Getting my boobs out

[wannabehippyandcrazycatlover]

I thought it was all a hoax about people making judgey comments about breastfeeding in public and that no one in their right mind would actually say anything...

Today I was unfortunately proved wrong, I was told by a gentleman that it was highly inappropriate for me to get my boob out and feed my baby in a cafe. I thought I was being quite discreet but obviously not in his opinion.

I was so shocked I couldn't say anything, I didn't think that this actually happened . Has anyone else experienced this? I'm quite upset about it (although won't stop me doing it in future) and can see why some women stop BF if they get comments like that on a regular basis.

Oops, should have addressed nappyslayer in that last post, apologies Laurie

Haha Anna, I was wondering

Then unhook my bra giving everyone a good GOOD look at my bare breasts......THEN proceeding to pick up the baby completely topless and feed him/her

This did not happen. Except in the poster's fevered imagination. So no need to comment on it. What with it being fiction an' all

I always love a good tale of ostentatious BF, then you think back to what you thought every time you were feeding your hungry baby,

1.'shush, shushalright buddy lets get this done'

1. Flip top up
2. Flop top down
3. Thinks why the fuck did I wear so much this shit is going to blow
4. Unhook fiddly bra
5. Mental note stop wearing fiddly bra
6. Take out boob
7. Shove on baby
8. Aw look at that.......silence

Hmmmm look at that dick over there embellishing that tale

I fed in front of everyone,including my 2 teenage sons.
They were not fazed in the least.The only time i went out of the room to bf was if someone was annoying me,it was my get out clause.

Flowers I've been thinking about your post. I haven't AS'd you so all I know of you is what you put in this thread.

I'm sorry you haven't been able to have your own baby yet. I know exactly how that feels as we tried for 6 years before having our twins.

I'm going to try to explain because I don't think you get it:

Breastfeeding is natural yes. Many women find it very easy. Lots don't.

Like anything, it's something you and the baby face to learn and practice. You get better over time.

It took me and my DT1 3 months to get the hang of it. It took me and DT2 6 months to get the hang of it.

Breastfeeding my twins was one of the hardest thing I have ever done and it is genuinely the achievement I am most proud of so far.

My breasts were agony, my nipples were cracked and shredded. My tailbone was damaged by pregnancy/labour and sitting for a long time was painful. My section scar got infected and caused me additional pain. I lost 5 stone feeding because it takes 1000 calories a day to feed twins so I was on protein shakes to stop me losing too much weight.

I existed on about 2 hours sleep a day for 7 months as my twins never slept at the same time.

To summarise, during the first 6 months feeding my twins I was in severe pain, seriously sleep deprived and really not that well at all.

In the early days when your baby cries your hormones go completely wild. Your breasts fill to bursting (painfully) with milk. Nothing and no one is more important than feeding your baby RIGHT NOW.

Getting a good latch is hard and can take a few goes. You need to be able to see the position of the babies head and jaw, you can't do that under a cover.

I'm not exaggerating any of this. So do you see why women who need to feed their babies aren't minding their manners. Why they aren't (in your view) being considerate.

I really really hope you can have a baby. I think it's wonderful you plan to breastfeed. I'd love it if you'd come back and post about what you've learned afterwards.

I've breast fed 4, anywhere and everywhere, in front of male relatives and male friends. The only line in the sand for me was teenage DS's mates, but that was more for his/their sensibilities than mine.

Alrightey then

Did you never feed in front of your make relations Nappyslayer?

As I said upthread thenappyslayer, I fed in front of DF, who felt "uncomfortable". Tough shit, his DGD was having her lunch while we were having ours.

laughing at the idea that us exhibitionist BFers wouldn't actually do it in front of male relatives....of course we do. My DF, DB, DBIL, Uncles, cousins...the lot.

Of course being such an exhibitionist I didn't just wait for the above to happen to be around when the baby got hungry...no, I got on a train travelled the 120 odd miles south and then sat, top half exposed until the baby eventually woke up and got interested....

And as I said upthread, the only reason my dad even knew I was bfing was because he happened to ask for a cuddle with my baby at that moment. He had assumed that I was merely cuddling her.

IceBeing

You are talking nonsense monkey.
Nudity is not sexual or overtly stimulating. It is only artfully designed semi-concealing clothing that teases and causes excitement.

I've been brought up in a naturist family and as an adult regularly go naked amongst strangers. I have never, ever seen a man excited by naked women in public.

