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Original poster

giving a baby a biscuit

359 replies

Lolly1984 · 02/02/2016 14:43

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

OP posts:
EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 03/02/2016 17:26

11 and 362 year old
Not a 362 year old.

So what is a 362 year old when it's not a 362 year old?

coconutpie · 03/02/2016 17:26

TheCatsMeow - if OP doesn't want her baby having anything sweet, then that is her choice. Why are you constantly going on about that? It is her choice as a parent what her baby eats. Just because you think it is ok, doesn't mean it is ok in general nor is it PFB. It is the parent's decision.

coconutpie · 03/02/2016 17:28

Stranger things have happened, TheCatsMeow! All too often you hear of people feeding babies inappropriate foods just because the baby looks "interested". They are interested in everything you are doing at that age. Colleague should have taken biscuit and banana off the baby. Anyway it sounds like colleague actually gave them to the baby? That's the impression I got.

TheCatsMeow · 03/02/2016 17:28

An 11 and 362 year old. Someone who is 11 and 362 days. Not two separate people...

coconut because it's stupid and PFB! "My baby has only organic home grown brocolli and carrot, BLW of course and only drinks pure coiled filtered water from BPA free bottles, now excuse me while I go weave a kimono out of granola"

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 03/02/2016 17:30

Maybe the person was eating and the baby grabbed it? Maybe the person had it out and the baby looked interested?
I doubt she just randomly gave it to the baby

So now we have a Ninja baby, grabbing food out of people's hands because it might look interesting. Thank goodness that person wasn't smoking an interesting cigarette at the time ...

TheCatsMeow · 03/02/2016 17:30

Boiled

TheCatsMeow · 03/02/2016 17:31

Evan

Smoking a cigarette while holding a baby would be ridiculous

A biscuit is not a cigarette, they're not even both foods

Muskateersmummy · 03/02/2016 17:31

If I'm honest, had I have gone into my office, and asked a colleague to look after my child, I would have given her the changing bag, said "she won't need anything but if she gets fussy give her x y or z. Oh and she had an allergy so by all means give her one of the snacks from the bag. I'll only be gone 15 mins" Maybe that means I am a "helicopter parent" or suffer with the PFB thing. But I really don't think people hand over a 7mo without any info about them at all ?

boatrace30 · 03/02/2016 17:33

YANBU I have an 8month old and wouldn't think to say "don't feed my baby". I'd assume they wouldn't! Way too young and lots of 7month olds only on purees too and couldn't cope with a biscuit.

TheCatsMeow · 03/02/2016 17:34

Musk id have done that too. I just usually say "he's allergic to dairy so be careful if you give him anything, it's hidden in things!"

Amazingly no ones given him something he's allergic to.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 03/02/2016 17:36

A biscuit is not a cigarette, they're not even both foods

Interesting to a baby, nonetheless. And it would have to be a very fast baby to grab a biscuit from someone's hand and eat it unchallenged, I'm sure you'd agree.

Original poster
Lolly1984 · 03/02/2016 17:38

I didn't ask, she offered, he was in his pushchair and i might have said he won't need anything,I cant remember. I did say come and get me if u need anything, I was only next door for 15mins ffs! Anyway, I'm over it now. And fyi I would have been pissed off if its been anything solid

OP posts:
EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 03/02/2016 17:39

Amazingly no ones given him something he's allergic to

Less amazingly, someone gave something to my DD that she IS allergic to, despite repeated warnings. Doesn't make me all 'Mad PFB Lol', just cautious and careful. Smile

TheCatsMeow · 03/02/2016 17:44

Evan I'm not saying unchallenged I'm saying that might be why she gave it him

That's ridiculous to give her something when you've told them

bruffin · 03/02/2016 17:44

Coconut
If she is a grandms then she wont be up to date with the current craze on weaning
Weaning never used to be pfb. It was just coming in when dc were weaning but they are now realising it is wrong ie the results of the LEAP study.

Muskateersmummy · 03/02/2016 17:45

evans I think someone giving something they are allergic to after being told not to is totally different to leaving a child with someone else looking after them and not mentioning, then being annoyed/upset they gave them something.

In your circumstance you have every right to be pee'd off!

TheCatsMeow · 03/02/2016 17:46

bruffin it is a new thing isn't it.

My mum gave me baby rice at 8 weeks, people would have a fit at that now. Smile

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 03/02/2016 17:56

My mum gave me baby rice at 8 weeks, people would have a fit at that now

Yes they would, because research has moved on, and we now know that babies' digestive systems haven't yet fully developed, and are not ready for solids until around the age of 6 months.

When my DC were little, the advice then was 4 months for baby rice.

MiL often laughs at how she very nearly killed one of her babies by putting Horlicks into his bottle at the age of one month, and not understanding why he didn't wake up for hours and hours. Confused

Thank goodness we are now better educated, eh?

TheCatsMeow · 03/02/2016 18:04

Evans there's such a thing as over thinking it, and I think weaning is in that state today. People are PFB and worry about it when in reality they need to relax.

Out2pasture · 03/02/2016 18:06

The OP was more than happy to pawn her baby off while visiting with her colleagues; no instructions or snack given. She is being very unreasonable.

bruffin · 03/02/2016 18:08

Evans,
The stomach is ready at 4 months see the espghan paperand the EAT study is introducing food at 3 months.

icysphincterporn · 03/02/2016 18:13

Do you know what? I love babies and little children but I've never felt the urge to feed another person's child when I've spent a short period of time with them. If there was a box of biscuits on the table, I might think "oh I wonder if child would like one?" but I would always ask the parent first. I thought this meant I was pretty normal.

boatrace30 · 03/02/2016 18:26

icys it does!

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 03/02/2016 18:59

If your baby has come out in spots she has an intolerance, not an allergy. And it was very, very irresponsible of you to leave her with someone and not mention it!

coconutpie · 03/02/2016 19:24

Bruffin, the WHO recommend waiting until 6mo as their tummies aren't mature enough til then. I'll take advice from them rather than some random other study that the WHO do not endorse.

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