To request mumsnet to add a 'polyamorous families' section under parenting?

[whycantwegoonasthree]

There's every other kind of family type, pretty much, and polyamorous families have some unique joys and challenges that it would be nice to share and discuss.

Or maybe we're the last frontier and even MN aren't ready to go there.

Yet.

You don't get half of them though, you get all of them in a different way

Op said she's grateful for the half of the week she gets -to recover from the sheer force of his manliness-- I assume he spends the other half with his wife? Unless he has a third abode where he spends time recovering from his mangod duties?

There are none so blind as those that will not see.....

Well hopefully whycant is helping you shed just a little of your blindness, oneapecker

Headinhands yes, that's exactly it. He's just too much man to handle full time. I'm exhausted just thinking about it.

He doesn't need time off. As a mangod he's er, omni-potent. Obvs.

There are none so blind as those that will not see.....

This. with bells on.

So MNHQ said "no" to a board but suggested a long-running thread... So I'm off to 'Being a Parent' : Parenting to start one.

Will much appreciate anyone who has a genuine interest or insights to share to join me there...

And sincerely hoping we won't have to spend 90% of our time there explaining what our relationships are, what they're not, defending our position and saying the same thing a hundred times...

Good luck with that OP.

As has been said numerous times before- the thing none of us can get our heads around is the fact you are financially commited to, catered for in a will and holiday with a man your children have never even met.

The fact he also has a wife is, ironically, somewhat secondary to a completely bizarre set up.

You're right Bearbehind, it has been said numerous times. It's also been replied to numerous times. But thanks for bringing it up again. Just in case I'd forgotten.

I was trying to make the point that your issues aren't all specifically related to the fact you are in a poly relationship.

The fact that no one has replied to your other thread is testament to that.

I don't think anyone on here could relate to / fully understand your situation and there's much more traffic on AIBU than Parenting.

Well, everyone knew it was niche and with only a few people who'd be interested.
I hope the thread is useful for you and other poly families.

Wow. That's deeply unpleasant ApplePaltrow. I hope it's just that you've had a bad day.

My family is imperfect, still evolving, sometimes complicated, and not without challenges. It's also full of love, generosity, compassion, support, freedom and acceptance. My children are beautiful, inside and out and happy, and intend to do everything in my power to keep them that way.

It's not crappy.

But I guess that's hard for you to know, from up where you're sitting.

I hope you have a better weekend, and that people are kinder to you than you have been here.

Wow. Applepaltrow. What an arse. Just because you don't understand poly or agree with the OP doesn't mean their set is crappy.

Unlike your comment which is .....

Goodness Apple do you feel better having got that erm, very productive and in no way a gratuitous pot shot out there?

But I suppose a reaction it what you wanted so I post at the risk of indulging you.

OP, ignore. There are obviously some issues and thinking that needs to go into transitioning your set up to a more permanent and inclusive set up. But in no way does that mean it's ok to insult you along the way.

Late to the party (as usual). Just wanted to voice my support for the OP and the request for a poly thread.

I found this thread googling Mumsnet polyamory as MN is my first port of call for most things in life. I haven't read it all, hard on a phone, but I will come back to it, as amongst the incredibly judgey, closed minded posts there are some really interesting discussions going on.

With or without a separate board I look forward to more of your posts OP and hope that all the ignorant pearl clutchers keep the hell away.

Thanks MrsWinkler... Support much appreciated. MNHQ said no to a board (fair enough) and my (currently very lonely) poly thread is here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/2594559-polyamorous-parents-and-families

I'll bump it to make it easier to find.

I'm starting to think it might have been better posted in 'Relationships' but TBH after the drubbing on here I'm not sure I'm up for it over there… At least not at the moment…

Happy to see you there, to chat about whatever, and hoping some other brave souls might join in. I'm currently grappling with a recent development which may derail things, but not sure if sharing on MN is a good idea given some responses to this thread! Which is a shame as MN is my first port of call for most things too!

I'll need some solidarity first, at least!

I got to page 7 before giving up. I think people are being very unkind towards someone they don't know. Surely to say that the OP isn't in a poly relationship because she isn't having a sexual relationship with the woman is like saying that someone isn't gay/lesbian because they are not in a same sex relationship? Or am I missing the point her?

Ah sepa, that's the nature of a forum, and AIBU in particular. I wanted traffic to see if anyone else was out there on MN with an interest, but knew that would come at a price. But I'm as tough as old boots these days in that regard. Luckily!

I was prepared and happy to answer questions, even hostile ones. In a way it's helpful as we're transitioning to being more open with a wider group about our relationship, to see what objections/questions might come up, and think about them and how to respond.

But yes, I think you've hit the nail on the head – that you can be in a relationship with someone, see them as your SO or partner, without that having to be sexual.

And a certain irony that someone from a poly standpoint is trying to make that point - when everything thinks we're ALL about the fucking...