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giving a baby a biscuit

359 replies

Lolly1984 · 02/02/2016 14:43

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

OP posts:
MitzyLeFrouf · 02/02/2016 16:05

'Now we do have choice, so it is a good thing, surely, to respect the choices of those trying to raise their children on a healthy diet???'

Which is why the OP should have piped up and said 'oh if you don't mind I'd rather he wasn't given sugary things, oh and he has a dairy allergy' rather than pointlessly saying nothing and then going home to fume.

MySordidCakeSecret · 02/02/2016 16:05

It's just a biscuit, calm down. My 9month old loves the odd malted milk or custard cream.

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/02/2016 16:07

Which is why the OP should have piped up and said'oh if you don't mind I'd rather he wasn't given sugary things, oh and he has a dairy allergy' rather than pointlesslysaying nothingand then going home to fume

she was gone 15 mins. can people not cope that long without feeing another person's baby.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 16:07

the only family I know who care about this sort of stuff (sugar, screens, overly obsessive and protective) have adult children who are so cocooned they have no social skills and can't cope without their parents.

Can't stand that kind of parenting. I usually subscribe to everyone's different but that is so unfair to the kids

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 16:07

But one wouldn't normally expect someone else to randomly give their baby a shortbread biscuit. Confused

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone · 02/02/2016 16:08

Yabu, it's not the end of the world, she was being nice

NiNoKuni · 02/02/2016 16:09

Only if you replace the inevitable raspberry coulis with a drizzle of enriched goose fat - or motor oil for the truly avant garde!

Ooo, and perhaps a cheese food slice wrap? Does wonders for the skin.

IHaveBrilloHair · 02/02/2016 16:09

Has anyone called 101 to have this logged?

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 16:09

Cats - my DC are now young adults (in their 20's) and have excellent social skills.
Neither of them have a particularly sweet tooth.
Your point is ??

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 16:11

Has anyone called 101 to have this logged?

Grin Any minute now ... Smile

MitzyLeFrouf · 02/02/2016 16:11

But one wouldn't normally expect someone else to randomly give their baby a shortbread biscuit

And likewise one wouldn't normally expect someone to 'fume' and rant on the internet because someone gave their baby a biscuit.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 16:12

Evan that people who get irate about someone giving their baby a shortbread are usually over protective precious types

MackerelOfFact · 02/02/2016 16:12

You left him with a colleague in an office rather than arranging actual childcare. There are only so many things you can entertain a baby with in an office. If a biscuit was the only thing to keep him quiet and stop disrupting the entire office full of people trying to work, then I don't think you have much to moan about.

Want proper childcare, arrange proper childcare. Want your baby to play with biros and get fed biscuits, leave it in an office with a colleague.

hefzi · 02/02/2016 16:13

People on MN fume so easily - I definitely think this world is full of angry people Grin

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 16:14

And likewise one wouldn't normally expect someone to 'fume' and rant on the internet because someone gave their baby a biscuit.

I'd actually think that would be the PERFECT thing to do. Therapy!

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 16:15

Cats - people who get irate about someone giving their baby a shortbread are usually over protective precious types

Not necessarily so - simply parents who don't want other people feeding their babies unnecessary junk.

MitzyLeFrouf · 02/02/2016 16:17

Fuming on the internet isn't therapy. From my vast MN knowledge it seems as though people just end up fuming themselves into an even fumier fume.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 16:19

Now I don'[t agree, Mitzy. I can fume on here, then go away feeling far less fumier.

I'm feeling it now - I'm actually chuckling Grin

Need to eat a shortbread biscuit, possibly even a banana

Xmasbaby11 · 02/02/2016 16:19

She was looking after him. You should have told her about the allergy and any rules about food. She's not a mind reader! YBU.

IHaveBrilloHair · 02/02/2016 16:19

I can barely function, never mind fumey, fume, fume all day.

SanityClause · 02/02/2016 16:19

It's fine to be mildly annoyed, mostly at yourself, though, for not mentioning the allergy situation.

The advice to wean at 6 months is relatively recent - when DD1 (16) was a baby, it was 4-6 months. So, many people wouldn't even think twice about giving a 7mo a biscuit.

YABU to be fuming, and fairly PFB.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 16:20

Evan but it's an overreaction. If you overreact like that you're probably precious IMO

JeanGenie23 · 02/02/2016 16:20

In short yes YABU.

You should have said baby had an intolerance and then colleague wouldn't have given them a biscuit. Or in an ideal world you would have had a more appropriate snack for them. You were in an office, baby was probably disrupting the day slightly and a shortbread biscuit helped. Next time keep baby with you or don't take them

ChineseDragonLady · 02/02/2016 16:21

Biscuits at that age is ridiculously foolish, I know of a baby who died choking on a biscuit. My own DD nearly choked when DH gave her a biscuit at about 18 months old.

SanityClause · 02/02/2016 16:22

People who don't want others to feed their babies unnecessary junk should let those people know that the unnecessary junk is unwelcome, before buggering off and leaving them with said babies.