only wanting my son to wear certain styles of clothes?

[SkytecBlue]

DH wants to dress our 2 year old in mismatched/ kiddy printed baby type clothes. Do you know what I mean? Like a bright blue dinosaur covered coat, bright yellow t shirt with Winnie the Pooh on etc etc
I prefer to dress him in outfits that look "cool". And if not cool, at least colour coordinated. And match his socks to his outfit too.
It's not a contentious issue, I can obviously live if he doesn't wear the clothes I like, but DH thinks I'm unreasonable to even CONSIDER thinking of dressing him in a certain style or a particular way?

But then I have also argue with DH over the fact he will happily dress the kids (and himself) in creased clothes.

Whoever dresses a baby/ small toddler who has no preferences yet decides what they wear, with the aim being them dressing themselves and choosing what they wear - as soon as they have preferences the kid should choose as long as the clothes are fit for purpose.

YANBU to co-ordinate when you dress him, YABU to leave outfits out because you think your preference is right and your dh "can't be trusted" to do it your way. YABU to judge kids not dressed your way as unkept - as everyone has said - clean, comfortable and weather appropriate equals "Kept" anything else is personal preference.

I hope this isn't rude to ask but were you worried about what your dh dressed your dd in at the same age? I have one dd who is neurotypical and one ds who isn't and I know that I have taken extra care to try to do things I thought would help my ds fit in, you say your ds has a developmental delay so I thought maybe you were doing the same.

YANBU. I hate the babyish prints and inane logo Tees. Plain coloured Tees with skinny jeans for my 1 year old and he looks cute.

Quite honestly when I had three under five, it was a win if they all had clothes on at all ("no, it's really not a good idea to go to the shops wearing just pants, wellies and a Scream mask...... ) I get that for an "occasion" it's lovely to see them all smart and co ordinates, but for day to day just don't sweat the small stuff. You do it your way if you like but also let your H do it his way when he is getting involved. Honestly, the world won't end if socks don't match the t shirt (or even if one sock doesn't match the other!)

I think yanbu op,

My DD is only four months and still lives in baby grow outfits, even when we go out. She is so much more comfortable in them and its just easier. Mil always asks 'when are you going to start putting her in 'outfits''!? I hate dressing her up in little dresses and tights!

God give the woman a break. Wanting her son to look nice is not the same as thinking he's a doll. Ffs.

Creased clothes - oh the horror!

OP I like to coordinate the kids' outfits (although I don't give a stuff about socks) where my dh will let them choose or just throw on whatever is clean and weather appropriate.

If you're that bothered about everything matching then keep putting the outfits out in advance. Your dh isn't fussed (and neither does he have to be) so that's how he is.

Not worth falling out over.

I sort of get you.

But if they have a patterned coat, can they never wear anything with a pattern or print with it??

In this case, it seems fairly similar to treating him a doll.

YABU not to let your DH dress him the way he prefers.

Personally I dislike the 'cool' high fashion look for babies and toddlers, they look uncomfortable and silly. Nothing wrong with coordinating colours but equally let your DH clash them if he likes the mismatched look- it looks more creative and arty.

I dress my DS (6months) in things that are comfortable. Soft, colourful stretchy jogging-pants, long sleeved bodysuits with t-shirts on top, lightweight jumpers that don't restrict him. I hate stiff fabrics and baby jeans are awful. I colour-coordinate his bandana bibs and socks but he soaks a lot of bibs so often ends up mismatched! It doesn't matter at all. Boden, Next and Debenhams Baker range all have great styles for babies and toddlers.

I think day to day it doesn't matter that much, if he is anything like my DD it will be dirty and scruffy looking within an hour anyway, and may even need changing! My dd would come back from nursery in all sorts of random combo's after she had chucked water/food/paint/mud over her top or trousers and they grabbed whatever spares we had sent or they had around!

