To think there aren't enough decent men to go round?

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I am sick of men - haven't had a realtionship for ages, so it's not caused by any particular one, just a general observation of the crap specimens the patriarchy has produced.

Was hit on yet again last night by a man who seemed perfectly nice and intelligent and polite to start with but got weirdly pressuring and controlling when I tried to politely decline. Is it so impossible for men to actually be pleasant and get to know someone? Must they always think with their dicks? (Wasn't out partying btw!)

And the ones that appear to be pleasant functional human beings turn into childish selfish assholes after a while - is there a way to avoid this? Because being friends for months/years first (so you think you know them) just seems to lead to a situation which is a prolonged 'chase' for them and they don't want you once they have you... My last boyfriend treats his female friends far, far better than he treated me.

I am 30 and worried I will never have a partner, because the cliche appears to be true - "all the good ones are taken"! And there seems to be more nice, normal, considerate etc etc women around than men. Sadly I am coming to the conclusion that this isn't just perception, but due to societal expctations, meaning men are just more likely to be overgrown children/inconsiderate/selfish/poor lifestyle/alcholic/poor hygeine/other massive red flag etc.

Sigh.

I married someone from a different culture/ country too..disaster! ( not that I would rule it out in the future)
I personally prefer men similar in age to me, but usually date men a bit younger ( 2-4 years) because I seem to get.on better with them.
I couldn't imagine dating a 55 year old at 39 though. I just think we'd have really different lives / priorities.
I mean, had he lived, my dad would only be 63 now, so it would be too weird..

As a personal preference, I'd go about 4 years either way.

Phew I'm glad you turned up, takes the heat off me a bit.

""I just think it's seedy dating someone young enough to be your child. Hey, just my opinion. It's like me dating someone in their 20s.""

As said, I'm nearly 48 and just started dating again. I think age gaps mean less when you get older, I'd certainly consider someone with a good outlook/energy level in their 60's, ive seen 50+ women with 30+ men and they haven't looked odd, some of the women have looked younger than the men.

""Damn. That's the toy boy out too then. And he was the best sex I ever had ever in my life. 7 year""

Sex isn't dating, though. I've had FB in their twenties, but I wouldn't date them.

For me the problem is that in your 30's, particularly, there doesn't seem to be any grey in relationship types. It's all very black and white. Either life long commitment or single and one or both of the people will try and fit themselves in to those roles.
Trying to find a relationship in my 30's with a woman that doesn't want or have children is tough. I think that settling down has become a very rigid thing. House, marriage, kids, etc. I honestly think this puts a lot of people under pressure to achieve something that, in hindsight, they don't actually want. I'd like to see more flexibility in how relationships actually are lived.

My marriage wasn't completely awful; yes, I did end up mentally ill because of it, but there was no abuse. I just decided to end it because I really couldn't see myself living my life like that for another 50 years.
People sometimes just settle, I don't really want that. So be of these people in LTR that posters talk about; they might live in silent misery, that those outside the relationship might not see. You can never tell what's going on in someone else's relationships. Being single isn't the worst thing in the world.

How is it women's fault if they meet ghastly men? Don't follow the logic of that.

I think there is nothing wrong with people having any dealbreakers they want, no matter how unreasonable. My epically unreasonable dealbreaker is that I always tend to go for people who have "good" degrees from "good university". I know this is massive intellectual snobbery, but it is my life, my choice.

I have always been happy to date computer gamers, surfers, older, younger etc. And am now settled down and getting married so it doesn't matter. If other people don't want to date those people, that's ok. Your body, your life.

I do, however, think it's a bit unfair to then say "there are no good men left" if you do have a long list of dealbreakers. There are just fewer men who suit you.

That seems a rather exact figure.

I've dated women who like porn too. Not a big deal to me.

No thanks