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To expect to know my boyfriends salary when buying a house?

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purplefox · 10/05/2016 22:00

My boyfriend and I currently don't live together and this evening we were looking at properties to buy together, I was sending him links to various houses, despite asking for an approximate budget I was just getting "its too expensive", "I wont get a mortgage for £x amount", on a huge variation of prices which tbh just looked like he wasn't interested in any and just couldn't be bothered, anyway to stop wasting time I asked him what his salary was in order to get a rough estimation of how much of a mortgage we'd be able to get together. At this point he made a huge issue, apparently it wasn't relevant, I didn't need to know, and basically making out as if I was being a dick for asking something completely off topic. As an aside, he knows my salary.
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MrsTerryPratchett · 07/07/2017 00:54

Well thank fuck that's over! Onwards and upwards @indigox

SadFlowers

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/07/2017 01:23

Did she know about you? Does she know now?

Lucky escape x

PeachPearPotato · 07/07/2017 04:01

Well done OP Flowers. What a swine to make up all those excuses about being worried about you.

NeverTwerkNaked · 07/07/2017 06:39

Ugh he treated you awfully!! But don't beat yourself up about it.
Lesson learnt - onwards and upwards!!

eurochick · 07/07/2017 07:16

What a shit. Onwards and upwards!

indigox · 07/07/2017 07:49

PyongyangKipperbang She must have had some idea he had a girlfriend as a few guys at work knew, though I never asked, and despite him still messaging me months later I haven't spoken to him since the day I found out.

LoveCakesandWine · 07/07/2017 10:29

OP well done on leaving him

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