just asked someone too leave my house. as all they have done is insult my baby!

[Murphyslaw21]

I'm fuming. An old work colleague has moved near to me, we always got on OK although she always had a brush up her arse. Anyway we bumped into each other the other day and I suggested she comes round for a coffee. So our two babies can meet. They are both 9 months.

So she turned up, and was very patronising about my house. It's a bit of building site but lounge is lovly. But I got the oohh you were brave doing that colour scheme. It's duck egg blue. Anyway let it go.

So I'm feeding baby girl and she says oh can't she feed herself. So I said she has finger food but mostly just gets licked and thrown. So I feed her whilst she is playing with finger food. Oh MINE feeds herself. Next it's playing on floor. Mine sits up but falls over if left, colleague says oh MINE has been sitting by herself for at least two months. She is very advanced for her age. Then she has made a comment that it's strange to be in baby gro rather than clothes. So I said but she can roll around and play without it all getting skirted up. Oh MINE just screames if she is a baby gro. She likes clothes. Final straw was I'm making a drink and she says oh arnt her eyes close together. So I said no quiet abruptly. To be told maybe it's just because she has a large head!

I'm livid. So I fly in and said exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism,

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Ok I feel a bit mean about ugly baby comment but I was livid. I'm fuming so fuming. There was so many digs and comments. Why why why I would never compare my baby to someone else's and I certainly never been so rude.

The hormones do go a bit crazy after having a baby. I've had perfectly normal friends behave like your colleague op and couldn't work out whether they realised how bitchy they were being or whether it was insecurity coming thru somehow. In the end I decided to just ignore and put it down to insecurity. It is hard when you feel your baby is being insulted tho!

You've obviously gone a different way.... . I bet it was satisfying at the time, but probably not to be repeated! perhaps count to 10 next time!

She didnt insult you, she just made averagely snidey comments that most people can cope with without going fishwife.

Oops., haven't rtft and you probably shouldn't say what you said but..... Meh, if someone had insulted my pfb, I might've gone a little bit batshit too.

Good on you OP - I hate all that competitive mum/baby stuff. I had it in my ante natal group - certain 'friends' constantly commenting on how tiny and petite DD was (thinly veiled as look at my big bouncing healthy bundle of joy!) - it really undermined my confidence. Good riddance to her.

YABU She was just proud of her baby and saying what she could do.Not very sensitive perhaps , but it is not insulting your baby FFS!! The close eyes thing I am not sure about, but the big head thing is fine.All babies have big heads. You need to lighten up a bit.She was a proud mum, you were an out and out bitch!

Good for you. She deserved it, I hate snidey snipey twats.

I think you did fine. I can't stand that snidey-innocent-'it's you, you're too sensitive' type criticism.
No one could accuse you of that op

Harsh maydancer. I admit to once being a bit like the OP former colleague. Always trying to be the best. Always insulting people with back door little digs to make me look wonderful. Good for you OP. I saw the error of my ways by myself. Some people need a boot up the arse to do the same. I would let nobody comment on the closeness of my child's eyes and get away with it.

Maydancer - she wasn't just saying what her baby could do, she was being very insensitive and criticising the OP's baby - comments like 'oh, can't she feed herself?'. OP was not a bitch and the woman deserved it!

She made five or six snidey digs!

I think the op was quite restrained.

Maydancer. Sorry were you here? No! Do you know her? No.

But everyone I have spoken to that does know her are saying that she is a nasty piece of work. Always has been and always will be. And that I should of known better expecting her to be different.

So yes my mistake I should of never invited her in.

Well Jeremy Kyle need never fear he'll run out of people who have no idea how to behave.

I love the no wonder your husband left you comment. She has no reply to that really.

Maybe she spoke to him like that and criticised him all the time.

She got what she gave. I hate snide comments.

"exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism"

So she admitted she was criticising your baby. YWBU in the way you asked her to leave, but NBU in asking her to leave.

Op, good for you. There is never an acceptable way to say those things. If you can't say anything nice...who on earth comments about how advanced their own child is or the other child's physical appearance to another mum?! I'm shocked. I know you snapped back but obviously just blew after a considerable onslaught. Some people just hold things in and then blow once they are pushed too far. Not great but very understandable.

OP well done!

sounds more like a nasty cow

What d'you think the OP sounds like with 'no wonder your husband left'?

So, given that apparently everyone you know agrees that she's awful, and you're lovely, and you didn't overreact, in fact your behaviour was practically Mother Teresa of Calcutta under extreme duress - what on earth are you doing on here looking for reassurance? A bunch of Internet strangers can't pronounce on the size of your child's head or who out -Jeremy Kyled the other.

One thing, though, OP. Try to get a handle on your inner fishwife before her schooldays, or you and your daughter both will have a very trying time.

Joseph well from one fish wife to another.... I just wanted to have a rant . Am I not allowed.

Oh dear. I take it you saw red. And said all the things people want to say but never dare.

Erm not sure whether to tell you to behave in future or give you a cheer.

You will be subjected to competetive parenting until your DC are old enough to leave home - and beyond.

You need to work out a better method of dealing with it than award winning asshattery.

Ouryve - if everyone dealt with asshattery fuckwit competitive parents like the OP did then maybe there wouldn't be so many around!

I'm not going to make a habit of it. Believe me very out of character .