So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

[BuildingBlocks9]

DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

Sorry, her ex-husband.

Ayeamrok - me a pest? !

High flying career with your grammar, spelling and general responses? Doubt it.

I have an ex friend in a similar situation, she's a cunt too.

You are pretending to be scared she works near you.....yet in a couple of years you have had no contact with her. You also kid yourself that she is interested in you and your partner and wants to cause problems...yet you've never met her. Can you not see the hole in that logic?

Who are you going to report her to? The police for you being selfish and horrible step mum and her being caring loving mum who's cross you've upset her dc? You are in the wrong. She isn't harassing you, she is communicating how your behaviour is affecting her dc as she's realised that you are clueless.

I'm sure his ex wouldn't touch him with a barge pole, she's well rid.

Can I report her emailing me at work as a nuisance?

Isn't there a forum for goady mistresses that would suit you better?

Maybe you should find yourself another coffee shop and stop trying to stalk the ex wife.

Well you sound just lovely. And your dp sounds fucking charming. Of course you had an affair and his exWIFE wants you to know she's not the fucking dickhead ypu both take her for.

Think about this for a minute.

She has every good reason to be pissed at you for the way her marriage ended and you got together so quickly.
Then you told her DD about a new sibling in a very insensitive way.
Then you told her DD about another new sibling in a very insensitive way.

Conversely, what has she done to piss you off? Sent you a few emails?issued an irreleveant petition?

Concentrate on your own family, be respectful of her and be a bit more thoughtful towards your DSD.

If you have never seen her then why are you scared about her working so close.

I can't believe you didn't inform her or their DD properly about either of your two children.

Oh....and if you are walking 300m in London for coffee I suspect she is the one needing to be reporting you for stalking/harrassment.

She sounds like a fantastic mother.

Putting her child first. Taking time to heal after a heartbreak caused by knobs.

Not risking her child's stability further by running out at the end of a relationship and having baby after baby in a short space of time as if trying to prove something...

Actually having some...what's the word again? Oh yes.

Class. And self esteem.

You must really really hate her.

As a step mum myself I find your behaviour disgusting. You've shown a complete disregard for your husbands first born and her feelings. I can't even fathom not telling sd about siblings. We spent a lot of time preparing and involving sd when dd was on the way and have done the same for both of them now ds is on the way.

Must really suck knowing the prize you picked as the father of your children is incapable of really giving a shit about them.

"and be a lot more thoughtful towards your DSD"

Fixed that for you.

Report her? To who?

The big bad man of 'I've done a bad thing so want to blame her instead and make my poor little conscience feel all better again' london town reporting office?

You want her to be a meanie to justify your own cruelty. I'm sure you'll find a way of damning her all on your own some.

You with your fabulous figure and terribly important job, you'd think you were enough of a fabulous package not to have to take someone else's husband, but there you go, these things can be terribly deceiving.

You go girl :)

Trojan, thanks. My mistake. Although I think that either wording will fall on deaf ears.

Can I report her emailing me at work as a nuisance?

You are not really picking anything up from this thread, are you?

All the other stuff in the email, and this is what you pick up on?

Missus, I believe it was too harsh

I talk all your points on board, but ExW is sending out this e-mail one week afterwards knowing it is Easter bank holiday and we are having family time, DSD is also included (as all holidays are split). She just wants to ruin our bank holiday weekend.

Why wasn't dsd told about the pregnancy?

Eh?

I take*

gosh, it must seem so unfair!