Aibu to have handed my dd over to my dh and refused to deal with things for a while

[Sothisishowitfeels]

I have posted God knows how many posts on here about my youngest Dd (5 months) I just can't deal with it anymore, she is such incredibly hard work she screams for hours on end she comes out in random rashes, she has excema she, is terrible to feed, she wakes regularly at night. She has been in hospital twice already with chest infections, she is constantly snotty and dribbling to the extreme and has been since birth. She scratches herself constanly if you allow her access to her body - she has a bleeding cut on her leg which she did with her own finger despite me cutting her nails down as far as I physically can.

She cuts herself and bleeds so easily - today she had a bleeding cut on her chin which she got from a rusk ffs.

She has non blanching spots which I'm told are petichae but no one is told me why she gets these on her legs.

I have asked our go about these issues but because I have pnd (which frankly isn't surprising) he just asks me how I am sleeping etc.

This is not my first rodeo - she is my 6th child but I just can't take it anymore she screamed for hours on end today. today I have told him that I need him to do something . He works long hours, I know that I am probably asking the impossible but I am too tired to care.

I blurted it all out to him, showed him photos of our day which were various rashes, screaming and cuts and he has said he is calling the gp tomorrow to find out wtf is going on and tell them it's pretty much not in my head which is what I'm sure they believe it is.

He has sat her with me while she screamed for hours solid he knows that she is to say the least difficult.

Was I being unreasonable . I have literally left him holding the baby, he is going to have to take time off work to go to he gp for something that is potentially on my head.

You sound at the end of your tether - and I don't blame you for a second.
The only thing you can do is to keep taking her back to your GP and insist that they do something.
It's totally reasonable to take advantage of having a break when you can. Have a bath, or lay on your bed with headphones listening to music for a while - whatever you find most relaxing.
I had a 'difficult' baby, and know how draining it can be.

My first thought was lactose intolerance. The constant crying, and general misery are very indicative.

Ooooh sorry me again, this has made me get so annoyed about the docs again!!! I'm expecting my 3rd baby in June and already gearing up for a fight if he starts showing these awful signs like my first two! STAY STRONG!!!!

for you all. Another one agreeing that it looks like a possible milk protein allergy ( ds1, got the t-shirt )

My first thought was CMPA also - you can get many weird and wonderful rashes with allergies, along with respiratory issues and pain (which would explain the constant crying). Sympathies for both of you, this sounds horrendous.

As someone said earlier, if you were drinking milk, eating cheese or other dairy when you were breastfeeding then she would have reacted to the dairy proteins in your diet coming through in the breastmilk - breastfeeding a child with allergies essentially means you have to take all allergens out of your own diet to stop this happening.

Definitely a visit to the GP is worth a go, take the pictures of the rashes and explain what's happening. You've had kids once or twice before (6?! Respect!) so you're not a panicking first timer. The thing with rashes is that most doctors haven't a clue what they are (no disrespect intended to my colleagues but everyone I know agrees) so it may be tricky to get a diagnosis. I assume she had blood tests to rule out the major nasty causes of petechial rash / bleeding when she was admitted with her chest infection but if not, then getting a full blood count on her may be worth a try.

In the meantime you could try switching her to a dairy free formula but allergies are tricky things - I know a few children who are allergic to dairy and soy so finding the right milk for them can be a nightmare. The GP should be able to prescribe something you can have (not sure what the UK brand name for it will be but someone else with horribly allergic babies will doubtless know more than me there!). Good luck

Agree milk protein allergy. Just like my DS. GP should refer to a paediatrician! Can get special formula on prescription. Deepest sympathy to you. Hang in there!

OMG. Poor you. Poor baby. This is not in your head.
You must, must, must take a break - it is completely reasonable to have some time to yourself after such a stressful day.
I agree with the posters above - a trip to the GP is essential. Both of my DDs have allergies (dairy & soya) and suffered from rashes (very similar to your DD above) and silent and non-silent (projectile vomit) reflux. You know your baby and you know that she isn't right. Have faith in yourself and stand your ground with your GP. Allergies are not an uncommon thing nowadays and should not be ignored as the sufferer can become increasingly affected as time goes by and be more likely to develop allergies to other things too.
Book an appointment and insist on a referral (dietician/dermatologist/ gastroenterologist) - my GPs practice would not prescribe formula for DD2 without her seeing a dietician.
Good luck xxx

We have nutramigen puramino here.

Nutramigen lipil 1 is for lactose intolerance, puramino is for protein allergy.

Just in case you wanted to ask for a prescription

Hic- she had a blood test which they said was to see if she had an infection in her blood. I'm not sure if that was the same thing - they really struggled to get blood so only managed a few drops! (Which is hard to believe when she makes herself bleed with a rusk!)

The pinprick type rash has been coming and going for a month or two with a really bad one appearing after her jabs last week.

Another one saying cow's milk protein allergy. Neocate, Nutramigen and Althera are the most common specialist milk brands I believe.

Dh is going to ask about milk allergy when he speaks to them so hopefully that will at least start something !

