just asked someone too leave my house. as all they have done is insult my baby!

[Murphyslaw21]

I'm fuming. An old work colleague has moved near to me, we always got on OK although she always had a brush up her arse. Anyway we bumped into each other the other day and I suggested she comes round for a coffee. So our two babies can meet. They are both 9 months.

So she turned up, and was very patronising about my house. It's a bit of building site but lounge is lovly. But I got the oohh you were brave doing that colour scheme. It's duck egg blue. Anyway let it go.

So I'm feeding baby girl and she says oh can't she feed herself. So I said she has finger food but mostly just gets licked and thrown. So I feed her whilst she is playing with finger food. Oh MINE feeds herself. Next it's playing on floor. Mine sits up but falls over if left, colleague says oh MINE has been sitting by herself for at least two months. She is very advanced for her age. Then she has made a comment that it's strange to be in baby gro rather than clothes. So I said but she can roll around and play without it all getting skirted up. Oh MINE just screames if she is a baby gro. She likes clothes. Final straw was I'm making a drink and she says oh arnt her eyes close together. So I said no quiet abruptly. To be told maybe it's just because she has a large head!

I'm livid. So I fly in and said exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism,

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Ok I feel a bit mean about ugly baby comment but I was livid. I'm fuming so fuming. There was so many digs and comments. Why why why I would never compare my baby to someone else's and I certainly never been so rude.

OP, I'm bit late to all this but I think you've done NOTHING wrong! She goaded you and you reacted. Not the end of the world, you're human. Was a very funny story though! You've had me in stitches!
Ignore the self- righteous Jeremy Kyle comments, garbage! You momentarily lost it, no harm done.
You're nothing like her, from what I gather you don't go around sniping at people to make yourself feel better about your own inadequacies which is precisely the type of person your guest IS, therefore you're not just as bad as her in any way shape or form, in my opinion.

The moral high ground is vastly overrated anyway.

Do you know what, good for you! People do this because they feel they can get away with it and no one will pull them up on it. It was snidey and nasty. Nobody is complementary when they say that someone's eyes are close together and that it's because they have a big head. They are being downright nasty and they know they are.

Pfb had a big head. I asked dr if that meant she had a big brain...sadly not

Next time you are tempted to turn fishwife in an awkward social situation, just pause for a moment and think 'What would Audrey do?'

You should of pulled her hair

I would've LOVED to have said that to a godawful woman I had the misfortune to meet at a baby group but I'm far too polite so had to be content with fantasising about it ( and distancing myself from her).

If people insist on spouting constant passive aggressive digs then one day they are going to get their head bitten off. Most of us are way too polite but you got the pleasure today of biting back. Sweet

I can relate to the mama bear rage you experienced. Nothing you can do about the unreasonable baby insult now, but at least the baby is too young to understand what you said.

Oh, fuck her, life's far too far short for that. A constant drip-feed of criticism will often result in exploive behaviour, I would've lamped the bitch before throwing her out. YANBU.

Mama bear in da house!! Good for you. Hate those "my kid is better than your kid" comments.

You had a momentary blip but she'll be a prize bitch all her life (though might just button it from now on for fear of another verbal attack!).

My dd is 15. She was an incredibly late walker. She just didn't want to. Competitive mothers were all over it and I felt like shite.

She still prefers sitting still and her sporting achievements are slim to nil but the competition has moved on to academic aspects now. Sitting still works in her favour so tables turn.

Just don't forget how horrible it feels on the wrong side of the competition and yesterday will be a useful experience for at least the next 20 years.

Good for you!!

Hmmmm...... I think she's having a hard time and her superior behaviour is about hiding it.

But she needs to learn that she isn't going to make friends behaving like that.

I'm baffled at the 'good for you' cheering section. Yes, her behaviour was annoying and undermining, and the moral high ground is overrated, but the OP screaming unpleasant personal abuse at the visitor and insulting the appearance of the visiting baby isn't going to teach the competitive other mother anything - the other woman almost now certainly sees the OP as the aggressor and her own behaviour as flawless.

A more measured approach, say a faux-concerned 'Gosh, X, you seem very insecure about little Y's milestones and clothes - are you finding motherhood difficult?', might have led to the visitor being confronted with her boasts without all the fishwifery.

You basically pulled out a machete when a handbag would have done

I called a midwife who was really rough with DS "fucking nurse ratched". I think I was still off my head on drugs in my defence.

I am a fairly timid people-pleaser, hate confrontation - it makes me cry.

Didn't stop me ending an altercation with a dog walker I'd never met before by screaming at the top of my voice, 'YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE SUCH A FUCKING BITCH! FUCK OFF AND TAKE YOUR STUPID FUCKING DOG WITH YOU!'

New low. I totally understand how these things happen though. Calling her baby ugly was low, but otherwise - YANBU.

you need to apologise for ugly baby comment . that's mean!

Haha, brilliant!

Fair play to be honest OP, that condescending cow needed putting in her place. It's easy enough for others on this thread to go on about the 'moral high ground' when they are not enduring a barrage of insults about their home or infant. It's probably because no one has stepped up to her that she thinks it's okay to act like that.

you were inelegant

Oh no, how ghastly. I'm sure the OP is mortified at the thought of not being 'elegant'.

Those saying you ought to be able to 'cope' with snide comments like this – no. No one need 'cope' with unpleasant comments.

I'm still saying good for you, OP.

No she bloody does not need to apologise for the ugly baby comment !!

same as I didnt apologise to the cow who pointed out dds spocky ears

Oh no, how ghastly. grin I'm sure the OP is mortified at the thought of not being 'elegant'

It's a daily worry for us wimmin. No?

Parenting has obviously become a comptitive sport
I knew only one person (well) who did this She was a teacher .The rest of us just ignored it and never rose to the bait As my pfb walked at 10 m and started talking at 9 and was extremely cute to boot, I never found this difficult ... tbf her pfb was a bright , sweet child so we could never understand why she had to go on about it .I think some people are just innately competitive.I just used to sit there quietly feeling smug
In your own house one to one though it must be harder to deal with

I've been reading all the replies.

I woke up this morning and I feel quiet fine with the situation. Some people are saying I need to apologise but to be honest.... No I'm not going to her behaviour was uncalled for, she obviously came with an agenda and thinking about her criticism comment she was definatly planning to be a bitch. So no I'm not going to apologise for defending myself in my own home.

Those that don't like this attitude are more saintly than me. It takes a lot for me to get annoyed. And everyone that knows me knows that I am really easy going and brush everything off but not this time.

And as for the fishwives comments, like I say I am always the easy going person. But insult after insult gets my goat!