Getting my boobs out

[wannabehippyandcrazycatlover]

I thought it was all a hoax about people making judgey comments about breastfeeding in public and that no one in their right mind would actually say anything...

Today I was unfortunately proved wrong, I was told by a gentleman that it was highly inappropriate for me to get my boob out and feed my baby in a cafe. I thought I was being quite discreet but obviously not in his opinion.

I was so shocked I couldn't say anything, I didn't think that this actually happened . Has anyone else experienced this? I'm quite upset about it (although won't stop me doing it in future) and can see why some women stop BF if they get comments like that on a regular basis.

I was the same Need my dd fed constantly and if I didn't feed in front of people no one would ever see her!

Before I had dd I always thought 'whats the big deal about breast feeding in a toilet? I would do it'
Fast forward to now, there is no way I'm feeding my baby in a toilet...

Flowers you are not reading a word anyone has said to you. I would sing it, if I thought it would help or send up smoke signals:

A woman is feeding her baby, not offending you. If you choose to be offended so be it. Guaranteed if you breastfeed in the future and I truely hope you do, you will offend someone too because many, many people think you should not BF at all, because breasts are for sex.

Why do you think people wear clothes?

Because in our climate it's cold without them.
There is nothing indecent or disgusting about the human body. We all have them.

squizita

Thats fantastic, I really hope you have family support in RL?

My sister has bad anxiety and OCD also, she can't bear to watch dd eat solid food because of how messy she gets, so I always give her something dry to nibble on if we are out with my sister.

Its not like we are feeding to offend anyone, thats what pissed me off the most about flowers post

Just ignore her,

Her posting style is goady as fuck and she is just using this thread to vent about something, she isn't reading the replies..

Except for possibly this woman, are there really that many nursing mothers who would want to make sure they feed in the most public place possible? I haven't seen any who specifically walk to the middle of the room to do it.

Ollie I cannot stand the sound of cutlery on plates, it is a sensory thing even thinking about it gives me shudders.

I am going to walk up to random strangers from now on and give them what for about offending me with their indiscreet use of silverware .

Ollie Luckily I have a supportive family yes.

I seem to have won a genetic lotto whereby a family of anxious/sensitive creatives bred with a family of mild spectrum maths/engineer types.

Mind you we all have good skin LOL so you don't lose them all.

Why do you think people wear clothes?

Because it's blooming cold at the moment, and in some circumstances for safety.

Otherwise, there's no true need to wear clothes, though many people may have reasons why they choose to do so. It's just a social construct, and not legally necessary (in the UK).

Here is the thing Katherina that is obviously a post about a woman making a point.

However in the middle of our toddler groups, in the middle of the floor women have done the exact same thing, playing and supervising their toddler while feeding their newborn. Feeding anywhere and everywhere not hiding away in discrete corners. Offending whom ever felt like getting offended.

I'll just share this....

My jaw is on the floor reading this thread.Some posters who shall remain nameless,are complete oddballs and obviously dont understand what sharing a space means.

If breastfeeding offend you,then you stay home.

I bf all 5 of my kids anywhere and eveywhere.Most people where lovely.

I did have 2 people however one an older lady giving out i was bf in a cafe.Mind you i was in the parent and baby part of the cafe.Lovely chairs wiht cushions that you could really relax.

So i asked her where her child was,considering she was sitting in the parent and baby part.She moved.

Another i was in McDonalds having something to eat and an employee comes over and asks would i mind doing that in the toilet.I said the baby would eat in the toilet when they had their lunch in there.He left me alone as well.

Laurie - . If a bit of stray boob saw the light of day during that process, so fucking be it I'm printing that on t shirts I'm dying.

Alright guys be honest would you breast feed in front of your brother or dad with stray boobage???? Hmmmmmm???? Since its so natural and normal and not sexual.

Would the lady on the tube who bent over topless to get her kid to feed him/her have done that if she was travelling with her father and brother somewhere and they were sitting opposite her ??

That's a genuine question. I breastfed in public all the time and didn't give a shit but im not such a mummy martyr that I assume OTT behaviour RE BF is impossible and never ever ever happens. Come on.

Sallying and Blue, that's complete and utter nonsense - so why do they not go around stark naked in the Med countries in summer, let alone Australia and Africa, or here on a hot day? YOU think there';s nothing indecent, but if you don't want to see men walking around with hard-ons because they see - and CAN'T HELP reacting - to young women being naked, let alone poor teenage boys who are still embarassed about their emerging sexuality or most women who don't want sexual attention, or older people who'd rather not parade their ailing bodies, then do not establish no-nudity in public laws!

If you also take into account that sadly many people are not hygienic and would smell - close to you in transport - just yuk! Do you honestly want to see someone coming out of the toilet naked, especially as men do NOT use toilet paper after peeing!

Yes, bodies are natural - and in ALL their nakedness can be seen and shown in private to people who actually like and are attracted to your body. Most people would not want others' warts and all apperanace in start daylight!

Clothes are not just for warmth and decency either, they are a status symbol, style expression and needed in office environment as a uniform - imagine business meetings with everyon'e bits dangling - just yuk again! For people who want that sort of experience, they are welcome to use nudist clubs/beaches or maybe swingers clubs (note even there people dress-up, for a reason!) Or how about a cave in a forest? we are not simple animals and the vast majority is very happy with that fact.

