to want DP to ask for a DNA test for his DC?

[SashaFierce99]

DP had three DC when we met who are now aged 10 and DTS aged 8. His wife was unfaithful multiple times throughout their marriage; she has admitted this openly. The children look nothing like DP, each other or our DC together. He hasn't seen them regularly for several years because his ex moves around and refuses to tell him where etc.

Yet he is still paying over £500 p/m maintenance for them. Obviously this would be the right thing to do if they were biologically his or even if he just had a relationship with them, but he has admitted he isn't sure at all that they are actually his and realistically we can't afford to keep applying to the court to find out where the DC are while also paying so much maintenance.

Aibu to think he should ask for a DNA test in these circumstances?

No chips here, just sheer incomprehension at your unpleasant posts.

And to clarify, I know some lovely step mothers, they're in the majority actually but you get the occasional few who are not and they certainly do seem to follow a certain pattern and exhibit similar behaviours.

Some have crap partners/horrid in laws who just chip away at them over time and are really fed up. Some are just plain nasty even though everything else is fine in their life and have no worries at all.

I know which I am. So as much as you think I my posts are just plain unpleasant Nicki, there is a lot more going on than that.

Am I the only one who is wondering where the money for all these DNA tests are going to come from?

I have refused what I see as non necessary tests on my children several times over the years (my oldest is 18 so a far few years now) Not because I have anything to hide but because I do not feel that there is a need for testing for things that we are not concerned about. For DNA testing I know that in the 22 years I have been with dh I have been monogamous I believe he has too. Why would we want a DNA test when we both have this belief? Why would we waste time and money on that?

I do not think it would change the whole baby swap either as in the few cases where that has happened it has been after a day or two so tests would have already been carried out. In fact it may in cases like Rebecca Chittum Conley and Callie Johnson it may have meant they had not found out as Callie's father would have thought the DNA test had been done and he would have believed it to be Callie who had been tested (not Rebecca as it actually would have been)

Am I the only one who is wondering where the money for all these DNA tests are going to come from?

Nope. I think it would be pretty insulting to women to routinely ask them if they'd like to make sure that the man they're saying is the father of their children is actually their dad. It assumes that a large number of women are lying cheats for it to be worthwhile offering the routine DNA tests.

Thought as much.

You're right weather. And those you describe still don't get a free pass to take out their dislike on kids. Direct your frustrations where they should be.