To think exDH's wife is a fucking loon

[Redowlinmytree]

Last week I asked ex if he would mind chaining days this week so he has the kids tonight instead of Wednesday, he said fine no problem will have them both days instead will be nice to have them for an extra night.

There was no particular reason other than I've got a late GP appt and need DP to come too (couple issue!). Will be easier without DC. TBH I never ask ex to swap days around so this is a rarity. I didn't tell ex why I needed to swap although he did ask and I was vague!

Had a text from ex's wife this morning

Hi red, I know DH said we could have DC tonight, just wondering if it is urgent as we do have plans tonight. DH loves to see kids so doesn't like to say no, just wondered if we could do another night instead? {and some other stuff about a birthday coming up}

I text back saying no not really as we had plans, sorry if it was an inconvenience but ex seemed ok with it

Just had this reply: Yes well he doesn't like to say no to you or seeing the kids. To be fair think its a bit off asking us to have kids so you can celebrate steak and BJ night (guessing thats why you want the night off, ex said you were vague about why!) Apologies if i've got the wrong end of the stick but seems quite obvious to me. Anyway don't worry, we will be glad to have them, enjoy your night.

She's a fucking loon right?

[TondelayaDellaVentamiglia]

dammit, strikeout fail.

[Missrubyring]

I would also go for screenshotting and sending to your ex.
I also go for the idea that maybe she wanted to do Steak and BJ night and can't do it with the children there

[middlings]

I'm with busymum. The wife is idiotic, but I'd be calling her on it.

"Won't be very enjoyable. We have a doctor's appointment. Thanks."

You don't need to say any more than that and it tells her to get knotted.

[Owllady]

Zzzzz:o

[purplepandas]

I would call her on it. Middlings has my response. Bloody cheeky madam.

[PhoenixReisling]

OP I would not explain why...it's none of her business! Like someone said upthread, you need boundaries well she does.

[Shemozzle]

I would do exactly what movingonup suggests. Message ex with a screenshot and say you are offended, and do not feel the need to explain your medical appointments to her. I'd consider saying you won't ask if anything comes up again because you don't want to be personally attacked. Not because it's the truth but because that will really get her in trouble.

[Redowlinmytree]

I googled too apparently we get chickin and lickin day next month. Might ask him to have the kids that day too

[SirVixofVixHall]

People actually take "steak and blowjob day" seriously? And they say romance is dead..
Anyway, I agree , explain that it is a medical appointment and show her up for being spiteful and grubby.

[Redowlinmytree]

Not going to text back, will just text ex and ask if he is sure he is ok to have kids tonight (given he was pleased and didn't ask to swap but to have them an extra night instead!)

[mrstiggy]

I'm a little confused as to why anyone would need the children away to 'celebrate' the day. or indeed why you would want to in the first place Presumably you just have steak for tea then give the blow job later once the kids are in bed? Or are you supposed to be giving a blow job during the eating of steak?
Anyway, yes she's behaving very oddly. Even if she thought it she should have kept that little gem in her head rather than messaging you. Smile gently and back away.

[SirVixofVixHall]

What about vegetarians and vegans?

[Pinkheart5915]

This thread has given me a laugh thanks redowlinmytree

Well my husband is going to be upset his got roast lamb and his parents coming for dinner. No steak and blow job day here!

[DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings]

I assume vegans and vegetarians don't celebrate because they don't like meat in their mouth badum TISH

[OnlyLovers]

She's vulgar and dirty-minded, and she's said it deliberately to provoke.

I'd ignore her, but get your DP to text back 'Please do not text my partner vulgar comments.'

[Pinkheart5915]

doesanyonereadthesethings

[AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads]

I agree with texting what ELK said and also apologising for ruining her steak and BJ day

Kill her with kindness. Add smiley faces. And maybe a kiss or two. Add a 'hun' for good measure!

[Labradorlover01]

How bizarre...she has issues! I think I'd go with the don't reply to her (she sounds crazy so she'd probably keep on replying back and you don't want to get into a texting war) best to take the high ground and just forward on the text to your EX and say it speaks for itself as to why you now only want to go through him to discuss childcare issues

[AyeAmarok]

She is a loon. A sad, tragic loon.

Go with EKL's response.

[RhombusRiley]

"crab and cunnilingus day" eewwwwwww :o

[SilverBirchWithout]

I think she is just very nosey and cannot bear not knowing why you need Ex to have DC tonight.

You are right to be vague about personal stuff. If it was me I'd be planning all sorts of other mysteries for future conversations just to wind her up.