Oh and maybe you'd want to abolish toilet walls altogether, and be like cats and dogs - natural after all!

The reason breast-feeding is the only exception and legally allowed is that baby's feeding can't be always planned/timed - even though as any bodily function is not pleasant to see if breast/s are completely exposed - and because a mother wouldn't actually parade around so it's usually not in your face. But overall nudity for all (in hot weather)? you can try a desert island for that.

AugustaFinkNottle I breastfed everywhere. I just didn't pull my top up to my.collar bone. Then unhook my bra giving everyone a good GOOD look at my bare breasts......THEN proceeding to pick up the baby completely topless and feed him/her. I already said it's so rare it's a moot point but if / when it happens what's wrong with daring to say it was a little cringey ? By the way as I said when I posted I was bored and nonpulsed but I don't think the school girl opposite her was wrong for going bright red. Or the city worker who frowned and turned the other way. Just to be clear : no one should ever ever ever approach someone and chide them for feeding their child. Ever. Ever. Even if they take off their top and swing it around their head throw it across the pavement and after feeding their kid spray everyone with breast milk

Alright guys be honest would you breast feed in front of your brother or dad with stray boobage???? Hmmmmmm???? Since its so natural and normal and not sexual.

I've breastfed in front of my brother. I have no idea how much boob was showing - I don't make a habit of measuring.

What the actual fuck is "stray boobage"?

And yes, I happily fed my babies in front of my brothers and my fil.. And would have done in front of my own father, had he not been dead.

Would I BF in front of my Dad or brother with stray boobage?

I BF the same every where I go, my Dad and Mum were utter twats when I started feeding many moons ago. Now after 6 BF grandchildren they wouldn't bat an eyelid. Since my most of my DBs' kids were BF they don't even notice it is going on or care for that matter.

thenappyslayer, I honestly don't recall. I didn't do anything differently in front of my brothers/Dad/FIL. I can't guarantee my boobs never went astray in front of them. But I also assume they weren't paying much attention. They certainly weren't staring directly at them as I would have noticed that.

Oh and my FIL was the most encouraging about BF from all of them as he is always reading health articles.

"Then unhook my bra giving everyone a good GOOD look at my bare breasts......THEN proceeding to pick up the baby completely topless and feed him/her"

This did not happen. Except in the poster's fevered imagination. So no need to comment on it. What with it being fiction an' all.

LovePGtipsMonkey

You clearly have no understanding, let alone experience, of non-sexual nudity. Not only that, you clearly have such a low impression of men, thinking that they cannot control their own sexual desires! In naturist settings, there are NO men walking around with hard-ons, and there are NO women being uncomfortable from unwanted sexual attention. It just DOES NOT HAPPEN! I haven't always been a naturist, so I do understand your closed mindedness - it was such a refreshing change when talking to men who look at my face/eyes when talking to me, rather than looking me up and down as happens when clothed!

I'm not sure what you mean when you say YOU think there';s nothing indecent... then do not establish no-nudity in public laws! There are no no-nudity in public laws, and it's not a law I'd want to bring about. As I said previously, apart from a very few places with specific by-laws, nudity in public is NOT illegal.

As for the rest of your post, it's ridiculous. And in a round-about way has brought up the old anti-BF stand-by: comparing urination with breastfeeding because they're both "natural". Grow up.

thenappyslayer currently bf a 6 week old, last Friday was in a restaurant for tea with dp and fil. Baby was hungry, tried a bottle of expressed - how dare I when I have the boobs? (Reaction of baby) had to bf, fil ended up cutting up my steak for me so I could eat it with one hand. I do take ebm with me and try that first but sometimes baby Just won't have it. I also try to sit next to a wall or the end of a table for my own privicy, but won't go out of my way to ask to be put in a corner or anything like that.

Laurie

Yes, I breast fed in front of my Dad, FIL, BIL, Uncle and a adult male cousin.

One Christmas I fed in front of them all at once. I was feeding twins simultaneously, no cover in place I'd have needed a tent.

Not one of those men thought the occasional glimpse of breast (more frequent when simultaneous feeding) was offensive or exhibitionist or indiscreet. I'm bloody sure none of them found it sexual.

My FIL wasn't that comfortable initially but soon got over himself. Being a clever man he realised it was his issue.

My family sat, that Christmas and at loads of other occasions with me breastfeeding my babies with out batting an eyelid. Because it's normal.

I fed in front of all my DH's friends and all my friends DH's. I fed when the postman, plumber and gasman visited. I fed when the minister came to call.

I fed (with 2 or 3 friends) at the party after our twin's Christening in front of all my male relatives and all my DH's male relatives.

I've fed in cafes, offices, shopping centres, play parks, museums and the local church.

Pretty much every man I know has seen glimpses of my breasts as I fed twins for nearly 18 months.

No one died. No one got upset, no one even commented at any time.

BertrandRussell Yes it happened
And I didn't give a flying booby nippley shit. I'm simply saying so what if some one gets embarrassed ?? Again now - no one should ever chide someone for breastfeeding ever.