So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

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DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

"She wants to ruin our relationship"

I doubt that. She's giving you the chance to mend your ways, and treat his eldest child with common decency.

She'll give up if you remain this obtuse, and will be left with the lion's share of preserving that DC's self-esteem.

So you've been together 3 years and are expecting dc2. After getting together through an affair.
But you have been together longer and therefore your relationship stronger than his with her. Yet he was married and had a 1 year old with he.

Wow he sounds a peach, where do I find myself one. 2 women, one marriage, one affair, one divorce, 3 kids in the space of 5 years or so. He's a keeper

EXw generally stays out of our life's. From time to time sends out emails regarding myself or our DD. She calls to speak to DSD at court ordered times.

Your DP is a cheat who was unfaithful to his wife and mother of his child, with you.

So she's just stating facts. Such it up. Don't do the crime etc.

Stop pretending to be hysterical over the fact you work 300m away.

Think I'm missing the point but why on earth didn't you tell dsd you are pregnant? If you're due in July then you're 5 months pregnant and you didn't think a 4 year old would need time to process that information? No step child wants a "surprise" sibling surely? I assume that's why dsd's mum is annoyed - you've upset her dc and she's furious, understandably imo.

Fatima - not affair but relationship

You had an affair. Stop pretending otherwise.

No, it wasn't a relationship. It was an affair.

A relationship when someone is already in a relationship / marriage is known as "an affair". Even if he told you it was over, if he didn't tell her then it wasn't!

EXw generally stays out of our life's. From time to time sends out emails regarding myself or our DD. She calls to speak to DSD at court ordered times.

You do realise you're selling her as a good mother and dignified women with a lot of self-control.

Can you want see the huge gap between being scared the ex works 300m away and the fact you have never had any contact with her?

*not see

My DP has just received an e-mail from ExW and cc me in on my work e-mail address - with regards to DSD finding out about pregnancy and the fact that DP has not told DSD and reassured her. That ExW knew from DSD about pregnancy be fire DP sent out e-mail also mentioned that DP is acting with contempt and informed with FYI DSD is going to have brother in summer. And reminding about our DD how we broke the news to them. I am not sure if we should respond to it or let her rant.

Can I report her emailing me at work as a nuisance?

Maybe you could try acting like a decent human being?

Just a suggestion...

His 'relationship' with the next OW will certainly feel like an affair when it's you on the end of it. Still, it'll give you plenty of opportunity to lead the way with showering the next newly pregnant couple with congratulations and glitter.

Stop being a twat and she'll stop emailing.

Can I report her emailing me at work as a nuisance?

Why don't you just stay the fuck out of it and stop being a pest. Haven't you done enough? Just go away

Doesn't sound like she's ranting to me, sounds like she's trying to get the pair of you to show her child some respect and compassion.

She has a point. Surely your husband should be telling her about the new baby properly, not just casually dropping it into conversation when she happens to ask? Neither of you are coming across well here.

Yes love, report her. The police have nothing better to do.

Cannotlogin I am not sure what you are referring to - I go for a coffe exactly opposite her office and I have never seen her and we are talking central London.