads when I was minding my own business going for a nice walk... When I was 8 months pregnant! I shouted back 'feel good about yourself now? Picking on a pregnant lady!' But walked off with tears streaming down my face and it ruined the rest of my day (pregnancy hormones). The people who do this kind of thing are clearly unable to get attention from women any other way.

PregnantAndEngaged · 14/05/2016 13:42

What a dick :( I feel for you. I had something like this happen to me, however it wasn't long after an abusive relationship where my self-confidence was already at a low, AND I was on my way to a date to make matters worse. :|

I was in a nice dress. Some guy shouts to me (he was with his friends) "you'll be giving it away next". I ran home crying as I was so mortified and just wanted out of the dress.. went home and got changed. However I was also quite angry he made me feel like that so I screamed over at him "YOU'RE A FUCKING PRICK!!!!"

1Mumster1 · 14/05/2016 13:53

I am so sorry that you had this experience. Just try and remember for every 1 idiot you meet like this there is another 10 people that are looking at you thinking that you're fabulous and are completely envious of you and your lovely children. Don't let imbeciles like that ruin your day. 😚

Sharon, you are now my hero 😂.

Bananasinpyjamas1 · 14/05/2016 13:57

plumino You are also my hero! The number of times I've had abuse, especially when I was younger, 'cheer up luv' 'nice tits' etc, and it made me so mad but so powerless. I'm short sighted and never remember number plates.

SO glad you got the man this time - and his wife was there to witness!!!Grin

RupertPupkin · 14/05/2016 13:57

plomino you're fab. That story has made my day.

And Beverly! Nice one. That was brave.

I watched some of Rudi's "comedy". Hahahaha. That's me laughing at his shit career performing to office workers at a conference who are paid to be there.

mrsrobayo · 14/05/2016 14:03

When on mat leave last summer I was taking a stroll with the boy in his pram. 2 student girls drove past and one shouted "get a job!" I was furious still pisses me off now. I've got a job thanks you pair of pathetic c*s!

Libsterb123 · 14/05/2016 14:06

Someone shouted 'Oi, fat c*nt!' at my friend whilst she was running the London marathon this year. She got called fat whilst running 26 miles and raising thousands for charity.

I wish it were possible to find him and kick him in the bollocks 26 times. It just defies belief.

toniqxx · 14/05/2016 14:13

Sprinkles it's words from idiots that mean nothing to you, If they get kicks outta shouting crap one day they will mess with the likes of Sharonbotts (loved sharon in all the Adrian Mole books) and maybe think twice.

Maybe if anything happens again (hope it doesn't) shout "Yep and I'm proud of it".

You have nothing to be ashamed of, they should hang their heads in shame.

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