just asked someone too leave my house. as all they have done is insult my baby!

[Murphyslaw21]

I'm fuming. An old work colleague has moved near to me, we always got on OK although she always had a brush up her arse. Anyway we bumped into each other the other day and I suggested she comes round for a coffee. So our two babies can meet. They are both 9 months.

So she turned up, and was very patronising about my house. It's a bit of building site but lounge is lovly. But I got the oohh you were brave doing that colour scheme. It's duck egg blue. Anyway let it go.

So I'm feeding baby girl and she says oh can't she feed herself. So I said she has finger food but mostly just gets licked and thrown. So I feed her whilst she is playing with finger food. Oh MINE feeds herself. Next it's playing on floor. Mine sits up but falls over if left, colleague says oh MINE has been sitting by herself for at least two months. She is very advanced for her age. Then she has made a comment that it's strange to be in baby gro rather than clothes. So I said but she can roll around and play without it all getting skirted up. Oh MINE just screames if she is a baby gro. She likes clothes. Final straw was I'm making a drink and she says oh arnt her eyes close together. So I said no quiet abruptly. To be told maybe it's just because she has a large head!

I'm livid. So I fly in and said exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism,

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Ok I feel a bit mean about ugly baby comment but I was livid. I'm fuming so fuming. There was so many digs and comments. Why why why I would never compare my baby to someone else's and I certainly never been so rude.

She's nothing to you, so her opinion doesn't matter. I might have got rid of her more nicely, but you don't need that supposed competition in your life.

Aah dont worry about it. She deserved it

I think we have the same wallpaper - it's lush

I think your response was Bob on only I would have slammed the door as well

I'm partly in awe & partly appalled.

A woman I met in hospital while we were having our dds came round to mine when the babies were a couple of months old and did much the same thing including expressing disbelief/disapproval at how much my baby cried and how loud as well as my house and appearance. I was cool towards her & rebuffed a couple of attempts by her to meet again, but reading this nearly 15 years later, I wish I'd made it clear she was out of order.

Your comments to her were viscious & I'd be cross at myself for losing control to that extent but sometimes it takes aiming way below the belt to prick some peoples consciences

My snide visitor stood as the UKIP candidate at the last general election; she didn't do very well

Sounds like you had an "off" day. That's alright. I think we've all had days where we've said some nasty things to people that we really didn't mean or that would be considered out of character, or been short with people who just happened to be at the wrong place at the wrong time even.

Just shake it off and don't let her, or the thought of her, bother you again. There are billions of people in this world and she doesn't have to be a part of your life, nor you hers. Both babies got insulted and neither baby got hurt. Oh well!

I am crying with laughter at this thread, particularly the machete/ handbag and owls primitive baby LOL LOL LOL. Am only on page 2

Good for you op , some people need telling . Don't worry about the baby comment . Baby won't have a clue what you said x

I've been thinking about this thread she wasn't really insulting your baby, she was insulting you. I got a lot of this with my first but not my second. I remember people saying to the baby in the pushchair 'Oh Mummy forgot to put your shoes on. Silly mummy' in this high pitched voice as if it made it acceptable telling me I'm a crap mum through my baby. By the time I had my second, I think I had a look on my face that I was going to put up with that kind of shit

Pfft, all the hand wringing over your rudeness to her. She deserved it, she needs to lest to keep her mouth shut.

Don't no why there are comments about anger management issues n all.

It's obvious you had been swallowing ur breadth from the start of the play date. Lol
We all have done things we regret due to heat of the moment. I don't no what I would have done in the same situation, most likely reacted in the same way apart from the name calling but what I do no now is after reading this is take a deep breadth n count to 5 then make a joke about why the necessity in comparison.

But not all mums compare some are just proud of how much they have accomplished. My daughter is 9 now and I'm happily married, trust me I would brag about anything and everything when it comes to her as I'm proud of my hand work and not to show off or put other kids down neither do I compare her to any1.

Am just one proud mummy and wouldn't put anyone's kids down though.

U reacted in a way most of us would, u already know what you said and did wrong which u didn't mean which shows u've definitely learnt and hopefully know how to handle the situation better next time. No 1's perfect, we learn something new everyday

I think you did over-react and should have been the bigger person. However, she did behave badly, so don't blame you for asking her to leave. I too think she may have been deflecting, not that it excuses the way she behaved.

I also think you have been a bit unpleasant about her and her marriage/break up in your subsequent posts, which is a bit unnecessary since you won't be having anything more to do with her.

I do wonder why you posted though, as it seems that you do think you were entirely reasonable and have never doubted it (other than your comment about her baby being ugly)?

You, dear OP are awesome!

This thread will be a whole week old in half an hour. Shall we have ?

...and yet the OP hasn't felt the need to comment on it since last Monday (and good for her - its done and dusted as far as she is concerned)

Must be a slow news day on Mn