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To make her pay for my stuff?

195 replies

MagicalHamSandwich · 13/03/2016 07:29

I'm room sharing with a co-worker I don't really know for my firm's annual skiing weekend. Went to bed reasonably early last night in order to get some more skiing time today while my roommate apparently opted to participate in the traditional piss up around town.

I slept like a baby and did not hear her come in. Woke up this morning to find the entire bathroom covered in vomit - including several specks on and around the stuff I'd left in the bathroom (moisturiser, hairbrush, some makeup). Had to invite myself to guest-shower in my boss's bathroom because it's just that disgusting!

AIBU to bin my stuff and ask her to pay for it?

OP posts:
VinceNoirLovesHowardMoon · 13/03/2016 08:11

Ew
You don't have another night there I'm hoping?how horrible. And embarrassing for her!
I would ask her to replace anything that can't be washed thoroughly

TheWitTank · 13/03/2016 08:14

Grim. Honestly, if it was a few specks on the container then I would wash off and not waste the contents, but I would be mighty pissed off about the puke all over the bathroom. How embarrassing for her to behave like that in front of a colleague she barely knows! I would make sure she knew my feelings on that when she got up.

Topsy34 · 13/03/2016 08:17

I would bin toothbrush but ask her to wash all the bottles and dry them.

If they were open,yes i would bin them

dontcallmethatyoucunt · 13/03/2016 08:17

Post the pics here, how can we possibly decode without proper evidence!

ProfGrammaticus · 13/03/2016 08:23

Can't believe you slept through that! I'd have woken up as soon as she came through the door and never got back to sleep -I'm jealous of your abilities.

(Misses point of thread)

ShreddieMonster · 13/03/2016 08:25

I would want everything replaced . You are not being unreasonable at all!!

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 13/03/2016 08:29

Unreasonable to bin for 'several specks on and around' closed tubs and tubes. Just get her to wash them.
Open stuff with vomit in, hell yes, bin it.

DurhamDurham · 13/03/2016 08:30

I'd have woken her up by now.....

fastdaytears · 13/03/2016 08:34

I'm squeamish but I woudn't bin closed pots of moisturiser etc if there's just a bit of vom on the packaging. But I'm weird because I can't cope with vomiting myself (and haven't done it for 12 years or so) but not freaked out by other people's.

She's going to be mortified by this. If she came back and threw up everywhere then God knows how things were when she was still out with everything.

Very jealous of a company ski trip by the way.

Prometheus · 13/03/2016 08:36

Just get her to wash the tubes etc in soap. No need to replace!

JolseBaby · 13/03/2016 08:36

Things in closed containers can be rinsed - and if you are concerned about germs, then wiped with an antibac wipe. However I would make her do this.

I would bin the hairbrush though and ask her to pay for a replacement.

Pinkheart5915 · 13/03/2016 08:36

That's one classy co worker you have.

I'd make as much noise as I could in order to wake her up.

Pinkheart5915 · 13/03/2016 08:37

Get her to just wash your things in the bathroom

helennotsomadnow · 13/03/2016 08:40

that's really grim, I would be really pissed off to get up and find that in the morning, and would probably want the stuff replacing but I do have a bit of phobia about vomit, if she has any decency she will offer.

I hope there are not extra charges for clearing up

Gobbolino6 · 13/03/2016 08:40

I'd just wash them and move on. She'll probably be mortified.

WhatamessIgotinto · 13/03/2016 08:42

Well, do you know she was drunk or was she actually ill, since you slept through it?

Either way, I would hope she would clean up/bleach your bottles and replace your hairbrush/toothbrush. If she was drunk, she's behaved horribly (like everyone else when they're pissed) but I wouldn't over react by throwing out decent stuff.

MrsBungle · 13/03/2016 08:42

I wouldn't bin the stuff in sealed jars. I would ask her to wash them, especially if it's only "specks". I would bin my toothbrush and I'd ask her to get me a new one today. I hope she's suitablly embarrassed.

MrsBobDylan · 13/03/2016 08:45

Tbh, you have had some revenge by asking to use your boss' shower, as she/he now knows she got plastered to the point of vomiting all over the bathroom.

She will most definitely be feeling appalling. if the tubs were open then you should be compensated, but I would cut her some slack as she's disgraced herself in front of work colleagues and will have a mighty hangover today.

WhatamessIgotinto · 13/03/2016 08:57

Did you have to use your boss's shower? Couldn't you have asked to use another colleagues to save her some embarrassment or was that deliberate? I'm not saying what she did is acceptable but I would at least try to avoid humiliating her.

Bunbaker · 13/03/2016 09:02

"but I would at least try to avoid humiliating her"

I wouldn't, given what has happened. Sorry.

Sparklycat · 13/03/2016 09:08

I would make her pay for new ones. I'd be really cross, can't stand behaviour like that from adults especially when you are room sharing/on a work do you should be thinking about your behaviour.

razmataz · 13/03/2016 09:09

Massive overreaction if you bin the stuff in sealed bottles, particularly if it's just specks on them. They can easily be washed/wiped clean - though I'd ask her to do it.

Toothbrush/hairbrush - yes fair enough ask her to replace.

It is pretty grim, and if she has any decency she will be mortified and fall over herself to apologise. Provided she does that, replaces the bits above and cleans everything else, I'd be prepared to forgive and forget. The humiliation would be punishment enough.

askabusywoman · 13/03/2016 09:18

She should have cleaned up, but you'd be equally cross this morning if she had woken you with the cleaning (especially to the standard required by this thread!) I think going to the partner to shower was an error. When the story comes out (and it will), your ruined stuff won't matter compared with the perception you 'grassed' on her. Obviously she's still asleep - I would have snuck out unshowered and waited to see how she was going to deal with the consequences. If she is flippant or disrespected the impact this had on you and your stuff, fine - then take it further. But if she is embarrassed, penitent etc, offering to replace things, I would feel bad making it so public. Your relationship with this person will need to last longer than this weekend.

Jux · 13/03/2016 09:23

She's probably already humiliated herself before she came and vomited over everything, so I would have no qualms about talking about it.

I'd leave a note asking her to replace the expensive stuff.

SolidGoldBrass · 13/03/2016 09:30

I'm sorry for the pissed colleague. Usually when someone gets that drunk on a work trip, the person is either very shy and overdid it in an attempt to calm his/her nerves, or someone else spiked his/.her drink. Now she's going to have to deal with OP who sounds precious and self-righteous and has already grassed her up to the boss...

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