To think exDH's wife is a fucking loon

[Redowlinmytree]

Last week I asked ex if he would mind chaining days this week so he has the kids tonight instead of Wednesday, he said fine no problem will have them both days instead will be nice to have them for an extra night.

There was no particular reason other than I've got a late GP appt and need DP to come too (couple issue!). Will be easier without DC. TBH I never ask ex to swap days around so this is a rarity. I didn't tell ex why I needed to swap although he did ask and I was vague!

Had a text from ex's wife this morning

Hi red, I know DH said we could have DC tonight, just wondering if it is urgent as we do have plans tonight. DH loves to see kids so doesn't like to say no, just wondered if we could do another night instead? {and some other stuff about a birthday coming up}

I text back saying no not really as we had plans, sorry if it was an inconvenience but ex seemed ok with it

Just had this reply: Yes well he doesn't like to say no to you or seeing the kids. To be fair think its a bit off asking us to have kids so you can celebrate steak and BJ night (guessing thats why you want the night off, ex said you were vague about why!) Apologies if i've got the wrong end of the stick but seems quite obvious to me. Anyway don't worry, we will be glad to have them, enjoy your night.

She's a fucking loon right?

[BrieAndChilli]

I would reply that you had a medical appt, there really isn't anything she can say to that.

[BYOSnowman]

Do people actually celebrate steak and bj day? Has the world gone totally mad?

[MovingOnUpMovingOnOut]

Eugh. Steak and BJ night? What kind of a regressive dick is she?! How grubby vom.

I'd text back and tell her she is highly offensive and that if she has an issue with something exDh has agreed to you suggest she talk to him and you do not want to hear from her again.

Then I'd ring exDh (assuming you're on amicable terms) and say you just want to check it's still ok for him to take the children because you have had a series of texts suggesting it might not be. Then depending on the relationship I'd tell him about the steak and BJ comment and how you just don't understand how she has reached that conclusion and you find the accusation quite offensive. If you don't have the relationship then don't tell him that bit he'll find it out for himself when he asks wife. Then say if wife is so desperate to know - and of course you would never even ask in the first place unless it was important - you need to attend a medical appointment with dp but you would rather not discuss the details because that's private. I'd also say I'd asked wife not to contact me again and that she needs to talk to exDh if he agrees to something she doesn't like because that's between the two of them.

[SaucyJack]

She's a bit of a loon for taking Steak and BJ day seriously. I thought it was just a social media joke.

But you could easily have avoided this if you had wanted to by telling your ex you had an important appt. rather than "plans".

[PhoenixReisling]

BYO......well obviously the ex DP wife does, maybe this is code for sexy time

[GooseberryRoolz]

What Rhombus suggested, 100%.

[Owllady]

Gosh I'm so naive, it really is steak and blow job day today
I've been a very brave girl and googled

[mogloveseggs]

She's out of order imo. Is s and bj day really a thing? Will dh be disappointed with Mac and cheese tonight?

[Only1scoop]

Well we certainly know what's on the menu at your Dh ex's on their child free nights.

Bet they like theirs Blue

[Owllady]

I'd be tempted to play on the theme tbh
Reply say it's crab and cunnilingus day at yours

[AdoraBell]

I would forward that text to ExH because I'm a caah and tell him you have a GP appointment but don't feel the need to explain that to his wife so tell her to fuck off

[Only1scoop]

Owl

[MovingOnUpMovingOnOut]

What's the female equivalent? Cottage cheese and cunnilingus?

Personally I like my steak with chips. Skinny French fries specifically. I also like a bit of mustard sauce.

[SaucyJack]

Steak and BJ is a "thing" and it's the 14th March, ya. Month after Valentine's Day.

Started out as a sexist joke for teh menz. Clearly some people do take it seriously.

[PinotEgregio]

Definitely forward the text to your ex. She shouldn't be saying anything to you that she wouldn't be happy for her H to know about.

[Helmetbymidnight]

A loon extraordinaire.

[PinotEgregio]

I think she's narked that - from the sound of it - your ex agreed to change plans without consulting her first (and that would annoy me too). But she's taking it out on you, and that's Not Okay.

[TheHobbitMum]

I'd be forwarding the message and letting ex deal with his loon of a wid but I have no self restraint lol

[busymum17]

Definitely a bit strange!
I'd be very tempted to play up the medical reasons to make her feel bad to be honest.

[TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams]

I would ignore her entirely.

[wannaBe]

Surely this isn't real? I mean surely people don't actually celebrate steak and BJ day do they? In fact which man invented the concept anyway?

I would screenshot the messages and send them to eX and say "oh, it appears that I spoiled your ahem plans but I really don't appreciate these kinds of messages from your wife. Why I need you to have the kids is none of her business. And then I would block her number.

[NaughtToThreeSadOnions]

Dear ex DW

I knew there was a reason I divorced/separated him thanks for reminding me of the horrors! I think it's a bit off and hypocritical of you to put your steak and BJ night before your husbands kids, I now have a mental image I shall need brain bleach to remove. It is only quite clear to you because that's what you had plans for tonight. I on the other hand was vague because I have an appointment which I can not miss and unlike you do not need to share my business with exh! Apologise accepted and you've completely got the wrong end of the stick

[NaughtToThreeSadOnions]

Seriously just ignore but

[TondelayaDellaVentamiglia]

just text back

"apologies accepted you crazy loon, mind your own business next time"