To think there aren't enough decent men to go round?

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I am sick of men - haven't had a realtionship for ages, so it's not caused by any particular one, just a general observation of the crap specimens the patriarchy has produced.

Was hit on yet again last night by a man who seemed perfectly nice and intelligent and polite to start with but got weirdly pressuring and controlling when I tried to politely decline. Is it so impossible for men to actually be pleasant and get to know someone? Must they always think with their dicks? (Wasn't out partying btw!)

And the ones that appear to be pleasant functional human beings turn into childish selfish assholes after a while - is there a way to avoid this? Because being friends for months/years first (so you think you know them) just seems to lead to a situation which is a prolonged 'chase' for them and they don't want you once they have you... My last boyfriend treats his female friends far, far better than he treated me.

I am 30 and worried I will never have a partner, because the cliche appears to be true - "all the good ones are taken"! And there seems to be more nice, normal, considerate etc etc women around than men. Sadly I am coming to the conclusion that this isn't just perception, but due to societal expctations, meaning men are just more likely to be overgrown children/inconsiderate/selfish/poor lifestyle/alcholic/poor hygeine/other massive red flag etc.

Sigh.

I have an x box too.

A man into computer games is mind mindbogglingly unattractive IMO

I love my Xbox but I know a few people who really seem to roll their eyes at it. DP's sister once said I was a saint for putting up with him and made a few comments about him playing games like he was still 15.

I had to sheepishly admit that he hadn't been allowed near the Xbox in a week because I had been finishing Witcher 3.

Or a man with a skateboard. Nobody over the age of 13 should own a skateboard.

Five words?

Short, ballsy, independent, loves me.

Flowers. With the 'children' bit, you've lost me. Sorry. If it helps I'm not remotely interested in sport. I particularly don't get the appeal of football.

I look at my ds15 barking orders on his Xbox and seriously wonder if I will ever be a grandmother- what normal woman would want that?

I don't get the appeal of football either, my dh has more loyalty to his team than the actual players but if that's his only vice it could be worse.

Oh god. skateboards??? My BIL of 46 has got one. What's happened to men?

I mean not everything has to be quiet and most adults I know who play aren't that loud, but it's your prerogative if you don't want someone who plays games.

Personally myself I don't see an issue with it

YABU.

There are decent men I promise!

I was single from 28 to 33 and went through a lot of OLD but eventually met my lovely DP who is caring, trustworthy, loyal, a good communicator, does his fair share of chores, actively wants commitment and is not interested in other women.

We met in December 2014, moved in together in August 2015 and started TTC DC in January. There is hope!

Don't be someone that becomes cynical or bitter or builds walls....that will only delay finding the right person.

My brother (45) is dating at the moment and speaks of all the loony, oddball women he's encountering.

He must have met the same ones as me.
I've never seen the point of dating someone much older or younger; what would you talk about? You wouldn't have the same references at all.

""I've never seen the point of dating someone much older or younger; what would you talk about? You wouldn't have the same references at all.""

You'd talk about your life/ day, family, common Interests, opinions and current affairs, tbh, I can't stand all the 'when we were kids' conversations (I'm 48) because there are still massive variations. On the same tack, does that mean that you can't date someone from a different background/Culture?

That type of closed mind thinking would definitely rule someone out.

Agree with Birdsgotta. That comment makes you sound rather narrow minded TheSinking.

Not at all; my marriage was with someone outside of my culture. Didn't end well. Too many people with mummy and daddy issues dating much older partners. As for going much younger: seedy.

Agree Sinking. I think this is why so many get hitched after meeting at Uni. You are both literally and figuratively in the same place.
After that chances are you are both at different points in your career, children, money stages which makes things more complicated.

I do think women stay "younger" longer than men.Men age badly (despite often being a bit immature).

I'm in my 40's and have had 4 serious relationships (5 years each on average). All were lovely, good looking , good jobs etc but none right " for the rest of my life" blokes. Added to which only one proposed but only because he was leaving the country. I think the games up for me. If I couldn't' find the' one ' out of that lot there's no hope now.

A bit like saying 'what would I possibly have in common with a woman '

Well, that's just a stupid thing to say.

Sinking weird comments and views... MY DH is 10 years older, I assume you class this as "much older"? He is as different from my father in nearly every sense/trait possible. Re. what do we have to talk about?? Um, same as most couples probably; world/life/friends/children/travel/ dreams/culture/news?! Yes very occasionally a reference to a tv series around in his day but not mine crops up, but its always very amusing!

I just think it's seedy dating someone young enough to be your child. Hey, just my opinion. It's like me dating someone in their 20s.
It is seedy though. And creepy.

I would judge any bloke in his 50s going after women 20 years younger than himself. Personal opinion, that's all. Where would he draw the line?