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giving a baby a biscuit

359 replies

Lolly1984 · 02/02/2016 14:43

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

OP posts:
MazzleDazzle · 02/02/2016 15:25

It's not normal to give a 7 month old baby a biscuit when you're left alone with them, no.

I can understand why you're miffed.

maybebabybee · 02/02/2016 15:25

MN is so fucking weird. No one I know IRL gives a shit about their child eating the odd biscuit Confused

They're all normal sized people with normal sized children.

ElderlyKoreanLady · 02/02/2016 15:26

Seems so Mutton. I'll bring the cake, shall I?

Alicewasinwonderland · 02/02/2016 15:26

If a woman is obese, it means she is eating a very unhealthy diet. I wouldn't want my kids to be anywhere near that.

Many people seem happy to give sugar to babies. It's sad, but now you know that if you are trying to keep him healthy, you have to be firm. No, one biscuit is not the end of the world, but I wouldn't want my kids to taste unhealthy food too early. They don't miss what they don't know, and are happy with healthy homemade treat until they to to school.

maybebabybee · 02/02/2016 15:26

Wow just seen your comment about her being morbidly obese. Are you really that thick that you think your child will end up likewise because she gave him a bit of biscuit?!

MuttonDressedAsMutton · 02/02/2016 15:27

I've just had a quick squizz at OP's posting history - such as it is - and I am interested to note that she is certainly no Kate Moss herself. Grin

DustOffYourHighestHopes · 02/02/2016 15:27

I'm on OP's side.

7 months is early in the weaning journey. Both my babies might have gagged (possibly choked) at that stage as they weren't great at hard food.

The colleague was only looking after the babies for a short time. Absolutely no need to give the baby a snack.

I'm fairly strict with what my kids eat, as they get older they get more choices and more responsiblity. But it's a totally reasonable position to restrict sugar while they are developing their early tastebuds, likes and dislikes.

All grandparents check with me before giving my children snacks. Not because it's 'crack cocaine' but because they're my children, they're very young, and I'm responsible for their routines and their upbringing.

maybebabybee · 02/02/2016 15:28

Alice you don't let any obese people near your children? Wtf?

My beloved granddad was obese. I spent loads of time with him and learnt no bad eating habits. Thanks very much.

DustOffYourHighestHopes · 02/02/2016 15:29

OP hasn't been at all rude. She didn't say anything to her colleague. It's not rude at all to anonymously vent when she gets home.

lardyscouse · 02/02/2016 15:29

[I wouldn't want my kids to be anywhere near that.]

THAT? If you are overweight do you not even have the right to be called, 'them', or 'her', but only THAT?

DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 02/02/2016 15:29

OMG a fat person gave your son a biscuit!? You do know when he grows up he's going to be really fat now don't you..... Biscuit

Alicewasinwonderland · 02/02/2016 15:30

I wouldn't want my kids to be anywhere near that

By THAT, I meant the "unhealthy diet", not the person

Obviously? Confused

chibsortig · 02/02/2016 15:31

When is it age appropriate to taste unhealthy food? Fuck i dont even know what unhealthy food it, food is food all of it in moderation is nice.

What do people on MN feed their kids?

TomHaverford · 02/02/2016 15:31

If a woman is obese, it means she is eating a very unhealthy diet. I wouldn't want my kids to be anywhere near that.

If you are making comments like that, it means that you are stupid. I wouldn't want my kids to be anywhere near that.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 15:32

*Today 15:25 maybebabybee

MN is so fucking weird. No one I know IRL gives a shit about their child eating the odd biscuit confused*

They're all normal sized people with normal sized children.

Lol this is exactly the kind of thread I was referring to when I said MN is very middle class and precious.

It's weird isn't it.

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NiNoKuni · 02/02/2016 15:33

I'm a fat mum. I regularly hook my 7mo DS up to an intravenous lard drip before bathing him in gravy. Obvs. Hmm

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 15:33

Shes massively obese so maybe that's why I bothered me

Yawn.

maybebabybee · 02/02/2016 15:33

So you would basically say a fat person was not allowed to eat around your child, yes?

NickyEds · 02/02/2016 15:34

What do people on MN feed their kids?

Organic whole foods. Homemade onesWink. Definitely not biscuits. Or cereal.

maybebabybee · 02/02/2016 15:35

Yy chibs. I don't understand this mentality of avoid this, avoid that. Everything in moderation, what's wrong with that?!

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 15:35

I personally would never give a baby/child anything to eat without first checking with the parent/carer.

It's always - 'let's ask Mummy (or whoever) first' here.
I could say it's because of DD's allergies and I'm probably more aware of dietary needs, but actually it's not. I've never given any child anything without first checking. It's just being safe, and also respectful to that parent.

PecanSandy · 02/02/2016 15:36

I can't believe so many people think it's OK to feed someone else's ba by without asking. And 7 month olds do not need to be eating biscuits. They're not crack cocaine but there's just no need to be shoving sugar at them. I'd be annoyed too. It shows a lack of common sense.

MuttonDressedAsMutton · 02/02/2016 15:36

I'm a fat mum. I regularly hook my 7mo DS up to an intravenous lard drip before bathing him in gravy. Obvs Grin Grin

I find a white bread rub followed by a custard poultice most useful too! Grin

NickyEds · 02/02/2016 15:38

I don't think everyone's saying it's ok as such. More that being "fuming" at a colleague giving a baby a piece of short bread whilst doing you a favour is, perhaps a bit over the top.

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