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To offer this for tea...

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roleypoley · 10/05/2016 20:39

Spinach and ricotta cannelloni (from a packet) with salad. DP is furious. Says when he asked earlier what was for tea I should have said 'nothing'. There is also fish in the freezer but that takes half an hour so apparently is unacceptable at 8pm. I've had enough of his mood and gone upstairs with my half packet of spinach and ricotta cannelloni & he's ordered a take away!

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roleypoley · 10/05/2016 21:03

He was actually going to cook tonight but waitrose had ran out of aubergine so he couldn't do the vegetable curry he had planned Hmm my alternative obviously does not meet his high standards! I do cook decent meals when I have the time but don't most people have quick and easy stuff a few days each week?!

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HelsBels3000 · 10/05/2016 21:05

My husband absolutely raves over and is delighted with ......wait for it...... tinned spaghetti on toast with grated cheese on top!
Low expectations I tell you - its the way forward!

Notso · 10/05/2016 21:06

My DH wouldn't want that for tea but he would sort himself something else out if that's what I had in.

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roleypoley · 10/05/2016 21:08

HelsBels3000 you've got a keeper!

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Jelliebabe1 · 10/05/2016 21:08

God I'd love that.

AerithEarthling · 10/05/2016 21:08

nothing wrong with that at all. He should be grateful or make himself something

Notso · 10/05/2016 21:09

Grin HelsBels3000 mine loves tinned ravioli on toast

HeteronormativeHaybales · 10/05/2016 21:10

Half a ready-meal cannelloni is a bit of a dispiriting dinner, sorry. I'd be a bit peeved if my dh had had time and resources to cook while I'd been drowning in work and he hadn't bothered. (This is assuming you did have said time and resources, of course. If you've been working too, or have a newborn or something, he can FTFO).

But in any case, 'furious' is taking it too far. Hope he winds his neck in.

Grilledaubergines · 10/05/2016 21:11

Not so important what the meal is or whether it's deemed substantial enough or exciting enough.

It's about the nasty, unnecessary reaction by the husband.

OP, I would tell him you will not be cooking for him in future.

HeteronormativeHaybales · 10/05/2016 21:11

x post re the curry. Ah, he's taking it out on you. He can FTFO.

Queenie73 · 10/05/2016 21:11

It's fine not to like the meal (and gawd knows I'm always telling my children that not every mean has to be their favourite), but having a toddler tantrum about it is way over the top. Most adults would either just eat it or make something else themselves.

Well done for not smashing the plate and using the broken shards to castrate him.

Queenie73 · 10/05/2016 21:13

not mean, I meant meal!

tabulahrasa · 10/05/2016 21:16

His reaction is absolutely ridiculous, I will give him that half a ready meal is a fairly rubbish dinner given that a whole one is still a tiny portion, but, he could have eaten it, then said he was still hungry and had something else, like a grown up.

imwithspud · 10/05/2016 21:17

What an arse. I hate when my dp complains about a meal. I spend the majority of meal times preparing things that he prefers, because my palette is a lot more limited than his and I don't want to inflict it on him and the dc's. When I do occasionally make something that is more to my liking he will sometimes find something to complain about. Drives me batty.

imwithspud · 10/05/2016 21:18

And besides, it sounds like he was meant to cook in the first place and what you had arranged was a last minute thing. I would have asked him if he had any better ideas.

Originalfoogirl · 10/05/2016 21:19

Half an hour for fish is too long, but he'll wait for a takeaway?

Sounds like he just wanted a takeaway.

Mrsbadger77 · 10/05/2016 21:21

That's the type of response I would have got from my DH a few years ago, but after some vicious tongue lashings off me he knows better, so would just eat it and be bloody grateful!!

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roleypoley · 10/05/2016 21:22

At least when he's in London tomorrow I can have cheese, crackers and wine for tea so no cooking or washing up

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DurhamDurham · 10/05/2016 21:22

don't most people have quick and easy stuff a few days each week

I don't think I'd ever serve that for dinner, maybe an easy lunch but I'd still be hungry that never mind my husband who eats masses.
We take turns cooking and if we are pushed for time ( and haven't been for our weekly food shop ) we tend to have eggs, bacon etc. Probably quicker to cook than a ready meal and much tastier.

Having said that if I did dish up a ready meal for my husband I don't think he would react like your husband and if he did he would be wearing it. If it's a one off he should have eaten it with good grace and not been so blooming rude.

DailyMailAreAFuckingJoke · 10/05/2016 21:22

Tinned ravioli on toast is the food of the Gods

Your H is being a dick. He's huffy because the supermarket didn't have the ingredient he wanted and he's being arsey with you as a result. Leave him to fend for himself.

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine · 10/05/2016 21:24

He cooks next time.

Wanker.

1horatio · 10/05/2016 21:24

So,,? Unless he's allergic to it he shouldn't behave like that. I can't stand picky eaters!
Next time you should say something along the lines of: "I've ordered Chinese 15 minutes ago. What do you want to eat?" and proceed to eat your delicious portion of whatever take out you like :D

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine · 10/05/2016 21:28

And so he was supposed to cook, in the first place?

Double wanker.

Paddletonio · 10/05/2016 21:29

He sounds a right gem

He is being Massively U

janethegirl2 · 10/05/2016 21:30

I'd not eat it, not fond of cannelloni, ricotta or spinach.
However I'd expect my dh to know that I wouldn't eat it ( he wouldn't touch it), so it wouldn't be likely to be an issue in this house.

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