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giving a baby a biscuit

359 replies

Lolly1984 · 02/02/2016 14:43

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

OP posts:
Alicewasinwonderland · 02/02/2016 15:39

I don't understand this mentality of avoid this, avoid that. Everything in moderation, what's wrong with that?!

some people prefer not to give sugar, salt, cafeine, fizzy drinks and processed food to a baby. Even in moderation. How weird.

ToffeeForEveryone · 02/02/2016 15:39

YANBU. If you had been leaving him for half an hour or so and it was likely he would be getting hungry / need fed, then fair enough you should have mentioned about the allergy.

If she was just holding him for 10-15 minutes whilst you had a quick chat with your boss, you wouldn't normally expect to need to tell someone not to feed a young baby anything without checking first. Bizarre behaviour by colleague.

PecanSandy · 02/02/2016 15:40

No. Fuming totally appropriate.

rumbleinthrjungle · 02/02/2016 15:41

Not sure why anyone would think it ok to hand food to a child without first checking with the parent, particularly a seven month old baby. I thought it was basic to not accidentally poisoning a child with an allergy as well as basic courtesy to a parent, but clearly I'm weird. Hmm

merrygoround51 · 02/02/2016 15:41

Its a biscuit, not crack.

MitzyLeFrouf · 02/02/2016 15:42

'Fuming' over this is laughable. Just remember in future to let people know that you don't want him having sugar or dairy. Or look after your own baby if you're going to get so bent out of shape over trivial things

And as for 'Shes massively obese so maybe that's why I bothered me :p'

Do try not to be such a colossal knob in future.

Original poster
Lolly1984 · 02/02/2016 15:42

Sarcasm doesn't translate thro text. It has nothing to do with her being fat, (i am obese,) was being facetious. Some people, gosh!

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maybebabybee · 02/02/2016 15:43

Crap, better go remove the coffee filled bottle from DS's little hands then.

And the salt from his chips.

rolls eyes

NiNoKuni · 02/02/2016 15:43

I find a white bread rub followed by a custard poultice most useful too!

Then a sprinkling of popping candy for that poncy chef touch Grin

goodnightdarthvader1 · 02/02/2016 15:46

Facetious.

Uh-huh, sure.

Maybe your baby started fussing and she wasn't sure what to do, so offered food. If you're leaving your baby for your colleague to look after (who presumably has work to do), and your baby has an allergy, you mention it to them.

Fuming. My god.

chibsortig · 02/02/2016 15:47

People seem to be scared of food now theres plenty of it about.
Years ago no one would have battered an eyelid at a baby being given a biscuit.
I see the allergy issue but you should have told your colleague.
People like to give babies and other people food, all over the world food is a communal thing it brings people together only here do we have people fuming over a biscuit and a banana.

Janeymoo50 · 02/02/2016 15:47

Ooooh fat colleague gave my baby a biscuit!!! Call the police now. You should have left something for him instead. Don't be so mean.

MuttonDressedAsMutton · 02/02/2016 15:50

Then a sprinkling of popping candy for that poncy chef touch

Grin

Only if you replace the inevitable raspberry coulis with a drizzle of enriched goose fat - or motor oil for the truly avant garde! Grin

Pantone363 · 02/02/2016 15:50

She's just trying to make him fat so she doesn't feel bad about herself. Its a fat people thing. They want us all like them OP. What a bitch

Pidapie · 02/02/2016 15:51

Whilst I agree with you that 7 month old babies shouldn't at all have biscuits, I think you're reaction is way OTT. If she'd been smoking a cigarette and blowing it in your baby's face for fun or something like that, I'd understand "fuming".

PurpleTreeFrog · 02/02/2016 15:53

In ye olden days people thought nothing of giving children the occasional biscuit, happily dined on bread dunked in lard, had jam sandwiches for lunch etc, now it's all considered terribly unhealthy, yet we have far more obese and diabetic children and adults these days... I echo earlier comments about moderation.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 15:55

purple exactly

MuttonDressedAsMutton · 02/02/2016 15:57

Purple - bloody exactly!

PiperChapstick · 02/02/2016 15:59

I only like it when thin people give my child a biscuit. Fat people offend my precious eyes and if they so much as looked at my baby I'd thump them. Fucking cheeky bastards, the nerve of some people being fat

BTW I hope you're proud OP to receive my first ever Biscuit - I'm so pleased I can do this in an ironic way!

lastqueenofscotland · 02/02/2016 15:59

three cheers for purple.

Im in my mid twenties and i used to be allowed shock... coke with my evening meal.
I also used to only otherwise drink ribena, be allowed sweets and biscuits, have jam sandwiches for lunch.
and my parents are doctors
Never overweight or even close, now in my mid twenties, healthy, slim and running 50 miles a week. I actually think having some access to these foods is healthy as it teaches you to eat them in moderation rather than spending years wondering and marvelling at how amazing they must be and overeating them when you get the chance.

slithytove · 02/02/2016 16:01

With pfb, I wouldn't have been happy.
With dd2 - I'd have been thrilled to have 15 minutes away from her, regardless of what she was being fed!

You aren't being unreasonable but it's not a big problem and probably worth letting go.

PiperChapstick · 02/02/2016 16:01

lastqueen you run 50 miles a week Shock
I ran 50 steps the other day catching a train and I swear my organs nearly fell out with the distress of it all

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 16:01

Purple* - with respect, in ye olden days there wasn't a great deal of choice for the masses. They ate what they could afford and get their hands on. And people did die at a much younger age way back then.

Now we do have choice, so it is a good thing, surely, to respect the choices of those trying to raise their children on a healthy diet???

So on the one hand you're criticising the person not wanting her child to be fed an unhealthy biscuit, yet on the other you are criticising the general British public for being overweight and barely surviving on an unhealthy, modern-day diet.

Which should it be?

NinjaClaws · 02/02/2016 16:01

One shortbread biscuit and you're fuming? You're clearly bonkers!

If you'd have left the baby with me when I was working (pre-kids), he'd have probably been sat in the waste paper basket upon your return as I wouldn't have had a clue what to do with him.
I think you should be grateful she was willing to look after him, to be honest.

Nowadays, I'd probably just say 'no thanks, I'm too busy working'.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 02/02/2016 16:04

(PS - I am overweight, just to be clear) My Mum was a one for pies and dripping on toast Smile