I have never been badgered by an extreme feminist. I once had someone ask me, quite aggressively, why I wore make up. I told her it was because I wanted to and didn't wish for further discussion. That was about 30 years ago.
At the same time I wore some extremely revealing outfits on nights out. Some women, and men, disapproved of them - though many of the men loved to hate them. That's their problem.
I don't think even half of them would have described themselves as feminists. They had other reasons for commenting negatively on my appearance and drawing unfounded conclusions from it.
Meanwhile, I was and continue to be, a feminist.