However going somewhere special, family events, parties etc I want her to look nice, so I generally will have an outfit in mind.

I would pick my battles, not sweat the normal days, let him dress him in whatever uncoordinated thing he likes for the day, but for special occasions you are in charge. I tend to say before dh gets her dressed "I have got her this outfit for today" and have one outfit I have either bought for the occasion, or have had put to oneside from a bundle ready for a special occasion.

I would often coordinate socks as well.
Stripey top, plain joggers, stripey socks!

Didn't matter if couldn't though.

It is surely an issue though if you leave clothes out & your husband feels pissed off aboutit.

I don't think you're being too unreasonable actually. There's nothing wrong with having a preference. What I used to do was go our at the start of summer/winter and buy all the clothes in one hit. I'd pick a colour scheme and buy everything (including socks) in that combination. It saved a lot of faff. Everything went with everything so I knew DC always smart regardless of what was picked out and who picked it. Of course eventually that stopped but then the style of clothing worn also changed and grew up.

Yanbu to enjoy dressing your DS in outfits that you love to see him in.

Yabu to not let your dh have the same experience.

I notice that you say your DS is developmentally around the age of 6 months at 2 years old. I have a son who is developmentally delayed and it is still important to me now he's six that he looks kept, clean and comfortable and kind of gorgeous because he is. I know that sounds odd and might be hard to understand. I like his brothers to look cared for too, but it's kind of different as everyone is always saying how lovely they are, whereas DS has some unusual behaviours which stop people acknowledging him in the same way. Gah, I can't explain it!

YANBU at all.

I love putting nice,matching decent looking clothes on DD. They might not be expensive at all, but they look nice.

ollieplimsoles I kept DD in babygros for as long as possible. Makes sense. Plenty of time for all that.

I wouldn't describe myself as wanting my six year old DD to look "cool", but I do have a general aversion to mixing or overdoing patterns in clothes. I tend to dress her in long or short sleeved tops teamed with leggings or shorts, weather depending, but always only one patterned item, top or bottom; the other plain, or both plain. I dress DD 99% of the time anyway. Once when DH did he put her in matching patterned top and bottoms - I often buy cordinating/mix and match items - not to wear both together though, and certainly not together! She looked like she was going out in pyjamas!

So yes, it may seem trivial, but that matters to me.

Yabu. Why can't he dress him too? There are many people who don't like their kids to be dressed like mini adults. Your OH is one of them. Just take it in turns (more or less). If I were your husband, I would be seriously annoyed with the 'can't be trusted' nonsense.

I get it op. You want your ds to look his actual age, not his developmental age. And there is nothing wrong with that. But also, if he's that young developmentally, have you considered ds himself may like bright colours, strong prints as visually they are stimulating?

What I would say is your dh is being unreasonable to say you shouldn't coordinate him as much as you are unreasonable to lay out an outfit for dh to dress him in.

Both of you need to agree to disagree and leave it at that, no criticism and no racing to be the first to dress him everyday! Whoever dresses him gets to choose until DS makes his own preferences known. And focus on raising your children to be happy and accepting of each other.

YANBU
My little boy is 18 months and he has always been dressed 'cool' plus matching socks and bandana bib. We like Zara and Next mostly.

I can't stand bright mismatched colours and patterns and cartoons prints. Bleurgh.

I think you are ok to want to dress your boy in cool outfits. If you have the time and energy and inclination.

I dress mine in fairly plain clothing so everything goes together anyway and have a few brighter coats and hats.

I don't see what is wrong with what you are doing. I do quickly press their little t shirts but try and avoid buying stuff that looks a hassle to care for.

"cool"

LOL. he is 2

I think the 'doll' comments are unkind.

I totally dress Dd like a doll, the boys I aim for smart but settle for clean and comfortable most days! I waited a long time to buy girls clothes

YANBU However you and dh have to find a middleway. Its not something worth having a big issue over.

Skytec - think the word you mean is kempt