AIBU to ask if you weren't maternal/ wasn't a fan of children...whether you had children yourself..?

[Brighttulips]

....And if so, how did it turn out?

I am just not maternal, in the slightest. I don't look at children at all and find them endearing or cute (apart from a couple of exceptions and that's only occasionally!)

I am 32 next month and am thinking that perhaps my maternal/ biological clock will never start ticking. Maybe I will never be a fan of children or desperately long for one of my own....but time isn't on my side anymore, my DP would love to have children and he'd make a fantastic father. I would want to be married first, but I guess, really if I am going to do it, I would need to start TTC by the time I was about 34.

Has anyone ever just taken the plunge and found that they adored their own child...just never anyone else's?

I'm the most unmaternal person I've ever met. I've never been around children, there was nobody in my family younger than me when I was growing up. I never knew what to say to them when I met them, and I assumed I'd be a terrible mother. Even now I don't know what to say or how to deal with other people's children, it's like they're aliens.

But I think I'm really good with my own :) I didn't have them til I was 34 and 36 though, but they were most definitely wanted by that stage. It happened very quickly for me - that decision to have them. The 33-year-old me would've been quite happy to be child-free forever.