So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

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DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

I talk all your points on board, but ExW is sending out this e-mail one week afterwards knowing it is Easter bank holiday and we are having family time, DSD is also included (as all holidays are split). She just wants to ruin our bank holiday weekend.

Are you trying to sound like a precious twat?

A reproachful email ruin your weekend? Get a fucking grip.

Missus, I believe it was too harsh

It's harsh but it's true. For once, start considering the feelings of others in this situation rather than fixating on yourself.

You sound melodramatic and very self-centred.

Lunar - because the ExW will go wacko?!

I really doubt she gives a fuck about you and your 'relationship' op.

More than likely rightly pissed off about her pathetic ex's treatment of his own daughter.

And if your relationship is on such Ricky ground that an EMAIL will ruin your family time....

Bwahahaha

Is it all getting a bit stale now the drama has worn off?

What is this obsession with reporting her for being a nuisance? There is no such crime as "being a nuisance". Furthermore, both communications seem simply to be raising an entirely legitimate issue about the insensitive way you told her child about your pregnancy. When her child is being mucked up by your behaviour she has every right to sort matters out.

Take a deep breath. Take a step back. Forget about this. Move on. Spend your leisure time with your 'D'P, DD & DSD. Stop the nonsense.
Enjoy life.
There you are - fixed it for you.

Wants to ruin your weekend? I doubt it. Sounds like your guilty conscious is ruining your weekend. She sounds very reasonable.

You can still name a co-respondent btw, but solicitors discourage it as it doesn't make any difference really and it just adds to the costs as they have to sent copies of everything.

My petition just refers to a third party but doesn't name the nasty cheap tart.

Because she'll go 'wacko'? Like sending an email?

Honest question, are you not a bit worried that this could be you and your children one day? Having to ask him for better treatment for your children?

She'd go 'wacko' at pregnancy news but she was going to be fine with a surprise half-sibling for her DD, in your calculations?

Or Easter weekend is more precious 'family time' to you than the newborn period, so it was fine for her to 'go wacko' when you had a new baby?

Or?

Is there any thought process going on at all?

The fact that he divorced her while he was having an affair shows exactly what sort of "man" he is.

Emailing someone at work does not constitute a nuisance.
Sleeping with someone else's husband = nuisance

"He is the 1"

Ach, that's lovely OP, that he is "the 1" for you, whilst you are only one of at least two women he has, so far, been convinced were the one for him.
Convinced enough to have children with. Convinced enough to marry, but alas not convinced enough to treat with respect or any attempt at fidelity.

Good luck with that one. Maybe you'll be able to hold his attention whilst dealing with your very young children. If not maybe you will, in time, develop some empathy for the lives you shat all over in pursuit of your "1".

Doesn't stalking have to be protracted and / or include threats of violence?

Not sure about harassment but I think it is similar but not as severe (before there was stalking women could only rely on stalking).

OP definitely making too much of this. From what you have posted it has been a few e-mails all about issues relating to child - you haven't mentioned any threats intended or otherwise.

It's my second evening ruined by ExW. Yesterday, I received the letter; now - having receiving e-mail. I am asking for advise now, is it really strange that after 3 years in relationship I have not met his ExW? Is it possible that we will never meet? Year ago she wanted to meet me, but I refused. I do not go to events at nursery for DSD or parents evenings. I think the next occasion might be 1st Communnion in 5 years time. Is it normal?

Have you run out of friends to share the histrionic dramas you create?

My ex tells people I am entirely wacko. His fiancée probably wonders why she's never met me. She probably also wonders why he has unfettered access to his children and I never turn up at events they are at. I suspect she is terrified of me knowing where she lives in case I do something a bit....wacko. She doesn't know that I have known her address for the last 3 years....'cos I have no interest in her and her relationship. But if I met her, I would not hesitate - as a contribution to the sisterhood - to let her know what she doesn't know. Which is why my ex makes sure she believes I am wacko and to be feared....wonder if she drinks coffee outside my workplace??!!

It's my second evening ruined by ExW

Oh, poor you. How about the few hundred of her evenings that you ruined?

Are you going to own up to being a troll OP?

Or are you going to listen to what's being said to you?

I can absolutely guarantee that if my husband had an affair then treated our child with such contempt that he didn't even tell her she was going to have more siblings, I would not set food in the same room as the OW. So I wouldn't think it that unusual that she doesn't want to be your mate.

80s child - there are no threats, all emails are more of informative nature...