significant birthday

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So last month it was my birthday, the one before a big significant #0. Had a meal for family. My brother and his fiancé were there and I mentioned that next years birthday was the big one and as it is going to fall on a Saturday I'm planning on throwing a big party. I don't really get on great with future sis in law. Always feel like she looks down her nose at me as I'm a single mum. Any hoo.... Fast forward to today and I've just received a save the date card for their wedding... For the date I want to throw my party on!!! Aibu to feel she has done this on purpose?? I'm really upset that my special birthday will now be overshadowed by their wedding!

Dicks.......if the cap fits love and all that....

OP, what a shitty situation you're in. And one that could have totally been avoided. I hope your birthday celebrations are lovely, whenever they happen. Birthdays are important and I understand why you might be feeling slighted and pissed off by their behaviour.

Pity party for one! Is that the worlds tiniest violin I hear playing a lament. Sheesh you're such a child!

God what a nasty down right horrible comment to make.

Well done. You have the makings of a goady fucker troll sock puppet dumbass deliberately obtuse and childish person spot on! I look forward to your opinions on other threads in the foreseeable future.

Agree Laguna like I said with my apparently shit expression "keyboard warriors"

Ooooh goody can't wait rofl

Incidentally saluki you do realise you can't refer to yourself as a lurked if, y'know, you don't just lurk? You've posted before tonight you devious rascal!

Inst this entertaining, something to do at least to fill in the hours of insomnia. Quite right I have replied to a couple of threads, 2 I think. If you want to be pedantic, I WAS a lurker until very recently
I shall look forward to some sparring lol

Look forward to sparring all you want, deliberately seeking out and pestering members, just because you don't like them, will get you deleted though. Just a word or warning. So perhaps just use the site like everyone else does...

Apologies to the OP for overtaking your thread. I hope you have a great party

I haven't "pestered" anyone I made an observation. Likewise expect to be challenged on your "opinions" touche

By the way I didn't seek you out, funnily enough you appear on nearly every controversial thread I've read, not favourably to the OP usually either. Pick the bones out of that

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You should go back to lurking, posting ain't your thing it seems sockpuppet

Won't be a great party. Everyone will be at the wedding!

Why assume the worst? A more charitable interpretation of all this is that the brother is being a bit inconsiderate and a bit cowardly in planning the event the same day and then not warning the OP, perhaps to avoid conflict, rather than being downright spiteful. And, as someone pointed out earlier, he is the one who has chosen to spend less time with his nephew, his future wife can't make that decision for him. He is also jointly responsible for the wedding date. Not sure why all the blame is being directed at the SIL, he is an adult and is responsible for his own decisions.

Paul and Smarter you have probably both bullied the OP off her actual thread! Why say it won't be a good party as everyone will be at the wedding when we've already established the wedding is not finalised yet? It seems like you made your minds up earlier on, and now even with new information you can't give advice to the OP you are intent on sticking to your guns that the OP is wrong and that's that.

Bullied? Grow up, ffs.

You lot are actually being unpleasant. I know aibu is meant to be straight talking but there's no need to be a cunt is there.

I don't think its as unpleasant as the people advising how to wreck your siblings wedding plans and con vicars just because you want your birthday to be super special to everyone.
The OP was unreasonable, but its the encouraging posters that are the real problem here. Far more unpleasant than "us lot" of normal sane people with the correct position

But smarter the wedding hadn't actually been booked. Sil/bro appear to have chorn the OPs birth date specifically to ruin her pre existing plans. It puts a different slant on the advice to go ahead and have her party on her birthday, does it not?

My money is still on a switch to a summer wedding once sufficient shit has been stirred.