So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

[BuildingBlocks9]

DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

I think you lost the right to complain and stamp your foot when you fucked another woman's Husband. Of course, he's an enormous assgasket, too, for fucking you. Essentially you're both bell ends.

Being a bellend, however, doesn't give you any rights when it comes to trying to maintain an adult level of communication and support when it comes to his Daughter. My God, how could you possibly love a man who would do such a thing to his precious DD? How can you imagine you have any right to tantrum about his Wife's behaviour? She sounds as though she's keeping her shit together whilst you and he have fucked her over royally.

Your self esteem must be through the floor, and, lets face it, you've created a fucking huge vacancy by getting him to divorce his wife; you took her place, you can bet your left bollock someone's in the wings ready to take yours. That alone is my only reason for posting this. Because one day you'll know exactly how shitty life can be when someone tramples all over the life you thought you owned.

God, if that letter upset you can you imagine how you feel if your dp fucked off with another woman when your new baby arrives...? No... He would never do that to you would he??

Wow - your punishment in this is that your always going to be looking over his shoulder to see if there is another woman lurking in the back ground. You can't even get a letter of his exw with out it giving you the jitters

There is no way on earth you should go to a First Communion. Ever.

Thank god your dsd has at least got a decent mother. You and your dp didn't even have the good grace to tell her the truth. But then, your whole "relationship" with your dp is based on lies. Maybe when your in his wife's position you'll have some compassion. You and him sound just awful.

Well this all sounds very unlikely.

Chocolateaddict1 Great post! Love the fact you managed to parlay it all with only one swear. Classy and to the point!

Emailing someone at work does not constitute a nuisance.
Sleeping with someone else's husband = nuisance

Comment of the thread so far!

If people don't believe the OP why aren't they simply reporting?

is it really strange that after 3 years in relationship I have not met his ExW

she's not just an ex, she's your step daughter's mother! Most people try to build a relationship with the people they are co-parenting/step-parenting with, most normal decent people anyway

Where is the sisterhood? I feel bad now about affair now! But they were not a match - we complete each other and could not be happier. I was do budy with my professional life that I completely forgot about maself. And then I met DP - he was honest, genuine, gentleman, 10 years younger. We fell in love, glad child, moved in together, expecting another child, I am fulfilled professionally and on personal ground, we live in nice neighbourhood Hyde park just around the corner, travel extensively. Everyone is pointing out what happened 3 years ago?! It should not matter

Yeah right

Keep going. This is all so convincing.

Tut tut

Overplayed your hand their op.

And it was going so well, entertaining even.

Honest? Which is why he had an affair, yes?
Gentleman? Ditto the above.

They were not a match? Are these your words or his? They sound oddly invested given you've not spent any time getting to know her, which means he's fed you a pack of lies and you've eaten them all up to assuage your guilt. Crack on. You think you complete him, he's no doubt feeding some other woman the same bollocks whilst your head is inside your own sphincter. Sounds a fine life.

I think the next occasion might be 1st Communnion in 5 years time. Is it normal? I don't know why but this made me laugh out loud. Yes, OP the traditional time for a man to introduce his ex-wife and his new didn't have sex in a Bill Clinton way until he left but did while he was still married girlfriend, who he has already produced two new children with is First Communion.

I would ask the priest about etiquette since this is entirely 'normal'.

*there

Placemarking for inevitable deletion message.

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his daughter matters
So your affair matters, and will continue to matter, because it resulted in swiftly after her parent's separation, her first of 2 "surpirse siblings"
The fall out from this may go on for years!
And your poor ex will have to help her through it, yes! she is right to remind you of what you've done (and are still doing) because it is affecting a CHILD

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Have you been drinking op?

Anyways... It should not matter .. Why not? How would you feel if your honest genuine gentleman suddenly upped for another woman? Would you suddenly get to 6 months and think, 'yup, I'm over it now!'

And it will always matter when there is a child involved.

Don't report, this OP is fabulous. "Sisterhood" indeed.

This sounds vaguely familiar. The nanny....werent there a load of similar posts on relationships.

BuildingBlocks, gentlemen don't fuck other women while they're married - sorry.