To ask this mum why ds was not invited...

[Bookeatingboy]

My ds (nearly 8) has ASD. He is in ms school and has been friends with a group of around 7 boys since pre school.

He and his dtb have a birthday soon and I'm doing a party. I'm sat writing invites when I quickly go to one of his friends parents FB page to check the spelling of his name (not FB friends with her BTW) and I see a picture of this boys party from a couple of months ago. Every single one of the group were there... ds was not invited. This boy along with the others have always been to ds's parties and ds has been invited to others parties too... or so I thought.

I'm sat here in tears (which is really not like me) as it's the first time it's hit me that he has being excluded because he has ASD. Now clearly I don't know this for sure but why else would he be the only one of this group not invited.

I want to ask her directly why ds did not get an invite which I know makes me appear like a loon but I'm so fucking angry at the mum right now.

I know people mean well on here, but if you haven't got experience of disabiity you don't understand how excluded you can often be. My DC don't have SEN or other disabilities, but I do have a physical disability. As an adult I am all too aware of been excluded because of it. I know that this has effected my children as well in the playground and with friends. It's funny how people try and make excuses like 'I can't invite everyone', etc etc well how come it is always the disabled person left out or a family that maybe effected by disability. My DD was the only girl in the group of friends excluded from a girls sleepover party recently, the girl coming up with some lame excuse to my DD from her mother as to why she wasn't invited and then had the nerve to say she was having another party which she would be invited too - which was a load of bollocks!! At the end of the day disability is still heavily discrimminated against in all walks of life. My DD although upset handled it well and kept her head high, I was so proud of her, but my heart broke. I often wondered as a woman with a disability, if I did the right thing having children. I hate to see my DC hurting because their mother has a disability because society still really underneath can't accept disability.