To be annoyed DH knows nothing about female anatomy

[Sproutieboolaa]

DH, to whom I've been married for 15 years, and with whom I've had 3 children, was astonished yesterday when I pointed out that a vulva includes 2 holes. I had to show him a diagram.

Aibu to find this really annoying? I mean I had noticed I did all the childbearing work but he clearly didn't bother to look at a single book or website about pregnancy or even pay attention in all those birth classes. I am still cross.

Do people not wipe themselves after having a pee?

Of course I wipe myself - I don't actually peer down there though...

Yes weeing after sex is common advice for reducing risk of cystitis

(Phone wants to autocorrect "weeing" to "weeping" )

I know in theory that I have this urethra opening but never seen it.

If you wipe yourself, surely you are aware your vagina opening doesn't get wet when you pee?

I still don't know who is telling us not to have sex

Who the fuck cares? They can piss right off

Sproutie tackle the sexism. I don't care where he was born, he lives here and it's not acceptable .

Frankly, any decent (straight) bloke should have a much better idea of what's where than you (if straight) do yourself. I'd hope he spends much more time carefully inspecting it & admiring every little detail... So I'd be a bit surprised at any man not knowing there are '3 holes' but as long as he's giving you due attention but just hadn't realised that, I'd cut him some slack. Plenty of women don't know.

There are some nasty & uncalled for comments on this thread. I'm sure for the women 'not knowing' they've never had cause to think about it much, you either know or you're made aware when you need to know, other than that it's really not important which cm your weeing out of is it? You sit on the loo, you wee...it's not like it's coming out of your elbow or something.

My openings are very close together and often even professionals struggle to find opening to urethra and have been known to insert catheters into my vagina instead
As due to my disabilities I have been self catheterising for over 20 years I guide them accordingly!
However I find it hard to tell difference between where feelings are coming from and couldn't easily distinguish between a gush of menstrual blood, urination or a discharge
My DP knows where everything is though as do both DD and DS

Silver Given that I don't use my bare hand then not really.

Have none of you never wondered, then, how a tampon doesn't stop you having a wee? Did you think it can differentiate between wee and blood?

Never thought about it. Can't use them anyway.

Just roused my DH, who was sleeping on the sofa, to check the world hasn't gone completely mad - and even in his groggy state he was able to come up with urethra, vagina, arsehole without thinking about it...when I think about, my sons who are both pre-teens know - we've had basic conversations where we discuss anatomy / periods - isn't this just basic life knowledge that you need?!! Seriously, my mind is boggling on this one.

Are you always this shocked when people don't know things Soviet ?

It must make your life very stressful

I'm now starting to worry my anatomy is different to other women on this thread and my urethra is further away from my vagina than other women's

No I expect you just aren't as stupid as the feat of us

rest not feat

silver that's exactly what I'm thinking too! I think mine definitely a centimetre or two apart, at least that's how it feels to me. I don't know if that's normal now though, am googling!

I love learning new stuff but it has to be either (a) essential or (b) interesting

My body is going to work the same whether I am aware of every individual function or not. Therefore it isn't essential. Nor is it interesting.

Not generally no, Livia, but this particular one is rather shocking! It's the basics

I always knew pee hole, poo hole. It was being told there was another one in the middle that baffled me. I can't get my head round knowing about periods and vaginas without knowing it's a different hole. The first thing I remember being told was between where you pee from and where you poo from... That was at home and at school.

Being annoyed is silly. I didn't realise until I was about 35! Not because I'm stupid but because I attended a very poor school, science consisted of us burning one another and our equipment on the bunsen burners whilst the teacher read his book.

We had no anatomy lessons.

I mean, ppl who didn't know, didn't your mum ever mention it was important to wipe front to back so you didn't get poo in you vagina?

Right from being a small girl?

Matt Sounds like you went to my school

Utterly shocked so many women don't know the basics of their own anatomy. Not knowing where you pee from is quite spectacularly dizzy at best...

Livia Possibly! Did you classmates also heat things up on the burners and try to whack one another with them?

I always remember one girl heating up a tuning fork and then branding her arm with it! She had the scar for years!

It was the type of school where the boys tatooed one another with Indian ink and a needle in a cork.