To request mumsnet to add a 'polyamorous families' section under parenting?

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There's every other kind of family type, pretty much, and polyamorous families have some unique joys and challenges that it would be nice to share and discuss.

Or maybe we're the last frontier and even MN aren't ready to go there.

Yet.

No, the man is poly, I am poly even though I am currently as if this moment only in one sexual relationship, I consider my relationship with DPs OSO to be a relationship, as does she, just not a sexual one. She currently died not feel she wants another sexual relationship but she feels this is a permanent thing.

My DP has been with his OSO longer but their relationship has always been 'open' in a variety of ways. Which was both their choice, before you ask.

You seem to have the idea we are two weak-willed mugs if women who are put upon by some philandering bastard. Couldn't be further from the truth, but since you haven't met us I can't expect you to know that.

Finances are shared. Between two properties and three people who all contribute. That's just how it is.

I don't think going to yoga with someone once a week counts as a relationship

This is a relief.

OP it's hard for some of us to understand because it doesn't really sound like much more than your DP getting two families. When you say you share finances, do you mean the three of you pool everything even though you live separately?

I don't think it needs its own section, it just needs a thread in parenting.

The reason OP has had problems in the past is not because she's PA, but because she's not.

I also see, to have unwittingly been in a poly "v" in the (fun) olden days

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Whether you're happy with the set up has no bearing on whether the relationship is PA. It's not.

Says who, twinklestein, you?

And yes, pooled finances are basically it. (It's a bit more complicated paperwork-wise than that as banks aren't very poly-minded either.)

And beyond, if you're equating the fact that you were once cheated on with our setup then you're very wrong. We all entered into this with the full knowledge and consent of the other people in the relationship.

And Twinklestein, I'd like to know upon what you base your accusation that I am being 'dishonest'.

I think I've been very open, and this is unjustified.

Are the children all half-siblings?

I don't think this is a polyamorous relationship/family either.

Basically a couple with 2 kids have decided on an open relationship. The guy then meets you (someone else who has two kids) and becomes your fuck buddy.

No-one else has a fuck buddy except him.

So how is that a poly relationship/family?

The fact you and the other woman are apparently free to shag someone else, doesn't actually make it poly.

It does sound more of an open relationship but if you're all happy then so be it.

Maudgonemad, no they're not. The older ones are his, the younger ones are mine from a previous relationship. They haven't met my DP yet, which is why I was wondering if a forum to discuss things like "how do I introduce my poly DP to my children'.

But in case you've missed it, his DC know me. (Not just 'of' me, we do things together.)

And thanks Thusisnotausername.

And also why it would be nice to have a specific board.

we pride ourselves on mnet as being tolerant and forward thinking - but that would appear to be so long as it fits with ideals.

I am dismayed by the hostility to the OP and still perplexed by the "its too niche" claims - really these should say "it makes me uncomfortable, i don't know anything about it so i don't want to see it"

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The plughole???
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There are just a few of the things i've just found on the talk list - but thats ok because those things don't make people uncomfortable or come over all patronising "hes getting his cake and eating it" outraged.

I do suspect you wont get your board OP because this thread highlights the prejudice it would invite.

An open relationship where they share finances and the two women are in a non sexual relationship?

Too niche just means the topic will probably be a dead one, with tumble weed blowing by after a week or so.

Thanks TheOriginalLEM. I might ask for the board anyway though. Whether it would be the safe haven I was hoping for is questionable though. That said, fully aware the AIBU isn't the last mainstay of reasoned moderate discussion on this site.

I think you misunderstand me Tabsicle. It was an actual organised invasion. I wasn't just comparing it to one. They actually said they had a team and were here to campaign on behalf of erm, this sort of thing.

It was a bit odd.

I really don't think it's fair on the OP, or other polyamorous pps who might like to offer their opinions on whether they'd like a dedicated topic or not, to interrogate her about what her relationship is or not.

Any actual opinions about the actual question will only be drowned.

Phequer, he lives here three days a week, on average. We pay for the house jointly, and furnished the house jointly. He has clothes, books, shoes, toiletries, pictures - his stuff - here.