just asked someone too leave my house. as all they have done is insult my baby!

[Murphyslaw21]

I'm fuming. An old work colleague has moved near to me, we always got on OK although she always had a brush up her arse. Anyway we bumped into each other the other day and I suggested she comes round for a coffee. So our two babies can meet. They are both 9 months.

So she turned up, and was very patronising about my house. It's a bit of building site but lounge is lovly. But I got the oohh you were brave doing that colour scheme. It's duck egg blue. Anyway let it go.

So I'm feeding baby girl and she says oh can't she feed herself. So I said she has finger food but mostly just gets licked and thrown. So I feed her whilst she is playing with finger food. Oh MINE feeds herself. Next it's playing on floor. Mine sits up but falls over if left, colleague says oh MINE has been sitting by herself for at least two months. She is very advanced for her age. Then she has made a comment that it's strange to be in baby gro rather than clothes. So I said but she can roll around and play without it all getting skirted up. Oh MINE just screames if she is a baby gro. She likes clothes. Final straw was I'm making a drink and she says oh arnt her eyes close together. So I said no quiet abruptly. To be told maybe it's just because she has a large head!

I'm livid. So I fly in and said exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism,

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Ok I feel a bit mean about ugly baby comment but I was livid. I'm fuming so fuming. There was so many digs and comments. Why why why I would never compare my baby to someone else's and I certainly never been so rude.

You know in an ideal world you wouldn't have insulted her innocent child,but to be fair she needed telling and you told her. Far better to stick up for your child and throw her out, than politely swallow it and bitch about her later (what i would have done in the past). I have decided, since i have got older, that life is too short and we need to get to the point. I don't back down. I also don't like the implication on these kind of threads that it's so very wrong (almost unladylike?) to swear-we have swear words to emphasise serious things in times of stress..which this was. You are well rid.

I'm laughing out loud at the way you handled it.

People who think their child is superior are a total pain and bore, but you shouldn't have let it get to you to the point you start bitching like a 12 year old screaming "YOUR MUM".

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

You said that, did you?

Wow just wow. She does sound annoying but you were out of order. What she said about your dd isn't bad apart from the close together eyes. I think you were really nasty and I hope you're horrified at yourself. Do you have anger issues?

You both sound fairly unpleasant, I wouldn't really like either of you to be my friend.

Me too
All babies are ugly though, even mine. I had a really hairy baby too and when I bought him home from hospital I put him on the lounge floor and he could already roll from side to side, so I mentioned this to the hv who very kindly told me that some people were more primitive than others
I still laugh about it now. I thought he was a genius, she thought he was Neanderthal

Sorry that was a reply to usual! This thread v fast for a Sunday morning

You sound as bad as each other

Course you did.

Too try hard- next!

Because I had a Mother with a NPD, I challenge this from the off, now.

But I put up with so much shit like this from family members, when I was younger and it does impact on you.

She needed telling and the babies aren't old enough to pick up swearing, so YANBU.

My answer when my Neice had this sort of thing going on, was to ask if they are writing it down to put on baby's CV in the future.

No CV ever contained when someone sat up, was toilet trained, fed themselves etc.

Whatever you do, don't apologise.

Oh well that's sorted that out

owllady that's really made me laugh!

Op - you lost the moral high ground. Do you have anger management issues?

Wow. You really went for the jugular didn't you? I can kind of see why though. From what you've said it sounds as though you did ask her in a slightly more measured way first if she'd just come round to insult your baby and she accused you of being unable to take criticism. But WHY would you criticise someone else's baby? It's just mean.

I wouldn't have heaped fire on her like you did maybe, but she DOES sound like a dick.

But then as a pp said, you will come across people like this and maybe you need better ways of dealing with it, for your own sanity.

Good on you!

Husband leaving her or not, she can't go around behaving like that and not expect someone to bite back.

She's deflecting big time. Feel sorry for her.

Dear God.

Blimey, she sounds awful but your reaction was way OTT.

You basically pulled out a machete when a handbag would have done.

That was quite harsh op.
I'm with you on the asking her to leave thing, if she'd just come round to insult you, your home and your baby then I think you were right to ask her to leave.
But the other stuff was just personal and unnessecary

I'm so sorry but this is hilarious.

Grown adults coming to blows over their babies head shape

She sounds a bore and a bitch. But you shouldn't have lost your shit like that, OP. Life is too short.

I would have received an urgent call in another room and told her I had to go out now, bye bye, see you again soon delete number immediately

OP although I absolutely can't stand mums who compare babies and obviously theirs are better, bigger, prettier while ours look like shit, I'd really like to know how you deal with confrontation in general

You did remind me though of my MIL who when I told her that DS1 had all his fruits for breakfast, she said "well I do know another kid that has more than that!"

I really do think she sounds deeply unhappy and insecure. Genuinely happy people don't feel the need to go about putting other people down in order to boost their own confidence, because they have enough without belittling others.

Perhaps a better tactic might have been to ask her just why she felt the need to carp and criticise all the time she was at your home, but your anger was understandable. What's done is done; I very much doubt she'll be back, which I imagine will suit you just fine. Best forget about her.

You basically pulled out a machete when a handbag would have done

^^ This

But it really made me laugh.

Wetting myself at Neanderthal genius baby!!!