When primitive humans migrated north they first wore animal skins against the cold and much later woven cloth. Then as you say clothes became fashionable, but that is a different reason for wearing them altogether.

It is perfectly legal to be naked in public in the UK, unless it is done with the deliberate intention of causing offence. Certainly the exposure of nipples whether female or male is not an offensive act. It is only a problem for a minority of people with abnormal feelings, and I feel sorry for them.

Now I have to say I don't have children (hopefully in a few years!) I'm flicking through this thread because my work is actually doing a massive project on encouraging women to breastfeed. But this thread has literally been so eye-opening.

It's a totally natural thing to do, I don't understand why it's made into such a big deal - no one makes a song and dance if the see someone not eating their sandwich discreetly so why would you make a big deal our of a baby eating?!

I can see why mothers can be put off when people like Flowers have the attitude they do - absolutely no excuse. Feel free to stare away and try to deliberately make me uncomfortable if I am lucky enough to be able to breastfeed in the future, just don't be surprised if I whap other boob and spray you in the face.

What kind of project rwilkinson? I'm interested because I think it's a complex issue and current approaches to driving takeup are quite flawed.

LaurieMarlow Scottish Government project designed to help new mothers during the early days of breastfeeding. It's aimed at looking at the most common reasons women stop breastfeeding and improving the support to them at those stages. One of the big things that came out of the research that there didn't seem to be a lot of support for new mothers once they left the hospital so it's really focusing on having a network of people online that can help with any questions and issues they're having.

Sounds like a great project rwilkinson

I sat struggling to feed my babies on the maternity ward 3 feet from a huge sign lauding breastfeeding while a staff member told me that I should just 'get used to the idea' that I wasn't going to be able to feed twins myself.

Only one of the health visitors who came to see me when I got home from hospital was serious about helping me feed. The other one told me I was selfishly starving my baby (one twin struggled to latch in the first week).

Lots and lots more work is required in this area, so very best of luck.

Alright guys be honest would you breast feed in front of your brother or dad with stray boobage???? Hmmmmmm???? Since its so natural and normal and not sexual.

Yes.

And my dad is so straight laced he can't SAY "breast" he says "nursing an infant" or "feeding... without a bottle".

But he's absolutely fine with me doing it, it's what mothers of little babies do.

Also if male family members think of female family members in a sexual way, that is weird. It's not women's jobs to place themselves in the victim role, and men as monsters without control, to the extent that they stop doing something pretty normal because they fear their own male relatives. Boak.

Sallying and Blue, that's complete and utter nonsense - so why do they not go around stark naked in the Med countries in summer, let alone Australia and Africa, or here on a hot day?

Ever been on a beach in the Balearics?

Boobs here, boobs there. Bare and uncovered and with teeny pants on the bottom. Big, small, young, old, pert, wrinkly, plastic and natural like some pacifist version of Game of Thrones.
No men running around with hard ons. Children playing happily making sandcastles.

This annoys me so much. It's absolutely unbelievable that in 2016 there are still arseholes people that think they have the right to attempt to shame breastfeeding mothers. If it makes people uncomfortable, they should avert their gaze.

Some of these posts are really weird. I can't understand why anyone else thinks it's any of their business when mothers are breastfeeding their baby - why comment, why stare, why think anything at all about it? Just don't look if you are bothered! Really it is that simple.

I sat boobs out in front of my BIL, whom I had only just met the week before, breastfeeding my one day old baby! He didn't bat an eyelid. Maybe because he is a paramedic, or maybe because he isn't a dick. I had just had a baby and was stunned and getting my head around it all. Whats more, it was my house, so I wasn't going to censor myself for anyone!

Alright guys be honest would you breast feed in front of your brother or dad with stray boobage???? Hmmmmmm???? Since its so natural and normal and not sexual.

Yep. And have. Fed in front of my dad when DD1 was 10 days on and we were both crap at BF. Lots of stray boobage on show due to multiple attempts at latching required.

Also fed in front of FIL with both DDs who, in both cases, were at the 'popping off to have a good nosy round' stage. And to round it all off I fed in front of the minister who baptised DD1 - this was also at PILs' house, same stage of development, and I'd never even met the man. He didn't bat an eyelid.

Most men aren't dicks about BF, actually.

Yep, I've fed in front of my dad, father in law and brother in law, just last night actually