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To make her pay for my stuff?

195 replies

MagicalHamSandwich · 13/03/2016 07:29

I'm room sharing with a co-worker I don't really know for my firm's annual skiing weekend. Went to bed reasonably early last night in order to get some more skiing time today while my roommate apparently opted to participate in the traditional piss up around town.

I slept like a baby and did not hear her come in. Woke up this morning to find the entire bathroom covered in vomit - including several specks on and around the stuff I'd left in the bathroom (moisturiser, hairbrush, some makeup). Had to invite myself to guest-shower in my boss's bathroom because it's just that disgusting!

AIBU to bin my stuff and ask her to pay for it?

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MajesticSeaFlapFlap · 13/03/2016 10:55

Last work trip i went to was in luton, 2 day spent talking about conflict management.

Id let someone vomit all over my stuff for a ski trip

angielou123 · 13/03/2016 11:09

OMG. You should leave her a note saying it's not on and you want compensating for the stuff of yours she vomited on. Nasty, particularly as she's not even one of your friends, just a co-worker.

hefzi · 13/03/2016 11:14

What a load of drama over some "specks of vomit" on product packaging! I wouldn't get drunk on a company trip (not least because I don't work somewhere where we get holidays paid for like this) but equally, if someone did, I wouldn't get stroppy and demand they replaced my skincare because there were "specks of vomit" on my things.

Yes - if someone puked on my toothbrush, I'd get a new toothbrush head: but I wouldn't even throw away my Mason Pearson (as some PP suggested) because (again, I know - but the OP's choice of word is very telling) of someone else's "specks of vomit".

Honestly- I do wonder how some people cope with life: it's not nice waking up to puke in your bathroom from a semi-stranger - but really, worse things happen at sea and all that Hmm

pillowaddict · 13/03/2016 11:15

I'm with some others re the fact colleague will not have set out to get so drunk or be sick - she will be mortified this morning, particularly when she realises the story will have spread due to op using boss's shower. It's not nice to deal with but I would have sympathy in respect of someone feeling anxious and humiliated about a work night out gone wrong. Be kind - what if this was you or one of your dc and their roommate for the weekend was utterly unsympathetic? Explain when she gets up some of your things were messed up and ask if she'd mind either going to replace them or paying for you to. Agree with pp there is no need for humiliation here beyond how she'll already be feeling!

DinosaursRoar · 13/03/2016 11:29

I think the OP using the boss' shower means it's less likely to have spread the story, the boss is less likely than any other colleague to gossip about this, more likely to have a word with the vomity colleague.

If the pots had the lids on, then I'd just wipe them down with anit-bac wipes, if they were open, even if you can't see any specks of vom, then I'd bin them. (also anything else like makeup that's open in that room, bin)

Assume the OP is out on the slopes, hopefully by lunchtime the vommitty colleague will be feeling better and cleaned up. Being kind will make you look better in the eyes of your boss/other colleagues than being a bitch about it. Be a drama llama and you'll be viewed as just as bad as her.

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MagicalHamSandwich · 13/03/2016 11:32

FWIW I didn't grass her up to her boss - we're nowhere near each other work wise (hence the reason why I practically don't know her) and apart from me my boss is the only person from my team at the event, which is why he was whom I asked when I needed to shower elsewhere. She doesn't work for him - in fact I doubt he knows who she is.

And I might be squeamish but I can't get myself to use the stuff again, so I am going to replace either way. The only question really is whether I can reasonably ask her to pay for this.

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WhatamessIgotinto · 13/03/2016 11:41

Honestly- I do wonder how some people cope with life: it's not nice waking up to puke in your bathroom from a semi-stranger - but really, worse things happen at sea and all that

^^ this.

GabiSolis · 13/03/2016 11:45

It doesn't matter if you did grass on her, she did a gross thing and needs to make it right, that's what matters here. I would hope that she would volunteer to replace the stuff as any reasonable person would, but if she doesn't offer you would have every right to ask.

VoldysGoneMouldy · 13/03/2016 11:49

How badly are they covered? If it's just a few specks, I'd just rinse them. And I hate vomit. If you're keeping things in the bathroom near the toilet, they're going to have far worse germs on them.

I don't think you can 'make' her pay for them. She's going to be absolutely mortified when she wakes up and sees it.

