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To spend £1000

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Jaimx86 · 27/03/2016 21:21

I want a luxury spa and Michelin star restaurant for me and my DP. Live in the Midlands, so open to a lot of areas.

Looked at The Priory in Bath and The Grovesnor in Chester so far. I want utter decadence, but not sure whether these places will offer that. Upto £1000 for two nights.

Am I asking too much for the cost?

OP posts:
JolieMadame · 29/03/2016 08:30

In fact this has been one of those threads that posters pile into gleefully.

Doesn't make anyone look good.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 29/03/2016 08:43

There were some rude responses that the op decided must be from poor people. Hmm I think she knew exactly what she was doing.

Silverfoxofwarwick1953 · 29/03/2016 08:44

The OP got some decent answers and information but remained ungrateful and entitled and shallow.

Dustyantique · 29/03/2016 08:58

She was accused of being a twattish, cringeworthy, attention seeking boaster within the first few posts.

You're right, she was. But then she very quickly demonstrated that those accusations were correct.

Ignoring her unpleasantness, I am more intrigued by her stupidity.

To post information such as the county plus locality where you live, your job type and role, the approximate distance to your work, and, unbelievably, your photograph, and then start being incredibly rude to people about many other people on a parenting forum when you are a teacher, takes a special kind of idiocy.

Sparklingbrook · 29/03/2016 09:03

They started a thread in Chat about exactly the same thing before this one and it was completely normal. So not sure what this thread was for really.

xenapants · 29/03/2016 09:09

Honestly, when I see things like this, my first thought is "How empty is this person's head life that spending so much money on something so shallow seems reasonable??"

Queenbean · 29/03/2016 09:13

I imagine than when MNHQ get hold of this thread it's likely to go poof, my guess for "not being in the spirit of the site"

BeaufortBelle · 29/03/2016 09:15

I don't think anyone was particularly rude before the "super poor" quote. The op derailed her own thread. Have been to Lucknow Park for a corporate do. It was alright but there is no way we'd have spent our own money on it. Treated myself to a nail varnish from the spa and decided not to swim in case I was seen by anyone I had to glad hand later. I'm no longer young, slim or beautiful and it may have been a little undignified. Room and bathroom were nice, I had breakfast early and alone because DH couldn't be arsed to talk to anyone else. Breakfast was perfect.

People only want to go to these places because they are buying a slice of "lifestyle" and peering into other people's lives. I'd rather have a quiet weekend at home.

Bearbehind · 29/03/2016 09:22

So not sure what this thread was for really

I suspect it was nothing more than 'look at me and what I can spend on 2 nights away' hence my original comment.

Aside from the Maui wedding thread, OP made some pretty appalling comments about the difference in her and her DP's earnings and her domestic expectations of him because of that on another thread.

The thing is, if she really does earn a lot more than her DP and is a teacher then she's really not in 'utter decadence' territory anyway

As has been said before, the 'poor' comments were in spectacularly bad taste as the reality is, people who can actually afford to do stuff like this on a regular basis don't boast about it.

Queenbean · 29/03/2016 09:23

People only want to go to these places because they are buying a slice of "lifestyle" and peering into other people's lives.

Sorry but what a load of crap. I go to lovely hotels with a nice spa and pool because I love having a massage and like being in a quiet pool which isn't overrun by screaming children. I couldn't give a toss about "peering in to other people's lives".

You may prefer a quiet weekend at home but don't cast judgement on the reason that other people might like to go.

Sparklingbrook · 29/03/2016 09:28

Not my idea of fun but I assume you get what you pay for. My friend loves a Spa Break and really can't understand why I don't. I also find staying in a hotel really restrictive.

BeaufortBelle · 29/03/2016 09:33

If that's what you want QueenBean, can I just ask then why you don't get it from a private, members only sports/country club membership. There is nothing exclusive about going to a spa hotel that's open to everyone in my opinion.

Dustyantique · 29/03/2016 09:34

OP made some pretty appalling comments about the difference in her and her DP's earnings and her domestic expectations of him because of that

Yes, that one especially made her moniker memorable. I was wondering whether he knew of her proclamations regarding his position when he first raised the super poor comment that she ran with. It's rather ironic.

Philoslothy · 29/03/2016 09:34

Honestly, when I see things like this, my first thought is "How empty is this person's head life that spending so much money on something so shallow seems reasonable??"

My husband and I spend a fair amount on hotel stays, we do as weekend away about fiveish times a year. It is not shallow to us, we are creating lovely memories and keeping our marriage solid

Philoslothy · 29/03/2016 09:37

People only want to go to these places because they are buying a slice of "lifestyle" and peering into other people's lives. I'd rather have a quiet weekend at home.

Sometimes I like a quiet weekend at home and other times I want to stay in a hotel which may or may not have a spa. I am not sure what buying into a lifestyle means, having weekends away is our lifestyle and yes we pay for it - nothing wrong with that.

Oooblimey · 29/03/2016 09:39

Exactly queenbee, I do the same. For most average earners £1000 for a break for two people is a bit extravagant but certainly no crazy money. Each to their own. Some people say "you can get a whole week in a lovely cottage " or similar, personally I would rather spend it on a night of luxury as a treat where I get pampered and someone else cooks me lovely meals. Each to their own.
DH and I have a treat night like this once or twice a year. We also take advantage of premier inn £35 rooms for bargain city breaks (had a fab couple of nights at Liverpool Albert Dock for 50 quid last year!)
The OP hasn't come across very well in some of her posts but the first couple of her posts were perfectly reasonable.

Silverfoxofwarwick1953 · 29/03/2016 09:39

The OP indicates she knows the price of everything but the value of nothing. There is a difference Philoslothy.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 29/03/2016 09:40

My parents spend an eye watering amount on hotels and holidays, they aren't harming anyone and can afford it. They have really stressful jobs, its not shallow imho. I personally would spend my money on something else but horses for courses.

Sparklingbrook · 29/03/2016 09:41

It's all been sorted on their other thread anyway. I might start two threads at a time next time and then pick the one with the answers I want. Genius.

BeaufortBelle · 29/03/2016 09:41

My DH and I have kept our marriage solid ny talking to each other, having a weekend walk, visiting an RHS garden from time to time. As well as being loyal and kind. No successful marriage needs a five star 0000 weekend break to keep it solid. If it's what you like, fine.

Philoslothy · 29/03/2016 09:43

Beaufort you can do the talking, the walks etc and go away for the weekend - it is not one or the other.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 29/03/2016 09:43

It's all been sorted on their other thread anyway. I might start two threads at a time next time and then pick the one with the answers I want. Genius.

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Queenbean · 29/03/2016 09:46

If that's what you want QueenBean, can I just ask then why you don't get it from a private, members only sports/country club membership. There is nothing exclusive about going to a spa hotel that's open to everyone in my opinion

No you can't. It's my money, my choice. None of your business and not your place to cast judgement on what i choose to spend my money on.

Philoslothy · 29/03/2016 09:49

If that's what you want QueenBean, can I just ask then why you don't get it from a private, members only sports/country club membership. There is nothing exclusive about going to a spa hotel that's open to everyone in my opinion.

Not everything has to be exclusive or the height of good taste, sometimes it is just fun.

treaclesoda · 29/03/2016 09:53

If spending £1000 on a weekend break was no big deal to me, then I'd happily do it, and wouldn't feel the need to apologise for it.

But what I wouldn't do is accuse people who can't afford it, or think it's a bit extravagant, of being super poor jealous bitches.