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to think "neighbour" has assaulted my child

719 replies

BubbleBathAddict · 06/02/2016 08:17

Basically my 11 year old son was in a group of school friends yesterday after school. On the way home from the park they played "knock down ginger" -ie they knocked on a couple of front doors quite near us and ran away. Now this is not something I was aware of or would condone, but on the scale of "crime" it's not something to get too excited about.

My son said he did not do the knocking and stayed on the pavement.
At the second house the woman came out and yelled. The boys ran. All of them more quickly than my son it seems. Half way home (a few houses only) he felt someone grab his wrist and the said woman insisted he tell her where he live and frog-marched him home. He was in tears. I was at work, but his dad and older brother were in.

I do not know the woman at all. She apparently said her children were scared. I am pretty furious that she thought it was OK to grab and intimidate a child. That might have been appropriate 40 years ago, but these days touching anyone without consent is battery isn't it?

I don't want to over-react, but will be going over there today. What would you do?

OP posts:
LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 07/02/2016 00:34

This thread has took a much better direction.Grin

bearleftmonkeyright · 07/02/2016 08:51

I saw this on my Facebook feed and thought of this thread

to think "neighbour" has assaulted my child
UnGoogleable · 07/02/2016 10:31

Well this thread has developed an interesting twist!

Andfaraway · 07/02/2016 11:35

That might have been appropriate 40 years ago, but these days touching anyone without consent is battery isn't it?

Well, you know, "Knock down ginger" might have been appropriate 40 years ago, but these days it's anti-social behaviour.

YABU. Tell your son off, and leave it.

Viviennemary · 07/02/2016 11:42

She should just have reported it to the police. Then perhaps your son would have ended up with a criminal record if this anti social behaviour continues.

ohmywhatamisaying · 07/02/2016 13:27

Poor love, OP. Nasty neighbours and nasty MNers. Have a cuppa tea and a Biscuit

Samaritan1 · 07/02/2016 13:38

She was right to come to your house and complain- your son should be disciplined - by you, not by her.

She let her anger get the better of her and grabbed a child. That's not acceptable imo. But seems like I'm in the minority here as most seem to think it would be perfectly fine for a stranger to grab hold of their child Shock

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 07/02/2016 20:29

You're sounding even more of a Silly Billy now OP. Or a Goady Fucker....

AcrossthePond55 · 07/02/2016 20:53

Aidan Darling, how did random MNers get hold of our 'secret snaps' Grin

I'm saving all my advice for a few years down the line when OP starts a thread titled "Help, I cannot control my out of control teenager!!".

sugar21 · 07/02/2016 21:45

Excuse me AcrossThePond
Aidan and I are an item.

fastdaytears · 07/02/2016 21:50

Did none of your mums teach you to share?

Catsize · 07/02/2016 21:51

Apologised yet?

Catsize · 07/02/2016 21:52

And to the none-assaulting victims too?

AcrossthePond55 · 07/02/2016 22:19

Hmmm, Sugar. I wonder which one of us is he two-timing with the other? One of us will need to start an 'Aidan Turner's OW' thread. Grin

Jaysus, that man is FINE!

sugar21 · 07/02/2016 22:25

Well lets just say I live in Cornwall (actually true) so I have better access when he is filming. Some of Poldark was filmed not many miles from where I live.

AcrossthePond55 · 07/02/2016 22:29

Well, shit, I guess you win this round. But if he ever comes to Hollywood, he's MINE!

landrover · 07/02/2016 22:30

Boring!

sugar21 · 07/02/2016 22:33

Ok we'll share Grin

kali110 · 07/02/2016 22:34

Floggingmolly i don't mind the new ones, except the size!
How dare they make them smaller Angry

Samcro · 07/02/2016 22:39

years ago(well he is in his 20's now) ds did NDG.....the bloke came out and all the kids ran....ds ran home....as you do
as our house was nearest bloke saw where he went....so knocked on door and complained. he was most upset as it was early in the morning, it was 9.30
I told ds off.....I also spoke to the other parents so they knew.

but I did say to dh(after I had said sorry and bloke had gone) that omg I wish I was still in bed at 9.30....
but i still said sorry and told ds off

AcrossthePond55 · 07/02/2016 22:41

You got a deal. Grin

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/02/2016 22:53

I love the way there are three, completely separate discussions going on in this thread! More of a skein than a thread. Grin

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 07/02/2016 23:06

Scattergun approach Better

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/02/2016 23:15

Three for the price of one, Bob!

toconclude · 08/02/2016 23:02

As someone whose DH was arrested, and convicted, of assaulting a young teen (in fact I am 100% certain he was telling the truth to say he never touched her, but she and her friend outright lied for her in court) who threw stones at our disabled son, and were reacting to him trying to call the cops, you and your son should be ashamed of yourselves.

ASHAMED. Parenting fail.