To be annoyed at my dad for making me feel awkward breastfeeding

[crunchymummy]

When he comes round and I feed DS he always leaves the room, "I'm just going to check on the dinner." "I'm just going to go for a walk"

UGH I'd like to feel comfortable feeding my son in my own house

AIBU to be annoyed?

Awww your poor wee dad feels a bit uncomfortable when his dd gets her norks out in close proximity to him so politely makes an excuse to leave the room.

Nothing wrong with that and he probably cant help how he feels, if you know he feels this way can you compromise a little and cover up just for him (or alternatively find jobs for him to do for you)?

Flowers was being sarcastic

Yabu. Leave him lane,

Alone

agree with the majority of other comments in saying that yabu, hes probably just uncomfortable as you are his daughter, tbh i dont think id feel comfortable bf infront of my father without having a nursing cover, and even then id still find it awkward my father being in the room!

Yabvu.

My dad always did the same when my baby needed feeding. He retired in my late pregnancy and as my mum was still working he was round every day! When my dd needed feeding he left the living room, went to make a brew, sat at my kitchen table and read baby books, then came back and told me what i needed to be eating etc...

You have the right to bf when and where ever necessary. But other have the right to not be there for it if they dont want to be.

I was a bit uncomfortable reading your post, OP. Did you expect him to narrate the event? Watch with interest? Join in somehow?

I can quite see why he wanted to leave. He's not making you uncomfortable but you are in danger of doing that to him. He made a polite excuse to leave the room but you think he shouldn't have? His discomfort doesn't register or matter to you?

Your dad sounds nice - and with plenty of sensitivity. Let people stay if you don't mind them there - but also be prepared to let them leave if they want to. Perhaps have a list of small tasks/things you could want fetching, to give the bolters something to do whilst you're feeding.

He'll run out of jobs eventually :)

If someone complains about breastfeeding in public, everyone says "If you don't like it, don't look". If someone leaves the room rather than see you, you complain that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Meh it's fine to be disappointed that someone you love can't be in the same room while you breastfeed.

I'd be a bit 'what a tit' too.

what a tit - seriously? People can breastfeed where and when they want (quite rightly). That doesn't mean that people have to be comfortable sitting with them whilst they do it, it's not up to anyone to dictate what someone should feel comfortable with. What a silly attitude.

Them's feeding tits not looking at tits. SORRY MISS

Was he Oliver Twist?

Who actually speaks like that?

It's not up to you to dictate what I should think.
Jesus.

Not to be a tit, but you kind of answered your own question Worra. Oliver Twist!

'Who actually speaks like that?'

Few years back, in London, skinny white boys with their arses hanging out of their trousers and their baseball caps on backwards to look cool, about 16-18 years oild

oild? Old.
Could have been stoned though. Very loud and gobby.

You implied that people who are uncomfortable watching someone breastfeed are tits. I can't really see what is wrong with someone challenging that insulting attitude. But hey! Each to their own...

True Paul

I've lived in London all my life but I've never heard 'thems', or a teenager calling a random woman Miss.

Obviously I'm not saying they don't speak like that, but the idea just made me laugh

Yeah I do think that people who really can't stand being in the same room as a breastfeeding mum are tits.

I didn't say that I would lock the door, fling off my bra and insist they give a blow by blow account of proceedings.

So you insulted a large group of people and I challenged it. Nothing wrong with that, it's how life works.

Agree PaulAnka; it is very insulting and unnecessary and it's an attitude that should be challenged. Urgh.

My DF used to leave the room when I was BFing. I think I probably would have done the same pre DS, just to give some privacy. However when friends/family left the room when I was BFing, I felt a little left out of the social occasion. I hadn't thought I'd feel that way, but I did.

He's not BU. But neither are you for questioning it. You're going to have to awkwardly get used to each other's awkwardness.

it's not up to anyone to dictate what someone should feel comfortable with.

But I didn't.

So you insulted a large group of people and I challenged it.

And your 'challenge' was so darn clever that I have changed my mind!
I think now that family members who can't stand to be in the same room as breast feeding mums are actually pretty awesome!

Very clever Helmet...

Some people just have to Make.A.Point. Only their view matters, only their comfort and sensibilities.

I don't know people like this in RL, thank god.