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Getting my boobs out

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wannabehippyandcrazycatlover · 27/04/2016 18:58

I thought it was all a hoax about people making judgey comments about breastfeeding in public and that no one in their right mind would actually say anything...

Today I was unfortunately proved wrong, I was told by a gentleman that it was highly inappropriate for me to get my boob out and feed my baby in a cafe. I thought I was being quite discreet but obviously not in his opinion.

I was so shocked I couldn't say anything, I didn't think that this actually happened Confused. Has anyone else experienced this? I'm quite upset about it (although won't stop me doing it in future) and can see why some women stop BF if they get comments like that on a regular basis.

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DubbyDubDub · 27/04/2016 21:57

As long as you are not getting your dugs/paps/nipples out in someone else's face that is fine.

People may be very uncomfortable in situations where the breast is visible, but may never say so. That is why so many THINK it is just fine in public, and would you believe.. no one objected. Wonder why, terrified of upsetting the entitled I reckon.

But off you go you ladies of the feminist variety. Get yer kicks that way? That's fine for you, but not for others.

Just have a bit of thought for others. That's all. Nothing too bad about that is there?

PterodactylToenails · 27/04/2016 21:58

I would have firmly called him a perv for staring at my breasts. That would have startled him!

DubbyDubDub · 27/04/2016 21:59

Pterodactyl,

Don't show yer breasts and he would have nothing to say.

hownottofuckup · 27/04/2016 22:01

Whose breasts are that big that other people can't be discreet by simply not looking at them?

oliviafrombolivia · 27/04/2016 22:01

I once had 3 pensioners (men) turn their chairs away from me in protest, in our local Waitress cafe. I only realised (a lot) later why they did it..

viciousstarling · 27/04/2016 22:02

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FrikkaDilla · 27/04/2016 22:03

Is Timetomuskup a typical breastfeeder? She says...

" I got it occasionally, even from MIL and family, who ought to know me well enough to know that I'm pig-headed at the best of times, and quite deliberately breastfed both DCs glaringly obviously from then on. You want to feed your child, feed your child. If it bothers folk they can pop to Ikea and buy some muslins to shove over their heads for privacy. Tell them so. Knobbers."

I don't even know what to say to someone who posts something like this but I thought it kind of epitomised what is so wrong with the age of women behaving badly and bad manners and entitlement.

Is this why breastfeeding in public is an issue just now?

Understandable perhaps.

DoJo · 27/04/2016 22:03

Is nobody else going to post this? Ok then, it looks like it's down to me....

53rdAndBird · 27/04/2016 22:04

But off you go you ladies of the feminist variety. Get yer kicks that way? That's fine for you, but not for others.

Yeah, you got me. It's all about getting my kicks. There I was, childless and forlorn, thinking "is there NOWHERE in the 21st century I can show people my breasts?", when the solution came to me - have a baby! For the low, low price of pregnancy, birth and parenting, I'd have an excuse to show glimpses of my breasts to strangers. Finally, my life could have purpose!

(Meanwhile, back in the real world, I always felt like draping a huge blanket/shawl/"udder cover", urgh/whatever over myself would make it MORE obvious to anyone who looked that I was breastfeeding, not less...)

KatsutheClockworkOctopus · 27/04/2016 22:05

People may also be very uncomfortable is situations where blatant and ridiculous misogyny is visible Dubby, yet you still continue posting.

I bf my DS all over the place, and the only negative comment I had was from my boss, who told me not to even think about feeding him in the office. She is a senior HR Manager...

TooLazyToWriteMyOwnFuckinPiece · 27/04/2016 22:06

I did get my nipples out regularly in someone's face - my baby's face. Did you forget about them dugs when you were ranting?
You can rant away though as you have the right to freedom of expression, just as babies have the right to be fed milk anywhere that babies are allowed to be.

TooLazyToWriteMyOwnFuckinPiece · 27/04/2016 22:06

Whoops dubby, not dugs. Though either quite fitting I suppose.

DubbyDubDub · 27/04/2016 22:08

@ vicious, has drink been taken tonight by you? LOL

Hope you expressed already as it seems you are a member of the BF Harridans group think crowd already.

ItsInTheDogsMouth · 27/04/2016 22:10

I was asked not feed bf my dd whilst sitting on the edge of a local swimming pool. Apparently someone in the cafe has complained. I'm sure more flesh was on display from women wearing scimpy bikini tops than could be seen with my dd head in the way. Sadly it was in the early days of my bf journey and i was not confident enough to stand my ground. Years later, with dd2, i wouldn't have been so mild mannered.

cdtaylornats · 27/04/2016 22:11

Personally I think the cafe should charge corkage.

LaurieMarlow · 27/04/2016 22:13

It's very simple. The law protects your right to breastfeed wherever you and your baby have a right to be.

The law doesn't make provision for other people's delicate sensibilities. The law does not require you to be 'discreet' whatever the fuck that means.

It is not 'entitled' to feed your baby in public without covering yourself with a blanket, skulking in a corner, or camping out in the loo. It's your right, protected by law and I'd be clear about that to those who challenge.

viciousstarling · 27/04/2016 22:13

no I'm fully sober and breastfeeding my child on a train station bench. can you respond coherently to that or...?

DubbyDubDub · 27/04/2016 22:14

Oh ladies, I love you for BF. I did it myself back in the old days.

I just think this "in yer face" stuff with BF these days is a bit offputting for those who are not BF, never had kids, are male or whatever.

But go for it, get yer dugs out and feed. Who really cares except all those around you who might not be comfortable with looking at your nether regions. For that is what they are to repressed Britons if they object!

Just feed the child in a discreet way. What in the hell is wrong with that?

Statement making I think from those who want to make a statement!

WellErrr · 27/04/2016 22:15

Just have a bit of thought for others. That's all. Nothing too bad about that is there?

Well you seem to be struggling.
I've reported you for goady fuckery.

Yeah, you got me. It's all about getting my kicks. There I was, childless and forlorn, thinking "is there NOWHERE in the 21st century I can show people my breasts?", when the solution came to me - have a baby! For the low, low price of pregnancy, birth and parenting, I'd have an excuse to show glimpses of my breasts to strangers. Finally, my life could have purpose!

53rd Grin

SalemSaberhagen · 27/04/2016 22:15

ODFO Dubby. And it's your. Your use of 'yer' is making my teeth itch.

viciousstarling · 27/04/2016 22:17

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redexpat · 27/04/2016 22:17

No Dubby I don't know that saying. Again, tell us about your involvement in the no more page 3 campaign.

JuxtapositionRecords · 27/04/2016 22:17

Someone is bored tonight hey dubby?

WellErrr · 27/04/2016 22:17

Incidentally Dubby, have you had much involvement with the No More Page 3 campaign?

You seem to feel quite strongly about breasts in public.

viciousstarling · 27/04/2016 22:18

WHY ARE YOU CALLING BREASTS DUGS ?! GrinHmm

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