SirChenjin · 13/03/2016 11:52

If it's 'just' on the outside of bottles I would be insisting she cleaned the bottles in disinfectant bleach. She would be buying me a new hairbrush though.

That is utterly grim - what adult drinks so much they vomit?? Pathetic.

Branleuse · 13/03/2016 11:57

She didnt just vomit everywhere, she went to bed leaving it like that. Its bloody gross, and I would really make sure she knew I was pissed off, and i would ask her to replace my stuff that she vommed on.

Whether she will or not, who knows, but youre well within your rights to ask

SuperFlyHigh · 13/03/2016 12:00

I agree with Branleuse I'm afraid.

Generally even if it's Norovirus etc you'll be in a reasonable state to have rinsed the containers etc.

If is as probably more likely the colleague had far too many schnapps, gluwine (spelling?!) like mulled wine I presume then she may have had the head spinning stuff, but she could still have rinsed or tidied a bit.

I would ask to replace or contribute towards them, how full were they?

coconutpie · 13/03/2016 12:06

I would ask her to replace everything she puked on. She's an adult. She can deal with the consequences of her own stupidity. Rinsing off the containers? Hell no. I wouldn't be happy using products that had been vomited on - disgusting.

expatinscotland · 13/03/2016 12:19

I doubt it's norovirus Hmm.

I'd buy some anti-bac wipes and clean the stuff. A bottle of bleach and soak the brushes.

Seems wasteful to throw out expensive things if just the bottle has been hit.

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MagicalHamSandwich · 13/03/2016 12:20

Well, seems she's checked out while I was out on the slopes. And luckily for me, housekeeping seems to have been here, too. Thought they normally only come when the room has been vacated; she must have asked for them to come and clean up. Bathroom now smells of cleaning agent and cheap air freshener with still a hint of vomit. Envy

We're about to head back, too. Going to have to e-mail her about my stuff. No idea how I'm going to phrase this yet.

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LadyMonicaBaddingham · 13/03/2016 12:21

She's an adult. She can deal with the consequences of her own stupidity
Absolutely. And don't 'ask' her to replace your soiled possessions, TELL her that is what you expect and deserve.

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MagicalHamSandwich · 13/03/2016 12:21

ETA: poor housekeeper. Given the state of the place this morning that can't have been fun. Will leave a generous tip for them just in case she hasn't already!

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expatinscotland · 13/03/2016 12:25

Are you going to bin the stuff then?

RupertPupkin · 13/03/2016 12:28

Just wash the stuff. How wasteful, chucking it all out.

Flum · 13/03/2016 12:28

That's yucky but I would just wash the stuff. It is only sick.

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MagicalHamSandwich · 13/03/2016 12:30

Binning the hairbrush and my toothbrush and paste. Pinching my nose and saving the moisturiser and serum.

I am also binning my eyeshadow brush and palette (which is the Urban Decay one with the sort of velvety case - there's just no way this can be wiped to a degree that would make me comfortable about touching it. Still looks stained and housekeeping has apparently wiped it).

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SuperFlyHigh · 13/03/2016 12:33

It seems like the colleague has conveniently disassociated herself from the problem... Not even a small note on hotel room paper to apologise?!

No idea what to say OP but she is behaving like a total (MN phrase here) caaah (cow) and I wouldn't be happy at all.

Rinsing my own vomit off someone else's items is totally the done thing to do, she has not done it and I doubt she'll have left a tip for housekeeping either. She is an adult.

SuperFlyHigh · 13/03/2016 12:35

Well in that case OP I'd ask her to pay towards the brushes and eyeshadow kit and leave everything else.

Maybe find out the prices and send to her or send details of your bank account and ask her to transfer the money.

You could (but no need) mention the other items which you and housekeeping had to wipe.

PovertyPain · 13/03/2016 12:36

What's the betting she's told house keeping, she's leaving early because YOU threw up, OP. Hmm

nina99ballons · 13/03/2016 12:36

Honestly some people are revolting. I've had some huge nights out in my time and never done this. Been sick after one too many sure, but always in the loo and I'd always clean up after.

That poor housekeeper. I hope she's left a massive tip. I wouldn't be surprised if they charged for a deep clean.

Email and ask for the money to replace the products she vommed on.