giving a baby a biscuit

[Lolly1984]

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

TheCatsMeow

people around me who care about their kids diet seem to have healthy and happy kids, with great teeth, and an active and successful lifestyle when they are grown-up. It's the opposite who seem to struggle in life

Alice

You can care about your kids diet without getting neurotic over one shortbread.

i am not skinny thing believe me but my 3 sons are .

But Cats - the OP didn't overreact with her colleague. She's gone home, quietly fumed, and ranted on here with other ranters and fumers. Her colleague probably knows nothing about it.

Hopefully, OP will have learned enough to mention the episode to anyone in the future, with regard to a possible allergy/intolerance. So that's a good thing, surely?

I agree with telling someone looking after your child about any allergies and if there anything you don't want them to do. I admit it's a bit odd to give them a biscuit but they weren't to know.

I used to get (inwardly) annoyed at baby group when the same person would bring biscuits every week and turn into mrs doyle, are you sure he doesn't want one? oh go on go on go on go on...

my problem is with the feeding, regardless of what it is simply because of the mess that follows. DS at that age would get so messy turning anything handed to him into mush which would get everywhere - less in mouth more in hair, if you're out and about for a few hours it was just easier to save the messy snacks for at home.

Yeah but to even think that Evan is indicative of someone who takes this way too far.

Good god! It's one biscuit!

Do people really, honestly get so bloody worked up over a biscuit?!

I must be in the minority then - I couldn't give two shits if someone gives my DDs a biscuit,crisps, chocolate etc - their diet is great so the occasional treat really won't hurt.

I'm with you, what.

'people around me who care about their kids diet seem to have healthy and happy kids, with great teeth, and an active and successful lifestyle when they are grown-up. It's the opposite who seem to struggle in life'

Yes because it's all or nothing isn't it? And giving a biscuit demonstrates a total disregard for a child's diet and future career prospects.

What I agree too

Oh and Alice, one of the most ridiculous statements I've ever read on here, and that's saying something.

Here you are, have a and unclench a bit

Fuming over now, baby still crying but had a little sleep so I regained some sanity. If I cant vent on here where can I?! Surely that's the point of it? Certainly made me feel better! And he'll survive another day which has got to be the goal surely?!
Thankyou to the nice supportive people

fighting urge to put another facetious comment just to wind people up!

Did you give her anything to help occupy your baby? Perhaps your baby was getting a bit restless and she thought it would distract him. Thank your lucky stars it wasn't an old school rusk now they are full of sugar! I have to admit I wouldn't give someone else's baby food without discussion. There are so many allergies I just wouldn't want to risk it!

I would have expected someone - almost a stranger - to give my baby anything to soothe her, if they were kind enough to look after her. Why didn't you arrange proper childcare? If you don't do that, then you don't really have a leg to stand on.

And I don't think you were being sarcastic about her being obese, until you were castigated for it; I think you said it was sarcastic just to get yourself out of a hole.

People who don't want others to feed their babies unnecessary junk should let those people know that the unnecessary junk is unwelcome, before buggering off and leaving them with said babies

I would agree

except we are talking 15 mins here.

I'm genuinely curios as to why people think the only way to soothe or occupy babies or chikdren is to feed them.

the obvious thing to do if baby became distressed was to hand back to mother. it was an informal. meeting after all and the intention was clearly to take baby with her.

for long periods of time obviously it becomes necessary to leave a few instructions. however there is some tbing wrong with a person who can't last 15ims around a baby without feeding them.

I prefer when people bring puppies into work.

funnily enough mitzy people are usually in agreement that you don't feed other people's dogs.

OMG no Mitzy - I can't bear it when people give my puppies biscuits.

the reasons fir that are exactly the same as in babies

special diets
weight control
suitable foods

etc

Mitzy - I was joking don't have a puppy

Lolly, I think you are probably feeling guilty that you asked someone to look after your child within telling them about their allergy - lesson learned and you will be more careful in future.

It's not your nice colleague's fault though.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow

If you were so certain feeding your kids crisps, biscuits, chocolate was so good for them, you wouldn't be so defensive.

You do sound awfully bitter and/or confrontational, I hope this year will be better for you and you can lighten up.

'funnily enough mitzy people are usually in agreement that you don't feed other people's dogs.'

Where did I mention feeding dogs?

All I said was that I prefer a puppy visitor to a baby visitor.

Oh Alice you are making a tit of yourself.

I know,

I do too

But it just reminded me that actually The opposite of what is being said on this thread would he true if a person had brought in a dog.despite the reasons being the same.

it's very interesting I think. you may not agree