To dislike my friends daughter?

[Thebrowntrout]

Am thinking yes.

She's 3. (I know, there are going to be a tonne of outraged SHE'S 3 posts. But stay with me.)

She demands to be carried everywhere. Won't go in the pushchair (she's a bit on the big side for it anyway) and friend has a younger DD as well who is 9 months and is generally carried in a sling or pushchair. So either friend has to struggle and stagger with the weight of two children or carry one on her hip with the other in the pushchair,

She wants what she wants immediately. Now. She will scream she wants a tissue. Friend gives her a tissue. She will continue screaming and screaming that she wants a tissue. These screaming fits are pretty much constant.

The younger child is pretty much ignored since friend is constantly dealing with older one, and you can't talk to friend at all due to behaviour of child 1.

So here are my questions - AIBU to think friend should possibly be encouraging child NOT to behave like this, and avoid friend because of it? The screaming is hard on the ears.

And when do they behave like humans? This child will be starting school in 16 months and surely won't be behaving like this then?

Your friend will be finding it hard to juggle them, her 9 month old needs her much more than the 3 year old, but her 3 year old is used to having her mum to herself and a new baby can be a huge adjustment for kids. Some cope better than others. Your friend is most likely doing her very best, you should be more supportive and offer her help, or a break from the kids if you can (not sure if you have kids) I have a five year old and twin 9 month olds and the babies obviously monopolise my time, I am very lucky my DS1 is very patient and has adjusted brilliantly to being a big brother DS2 is mostly quite placid and DD is shout til she gets her own way! All kids are different and she will mostly grow out of it and be an excellent big sister by the time she's four, but for now, don't criticise your friend, support her as much as you can, because you know she's having a tough time

Oh good lord. Have you seen this thread is all over The Daily Mail.....

Let's hope your friend doesn't recognise you

Oh ffs,lazy arsed journalists

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3556290/Is-OK-DISLIKE-child-Woman-sparks-fury-online-complaining-t-stand-friend-s-three-year-old-girl.html

Come on everyone....check if you've been quoted!

I was just reading this thread then (hangs head in shame) checked daily mail showbiz app and found this very thread!

You've sparked fury op!! Be appropriately ashamed

I have a friend whose first 3 kids turned into demon child at 2 and stayed that way until 5. She did jump at their every demand and did the whole carry them at all times etc. No 4 and 5 didn't do that, she had run out of arms to carry every screamer. She no longer had the financial and emotional resources to fulfill every wish. I thought oh no, how will you cope when she announced no 4 and 5, but with hindsight it was what they all needed.

I'd ask for this thread to be deleted OP, you have revealed personal stuff on it.

The politically correct, hippy loons will be shocked that anyone could ever dislike a child, but some children are horrendous brats whose company is intolerable. It sounds like you're frustrated with your friend's parenting style (I would be too, she's making a rod for her own back) so it would probably be best if you try to meet up with her sans kids. Might do her some good to escape the brat and have some grown up time. And yes, I have kids, I'm just not blind or brainwashed - some kids are horrid.

Amazing, that's my quote in the middle of the photo headline! Blurry but I know it's me
Aww, check me out!
Sadly, I did have to click on the scuzzy link to find it, I now feel dirty.

^hope this makes the papers 😱

Thebrowntrout: you are completely out of order. But not as out of order as the Evil Child Tired Parents sketch that was on Mumsnet four weeks ago. Hilarious...

Kusstard did you come from the daily mail link?

It's a sad day when people come on MN and talk of politically correct hippy loons.

MN used to he great because it was free from stuff like that. When it was all green fields etc etc.

Politically correct hippy loons
Waiting for a string of "vote UKIP" posts now. Gwan, you know you want to

politically incorrect hippy loons = people who aren't twats

in the main

anyway I had better behave or I will get an

[behaves]

If I were you OP I'd get theis deleted pretty quickly, if anyone who knows you does and AS they'll find enough info to identify you.

Maybe you don't care but once you reach the DM numbers of views you might have a sticky time with your friend

Uh oh!

This is a sobering lesson in what one posts on here which I will note before ever posting about my fuckwit bil in any detail.

Ah now, OP thought I was stupid was saying she could be identified from her thread, don't make her angry again.

I've messaged MNHQ - I hope they do something quickly.

jesus fucking christ. I cant believe threads are getting turned into news stories in the daily heil.

incredibly lazy shit journalism at best, and im really surprised mumsnet allow it.

You'd think they could even write an article about the topic, not just lift it from here. Arses.