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To offer this for tea...

190 replies

roleypoley · 10/05/2016 20:39

Spinach and ricotta cannelloni (from a packet) with salad. DP is furious. Says when he asked earlier what was for tea I should have said 'nothing'. There is also fish in the freezer but that takes half an hour so apparently is unacceptable at 8pm. I've had enough of his mood and gone upstairs with my half packet of spinach and ricotta cannelloni & he's ordered a take away!

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NicknameUsed · 10/05/2016 22:12

I should have read the last few posts before I posted.

Ravioli without any sauce is too dry. We often have ravioli or tortellini with either pesto or a home made tomato sauce, and salad for tea. A 300gm pack of pasta is ample for the three of us.

UmbongoUnchained · 10/05/2016 22:12

canelloni is filling, are you greedy?

Not greedy but I have a large appetite. A ready meal canelloni is tiny though.

BitOutOfPractice · 10/05/2016 22:13

Sorry but I think that's a bit of a crap dinner with no sauce. I'd be a bit disappointed too

BUT

Absolutely no excuse for his arsey behaviour. None whatsoever. He would be wearing it on his head if he was my DP

UmbongoUnchained · 10/05/2016 22:14

I've just seen that it's a packet of ravioli. I'd eat half of one of those with sauce but my husband would probably need a whole one.

DotForShort · 10/05/2016 22:15

Of course YANBU. What a pathetic way for your husband to behave. You made something for dinner, and his only response should be "Thank you very much." If he wanted something else or felt that the meal you had prepared wasn't substantial enough, it was entirely up to him to prepare something else, with good grace and without the drama llama act. He sounds like a sulky child.

chocomochi · 10/05/2016 22:17

Can you not make veggie curry without aubergines?! What a poor get out clause.

YANBU by the way. And the ravioli is a good, last minute substitute if you weren't cooking in the first place!

tabulahrasa · 10/05/2016 22:21

The thing is...whether it was quite enough or lacking sauce....

He was supposed to be cooking, he suddenly decided he wasnt capable of doing it because he couldn't find one specific vegetable, decided you were going to do it despite not knowing you were going to, with nothing more than he had to cook with anyway - and then, when you did threw a tantrum because he didn't like it...

When seeing as he was in a shop when he discovered there weren't any aubergines he could have bought a different vegetable or a different meal entirely.

HairySubject · 10/05/2016 22:23

It needed sauce of some kind but it's still dinner that he hasn't had to prepare. Enjoy your dinner. Your h is being very unreasonable to talk to you like that regardless.

PuntasticUsername · 10/05/2016 22:25

I don't mind that kind of pasta with no sauce, in a pinch - it has filling, after all, so you're not just eating moistened durum wheat...a glug of good olive oil and some salt and pepper (maybe not much salt if the pasta has a salty filling, such as the quoted ricotta) and you're laughing.

Your dinner sounds lovely to me, OP, and unless your husband has a damn good reason for being a bit of an arse atm it does sound as if he's just being a bit of an arse, sorry.

Yukduck · 10/05/2016 22:27

My dh is a bit of a Meatetarian and prefers meat with every meal.

If we have a light meal like scrambled eggs on toast or pizza he will have a bigger pudding, and if still hungry he makes himself toast for supper.

Your dh is making you feel bad and needs reminding that he is perfectly free to have a bigger pud, cheese and biscuits after pud and, if still hungry, a takeaway like he has ordered.

He needs to lighten up and learn to think outside the narrow box of meat and two veg. Tell him it will help him with his work problem solving if he can solve his eating requirements!

2rebecca · 10/05/2016 22:29

I wouldn't be cooking him any food again until he apologised. I am not my husband's maid and servant.

MiyakoOdori · 10/05/2016 22:33

I think he's in just a general huff about work and lack of aubergines and you got caught in the firing line!

Lidl sell lovely aubergines bitter because I can't eat them

He'll get over himself! I think it's perfectly adequate tbh!

NapQueen · 10/05/2016 22:40

No sauce? 《Boak》

Choughed · 10/05/2016 23:54

It is a crap meal without sauce.

But it's his own fault, he said he was cooking, he reneged on that.

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine · 11/05/2016 00:02

Ah - ravioli - I lived off that for a few weeks in my first pregnancy when I couldn't touch food to cook it without running to the bathroom. DH could cook that and heat up a tub of sauce quite successfully and even run to a bit of cheese on the side (grating seemed to be beyond him!)

He has the positive attitude mentioned upthread off to a tee, now, though. If I misjusdge something at dinnertime, or something turns out to be not the quality we like eg mouldy veg, we're happy to make sure the kids are well fed and attack the toaster or make a sarnie, ourselves, later on, if we weren't satisfied by our main meal. It's what grown ups do.

whatkatiedidnext31 · 11/05/2016 00:03

I'd tell him the 1950's callled and they want their opinions back!!
What an arse :(

Ambroxide · 11/05/2016 10:10

That kind of ravioli is perfectly OK with just some melted butter and parmesan. No need for actual sauce. Carluccio's serves their spinach and ricotta ravioli like that and very nice it is too.

No sauce at all sounds a bit grim, though.

swooosh · 11/05/2016 10:16

Needs sauce...and garlic bread.

OutToGetYou · 11/05/2016 10:26

We have that for week night meals now and then.
But it's not about what the food was (if he hates it you wouldn't have even bought it, presumably) it's about his unreasonable reaction.

To be fair, my dp makes some shockingly bad meals. If I am working and come home late to one of his "casseroles" I do actually want to cry. But, I always thank him for making it. And remind him to try following recipes in future. (this is actually why we have stuff like the ready made ravioli, even he can't mess that up.......much).

WanHeda · 11/05/2016 10:32

Only needs butter & parmesan! No sauce!

RortyCrankle · 11/05/2016 10:56

Since I absolutely loathe pasta and spinach and don't like ricotta cheese or salad much I would not like to be presented with that for dinner. However, I would cook something for myself, not whine or bitch about it.

Cupoftchaiagain · 11/05/2016 11:21

I'd be starving given half a pack of that as would dh even more so, it's rubbish that the portions are that small!

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roleypoley · 11/05/2016 11:45

I actually didn't even present him it for tea I just suggested it when he asked! That or the fish in the freezer. His point was neither were good enough so I shouldn't have claimed to have food for tea when he'd asked earlier in the day! He said 'if I'd known this was all there was I'd have ordered takeaway' then he ordered one anyway

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roleypoley · 11/05/2016 11:47

To be fair I had a bowl of Cheerios after the pasta because I was still I bit hungry but I was quite happy to do so.

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teafortoads · 11/05/2016 11:53

Sounds delish! Mardy weirdo of a man.