To be annoyed DH knows nothing about female anatomy

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DH, to whom I've been married for 15 years, and with whom I've had 3 children, was astonished yesterday when I pointed out that a vulva includes 2 holes. I had to show him a diagram.

Aibu to find this really annoying? I mean I had noticed I did all the childbearing work but he clearly didn't bother to look at a single book or website about pregnancy or even pay attention in all those birth classes. I am still cross.

OMG maisyjonesI can't believe that! It does make me wonder how many women there are out there who genuinely believe that you have to remove your tampon to have a wee! Having said that,my DP thought that women peed out of their vag,until I enlightened him. In his defence,he has never been married and has no children,so has never had to become 'seriously' acquainted with lady-bits before still no excuse.

Even women thinking it comes out the same hole...oh deary me!

No one else has commented on it, so am I the only person who didn't know, and was mind blown to discover as an adult, that the clitoris not only goes back inside you, but also has wings and goes down and around to encircle the vagina. I still find it incredible really.

I hated the thought of a pissy string

I just don't see how women don't know, even without being thought/reading, there are in total, 3 holes down there....

Maybe one of the reasons that so few people know where the female urethral opening is, is because it doesn't have a clear external "marker" to show it?
Again, only hearsay because I've never checked (perhaps the poster who has done lots of catheterising could clarify/confirm) but apparently it may only be clearly visible when actually weeing in some women - so even if you did go looking with a mirror, you might not see it, because it's closed.

Thumbwitches, I also think even if you know where it is, it is v small ie. Not really considered a 'hole'. Men have a urethra too but I bet most wouldn't consider it a 'hole'. I bet most men would say they have 1 hole where poo comes from.

I think it's a shame that people are so defensive if their right to be ignorant about things. If you don't know something then you don't know, but it's hardly something to celebrate - just means you should pay more attention!

It's also wrong to say having children is irrelevant to this. Men and women with kids should have looked at many pictures of babies in ute to and in the birth canal etc. I would also be annoyed to find my DH had paid no attention to such things.

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It must be a positioning thing. Mine are at least an inch apart and I'd know that just from wiping at certain times of the month.

If other women have them much much closer together and have no sensation difference either then I can see how it could be easier not to know.

Still a bit surprised though, mainly because it's nothing I've ever thought to question before!

If I hadn't learnt it at school, I'd never know. No different sensations.

Nobody here is 'celebrating' their previous lack of knowledge, for Christ's sake. Some just are not interested. Obviously the lack of interest has blown some tiny minds. So much so, they can't stop saying how shocking it is.

And no, I don't think a lack of knowledge or interest in the workings of genitalia corresponds to a lack of knowledge or interest in every other subject in the world as some have suggested.

If you don't use tampons, do you use sanitary towels, flirty? I have never met a woman that never needed either, so think stoic might be quite unusual in that respect.

I don't need to since the menopause has started. I get very light flow for a couple of days and if I'm wearing dark pants I don't always notice I've started.

In my teens I had clots, pain, bled heavily for 7 days and bit lighter for another 3.

If I'd only experienced the type of period I get now I may not understand how different it can be.

"And no, I don't think a lack of knowledge or interest in the workings of genitalia corresponds to a lack of knowledge or interest in every other subject in the world as some have suggested."

No, but it means a lack of interest in how your own body works and so in your own health. How can that be anything but a bad thing?

I had to tell my female friend she had 2 holes. She was 20 at the time.

*MrsHardy have you read the thread entirely? It has moved past being shocked or feeling smug about this. If you'd like a bigger reason to feel smug, I didn't know until I was well into my 30s and I learned here on MN.

Is that OK?

I think a lot of people are getting defensive about responses here - but first, it's not the same person going on about their surprise, it's new people each time and they're allowed to contribute too surely?

For those who have assumed there were 2 not 3 and are now getting defensive - imagine it from the other point of view ... That you were correct and others weren't. You'd have felt the same sense of disbelief that they'd got it wrong, not because others are idiots, but because it shakes an underlying assumption we all make - that we have a universal experience, when apparently we don't.

It's just a weird thing to think about and yes I was surprised (not smug, surprised). I bet on either side people have been. So please stop telling people they can't feel a certain way!

Merrida of course they are...BUT it's a crappy thing...to join in a long thread like this without reading it all.

It's moved on.

So people are posting without reading and giving themselves the chance to learn something.

Eg. the reasons behind the supposed ignorance.

I was visiting my great-aunt about 5 years ago. She was coming up to 90, and was about to go into hospital. A friend of hers of about the same age was there, and was explaining what would happen in hospital. She said "They put the catheter in your vagina...".

If some-one can be female for nearly 90 years and still not know, I think you'll have to forgive your DH for not knowing!

"They put the catheter in your vagina...".

If some-one can be female for nearly 90 years and still not know, I think you'll have to forgive your DH for not knowing!"

Some people use the word vagina to mean vulva or the whole genital area so that's what she might have meant.

I knew I had 3 holes, but can't feel any difference as to where the wee comes out. My urethra opening must be in my vagina because sometimes my tampons are urine soaked, when the tampon is sliding down IYSWIM.

And please can some explain this - why can't I wee after an orgasm?

Sometimes you can't wee after orgasm because a lot of blood has rushed to the genital area and there is too much pressure on the urethra, pushing the tube closed. It can also be very, very difficult to wee when you are turned on for this very reason.