Do not leave that GP's office tomorrow without a script for milk, OP! Stand firm. You need them to exhaust every avenue until the wee love is okay

She is absolutely beautiful, btw. And I know you're exhausted with it all but just keep in mind she is communicating the only way she can and letting you know something isn't right. Whatever that something is - you'll get to the bottom of it. I would definitely start with the milk allergy route first. I would also look at the products touching her skin - washing powder, fabric softner, baby bath, baby wipes, creams, etc. Change/remove one at time and see if it makes a difference - process of elimination.

You'll be okay.

Dh nipped in John Lewis on the way home and got a new set of pjs (in case it was our washing powder and a kilogram jar of montezuma chocolate buttons - for me not the baby!

So I am sitting here sobbing into a massive jar of chocolate.

Sothis, I don't know if it's related by my (dairy allergic) ds also had purple pinprick rash after his jabs which saw him back at the gp sharpish! Turns out it was the force of him screaming so much (Men B jab - he had a terrible time) that he burst tiny bloody vessels in his legs. Don't know if that's useful but you just made me think of it.

The biggest out break was after her jabs!
She has had them apart from that and a few new ones since but by far the worst was after the jabs

Oh bless him

for dh

Try and relax a little bit though I know it's hard.

I'll admit something that is a bit shocking.

When ds was suffering I actually resented my little boy. I wished that I had stopped with one child and that I had never decided to have another. I was exhausted, stressed and at a complete loss at what to do. I was on anti depressants aswell as the doctors said it was PND.

It probably was a bit of PND but I think most of it was stress. Now his allergies are under control (which he appears to be outgrowing thankfully) he has become a lovely little boy and I wouldn't change him for the world.

When I think back to how he was i feel terrible guilt. How could I not see how much my ds was hurting? How could I have hated my own son? But I don't feel guilty for it now much . It was an awful and stressful time

Well, when I say it was definitely the force of him screaming, the gp just threw that out there as a possibility, he was so far from concerned. Perhaps it was related to his dairy allergy afterall? Or perhaps it really was the screaming?? Either way, you're not alone on that one.

NB I do think it was the screaming personally as when I'm sick from alcohol I get purple pin-prick rashes on my legs. I've nearly ended up in A&E myself with them!

As parents we can't give it, but my ds ended up in hospital with bad chicken pox, and he was given an antihistamine by the doctors there. Is it possible for your GP to prescribe an antihistamine for her, just to relieve the itching?

OP I agree with everyone!

Take as much rest as you can. DS was a nightmare when he was tiny. It was ages before we figured out he has some kind of tomato intolerance (figured it out during weaning - he bit a tomato, started screaming and had red dots all round his mouth). Because it wasn't something he was exposed to all the time the screaming would come and go. I can't imagine how you have managed to survive 5 months!

Just wanted to tell you, you are amazing and you're doing a great job! and I really hope that you get to the bottom of it all soon.

Another voice saying CMPA. She sounds so miserable the poor little pet. And so do you! for what you're dealing with.

I'd also be a bit concerned about the pin prick rash. Can you feel it? As in, is it flat or does it feel bumpy or sandpapery? If flat I think she needs investigating a bit more for weird and wonderfuls like vasculitis. (May not show up if she only had a blood count done that time for infection- you often need to check inflammatory markers and other non-standard blood tests). If it feels rough it's more likely relating to the eczema.

I'm a GP. I'd absolutely be starting her on an amino acid/very broken down formula at this stage. She'll hate it at first because they taste awful, but you should have an answer in terms of her skin and misery settling fairly rapidly if it is CMPA.

Get your DH to arm himself with some information tomorrow and prepare to put his foot down.

Just want to sat again please read about cmpa. This sounds identical to my son. I would be convinced this is it. If you are on Facebook look up the cows milk protein allergy page. The girls on that are on that know so much and will tell u the right things to say and ask at the gp.

Good point from fwaffy re the taste, it's bloody awful and mine spat it out several times causing more distress but do persevere as they'll forget the taste of the old milk, I know a few people have put food flavouring in but don't be like me and buy the one with alcohol, luckily I noticed before adding!

God love you both - that sounds terribly hard

I have a 4 month old who ended up in hospital a few weeks ago post her last jabs. She had a ghastly reaction plus a virus and basically collapsed. She was treated fur meningitis ad she had a non/blanching rash. They decided eventually it was viral. I wonder if your little girl might have similar?

My little one is dark haired but my 2 year old and 3 year old are the same colour as your DD. My 3 year old DS has pretty robust skin but my 3 year old DD's is very fragile. Constantly coming out in rashes on her face just from food/milk/snot contact. We were prescribed cream last week (will check the name tomorrow) which is making a real difference

I also agree that both of you must be exhausted and that perhaps your DD has an underlying milk allergy. If you get no joy with the GP, I'd head up to A&E and demand treatment - it's sadly the only way that my friend was taken seriously when her baby had horrific reflux

I don't have any expert advice but feel so terribly sorry for you and your daughter.

She is absolutely beautiful by the way. Enjoy your chocolate

Knew I'd seen this somewhere....