...to hate the way that people talk about "passing"

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It just seems so weird and, dare I say it, fake touchy feely. People now don't seem to say died, they refer to passing. As in, "My grandmother passed last year", or they have both passed now. Why can't people just say she died. I find it very odd, and don't understand when it all started. People would occasionally use "passed away", when I was growing up as a bit of a euphemism - but now it feels as if people are scared to say the word die. AIBU?

Yanbu if anyone says I have passed or passed on or passed away after I'm dead, I will come back and haunt the bastards.

I have a big problem with what you're saying wasonthelist. Now, if you did come back to haunt the bastards then you would not be dead dead, you would have to be passed to do that in which case they would be right.

No?

I doubt my plan will work, but like the op I loathe the various euphemisms.

What is there to "understand" exactly? I loathe people who willfully refuse to accept that dislike isn't a synonym for don't understand.

Yes everyone one day will face death in a friend relative etc

But

We all know one day we will have to bury our parents

No parent should ever have to bury a child

Sadly one day we may have to bury our husband / wife / partner - or they will to us - but we hope not for many years

I didn't expect to be a widow at 37 and have to organise my husbands funeral after being together for 19yrs - I thought we would have another 50yrs together

Whatever words and expressions and beliefs that makes the one left behind cope is their choice

As long as it is not foisted off on everyone else, that is my point. The normalisation of a euphemism is wrong and is just as offensive to some of us.

Agreed Ex

This is the only answer that the OP should have had from everyone on the thread

Well, as this isn't North Korea, other opinions are allowed and have been expressed. That aside it would be a bloody boring thread if everyone has posted usual's only authorised sentence.

I can't believe anyone is still appearing on this thread to be shitty about the language bereaved people choose for themselves.

Some people need to take a long look at themselves and be disgusted at their attitudes.

Why is it so important to you people refrain from using euphemisms?
I genuinely want to know the reason behind it.

Loathe is a very strong feeling, there must be a resume for it.

reason.
sorry!

Why is it wrong?

No, it's not North Korea, which means people are free to continue using whichever euphemisms bring them comfort in times of grieving.

How is that too difficult for some to understand?

I agree with an earlier poster who said that the only one who should be able to dictate how the fact that someone has died is referred is the bereaved person.

It's down to the individual and their own beliefs about death will inform how they use language to frame what has happened and make sense of it.

And for all of you who have loved and lost. The posts referring to children are especially heartbreaking.

Ok, how far beyond the direct relations does this meally-mouthed speak have to be allowed? I only ask, because TV and radio seem to have adopted "passed away/on" as a means of reporting the death of celebs - or is it protect the delicate feelings of the newsreader or something?

As for people saying this shouldn't even be discussed or telljng people who don't like "passed away" to fuck off - no-one is obliged to discuss this.

wasonthelist Have you had to cuddle your dead child?
I will repeat myself and say I like to think my daughter has " gone somewhere nicer" because I believe that. I think we should all be allowed our beliefs. I am not imposing my beliefs on you or anyonee else. My little girl has passed away to somewhere nicer, I couldn't get through the days and nights if I didn't believe that.
Please respect people's grief

I'm saying let's discuss it and I'm asking about the reasons for this strong dislike.

Not seem to be getting any answers though.

I don't like the term "passed away" how is that so difficult for some to understand?

Otilla - the op expalined what they don't like about it in......guess what........the op - and I broadly agree. I'm not trying to dictate or impose anything, just expressing an opinion.