giving a baby a biscuit

[Lolly1984]

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

Oh, crying laughing! 😂😂

Alice let's be best friends!

I too would be fuming op, this used to happen to ds with at a playgroup which wound up each session with a circle time song and chocolate button white, so obviously suited to those under 12mths that would be popped into ds mouth which I was not quick enough to intercept the first time.

I dare say to those who think it will do no harm that I was being very ott and pfb about but it is a choice parents make for their own reasons.

I don't think anyone should feed a 7mth old with anything that has not been provided by the parents of said child.

Alice have a chocolate and calm down:

One chocolate button?! For gods sake.

I don't feed people's dogs or babies unless requested and given instructions. But someone giving a baby or a puppy a biscuit is doing it with a kind intention. Not worth getting angry about, just ask them not to do it again.

If the baby had been given a Bonio on the other hand!

'I was not quick enough to intercept the first time.'

I'm picturing you in slow-mo diving to your baby's mouth to nab the offending item and baby thinking 'too late mother dearest, this chocolate badboy is all mine!'

Wow mn def not the real world.
Thankgod i don't know some of you nasty judgmental lot

alice you do know some people but on weight because of illness/disabilities and not from eating crap don't you?

Op yabu,next time watch your own kid.

Oh I agree that the intention was to be kind. and the colleague wasn't trying to hurt the baby. and thankfully no serious reaction occurred.

I'm genuinely interested though in why people constantly feed other people's children and the thought process of " they are a baby cab they really have this" just isn't there.

I remember a thread on here about someone MIL who was obsessed with the baby eating chocolate.

it reminded me of how as soon as dd1 was sat up in the buggy peolel would occasionally place 50p in her hand saying " you get yourself some sweets"

of course I always smiled and said thank you as I know people mean no harm and I wouldn't want to upset them.by going off on one.

bit it does seem a fairly common occurrence that as soon as you have a baby people are waiting like vultures with chocolate dipped fingers ready the second you pass the baby around.

dd2 was milk intolerant and so I was that "oh no you can't give her that" parent and it's exhausting to have to keep telling people and really you do wonder why when someone's holding the baby so you cab pee that you have to yell them.becuase teh first thing people seem to want to do is give sweets and biscuits and cake

I also have to deal with family who years on still seem obsessed with feeding up my children

Perhaps the work colleague just thought oh shit this baby needs distracting whilst I do my work, what have I got in an office that is suitable, ahh yes shortbread that's a bit like a rusk, here you go baby.

I'm baffled at people's shock to giving a baby a biscuit, like it's poison. Yes I know some children have severe intolerances, and for some children it can be really dangerous, but then the OP should have said first. She should be more annoyed with herself as opposed to colleague who was just trying to be helpful!

Sadly Mitzy that is exactly what it was like ds was in heaven and sadly I did feel like flood gate of empty calorie food damnation had been momentarily unleashed.

But seriously I don't get the mentality of people offering crap food usually my favourite kind to babies...

Idefix maybe those people are capable of realising one chocolate button isn't poison

Well I think YANBU I wouldn't be happy either.

My reflect 8 month old DS is only just on 2 meals a day, a sugary biscuit with lots of additives no thank you and I don't care if I'm being precious about it.

Refluxy not reflect

My baby has reflux and allergies too and providing there's nothing he's allergic to in it I'm perfectly happy for him to have "additives". They're you know, safe.

At seven months old, the baby could be intolerant to certain foodstuffs without the parents even knowing yet, as that baby is still being weaned and all foods are being watched and regulated.

It is bizarre to give a baby something to eat without first checking with the parent. Not even so much to do with the unwanted sugar - something could contain an allergen. (I speak as a parent with a child with allergies, having witnessed said child in Intensive Care on a ventilator, having had a reaction to something we didn't know she was allergic to).

And even though you tell people of the allergies once you know of them, many people will still offer foods containing said allergens. PILs still give DD chocolates containing nuts. Friends have had bowls of peanuts at social functions and offered them to DD.

A 7-month old baby may have allergies/intolerances of which even the parents are not yet aware.
Don't give a baby/young child something to eat without checking with the parent first. It's not so much to do with the sugar, even though some posters appear to find this hilarious - giving something unexpected to a baby or child could have far worse consequences than the prospect of a sweet tooth.

Now to go off on a tangent, I would have had no problem with a biscuit, however my DS would have got terribly constipated by the banana.

Silly over weight colleague should have just given the baby a stapler to play with, so much safer than a biscuit

Evan if they're allergic what difference does it make who gives it? If you don't know, you don't know.

maybe those people are capable of realising one chocolate button isn't poison

Yet ... it could be.

No you don't know, but I can imagine it's hard to track down what the reaction was to, if people have given things without your knowledge.

Was that directed to me TheCats?

How do you know what additives set my DS reflux off? They may be 'safe' for your child but not mine.

Yes at what Evans has said. I am being ever so careful with what DS eats. I do the 3 day method when introducing food. When I first started weaning I gave DS a simple fruit puree by Cow&Gate not knowing his reflux would be horrific due to the added vitamin c (ascorbic acid) which is in so many processed foods.

I just wouldn't offer a baby any food but then saying that I don't know what I would have been like pre DS.

Cats - babies are rarely out of sight of their parents/responsible carer. If the parent is watching what their baby eats and sees a reaction whilst baby is in their sight, they are pretty much going to know what caused the reaction and act accordingly. Someone random popping something into baby's mouth might go unnoticed.

I feel you are being a little obtuse.

But again, it's annoying but people don't mean any harm and it is difficult to our restrictions on things without people thinking your crazy.

but as odd as an OTT reaction to a biscuit is

I just find it equally odd that people seem to want to feed babies stuff as soon as they hold them or spend time with them.

My baby has reflux and allergies too and providing there's nothing he's allergic to in it I'm perfectly happy for him to have "additives".

The person looking after OPs baby didn't go and ask her with the biscuit and the packet with ingredients on did they?

Agree Giles
PILs 'never meant any harm' when offering nuts to DD - but they could have killed her. They wouldn't have intended to though, so that's okay.